Kissing Jar/Donations

theexactlee

@MagicInk just made me do the ugly laugh, that was hysterical. And I have never heard her compare the dollar dance to a strip club but I am absolutely going to use that.

I just get tired of people pushing their charities on me. Charity is a personal thing. We have a charity we donate money and time to that revolves around our son's physical disability. We would never ask you to donate. However we have a friend that is constantly doing Facebook grups and fundraisers and this and that and group emails to get people on board to help with her numerous charities. OMG STOP!

downtondiva

I remember first hearing of doing things to get the newlyweds to kiss at weddings (clinking glasses, etc.) when I was a kid. I thought it was terrible then and I think it's terrible now. Kiss your husband when you want to, not because your friends are making you. This isn't middle school. 

As for the charity thing, not only do I think this should be a more personal thing as some PP's have said, but I also don't like the idea of turning any sort of illness, tragedy, etc. into a corny wedding day gimmick. 

Ndelible

I always think that ppl should give to charities of their choice. Even if you think a charity is not controversial, as a PP pointed out, some ppl will research and wonder about the level of donations that actually go to the cause. Last year, for work, we were offered a great two day event by a large company for the exposure. The company had chosen four charities that the proceeds from the food truck would go to. We could choose the charity. I can't even remember which one we chose. I got blowback from some clients on that charity. It wasn't the main reason for the event. I'm sure that the company just wanted to show possible future customers that they cared about kids. Oh well, I'll never do that again. The other side is that you may be inadvertently putting people who don't give at all in an awkward position. They might feel pressure to give or face looking like cheapskates.

novella1186

There shouldn't be cash going around at weddings for any reason. No tip jars for bartenders, no cash bar, no dollar dances, and definitely no cash donation. As soon as the money comes out, a whole level of tacky just went down. Don't treat your wedding like a fundraiser. You have good instincts. Also, I'm so very sorry about your sister. If you register for gifts online, some sites let you register for donations to charities you support, but that could get iffy too. 

offensivekitten2

What are you guys talking about?  Forced kissing is super duper fun!

JoanE2012

Donation jars are rude.  Weddings are not fundraisers.

melbenso

slothiegal said:

 On a personal note, I'm not a fan of all those "cute" ways to cue newlyweds to kiss. He'll be my husband, and I will kiss him when I want. And don't interrupt me when I'm eating/dancing/talking with someone just to put on a show for you. Sorry. /rant 

We were the same way.  Per the suggestion of our photographer, we kissed the first time guests clinked glasses, right when we sat down to dinner.  After that, we ignored it and just ate.  They stopped clinking glasses pretty quickly when we didn't react as they wanted, and we got to eat our dinner in peace.

huskypuppy14

melbenso said:

slothiegal said:

 On a personal note, I'm not a fan of all those "cute" ways to cue newlyweds to kiss. He'll be my husband, and I will kiss him when I want. And don't interrupt me when I'm eating/dancing/talking with someone just to put on a show for you. Sorry. /rant 

We were the same way.  Per the suggestion of our photographer, we kissed the first time guests clinked glasses, right when we sat down to dinner.  After that, we ignored it and just ate.  They stopped clinking glasses pretty quickly when we didn't react as they wanted, and we got to eat our dinner in peace.

Ditto. Seriously people, if you want me to come talk to you, please let me eat!

[Deleted User]

So how much do I have to drop in to make them go to third base in front of grandma? Come on now, do it for the puppies!

tcnoble

pinkrevenge said:

So how much do I have to drop in to make them go to third base in front of grandma? Come on now, do it for the puppies!

This. I just.... I can't hahahahah