I keep getting pressure from my family to lose weight for my wedding. It's Novmber 15th- so I only have about 110 days or so, and I'm freaking out.
I think I'm pretty, and so do my friends and fiance- but my family keeps telling me how I'd 'look so much better if I lost about 15 pounds.'
It makes me feel like a cow. This has been an ongoing issue since I was about 12 or 13. I was never overweight at that time- but I am definitely built stockier than my mother and grandmother. My granny had a 17 inch waist when she married, and my mom was exceptionally naturally thin too. When I see pictures of them from their youth, even at age 3 I'm just built differently from them- they are naturally slim, and I'm naturally a bit chubby. I'm 5 foot 1 but super busty- which my grandmother loves to criticize as she hates big breasts.
I DID gain too much weight about 6 years ago- but have since lost 25 pounds and am healthy again.
I was feeling so confident, and even my doctor was like 'well done! You're at a great weight again!'
But that's just not enough for my family.
I keep asking them to stop pressuring me to lose weight, but they just won't stop.
They sometimes try to be 'subtle' by saying that THEY need to lose weight for the wedding. "I'm just so fat, and want to look good in the photos." or "Let's work out together! I want to be slim for the wedding! Photos add ten pounds!"
I just don't know how to make it stop, but at this point I'm getting depressed- and when I'm depressed I stress eat- making me gain extra pounds I'll be criticized over.
I'm just getting seriously down and am at a loss as to how to stop them, other than lose a ton of weight.
Any advice would be great!
I know I'm being a bit of a 'woe is me' bride to be- but feh, this IS the wedding woes forum.