Hey knotties! I need some advice on how to address an issue with my father. My parents have been divorced/separated for about 2-1/2 years (very bitter, can barely coexist over email). We've had to unexpectedly move the wedding up by a year due to scheduling conflicts. During the divorce proceedings, it was brought up that my father was to pay for my wedding. Now that the time has come - he's not happy. He keeps telling me he needs to sort through his finances while pointing the blame at my mother (while secretly demanding that she pays for atleast half). I'm stuck in the middle of all the "he said, she said" but what I really need to address is that he's hurting my feelings by not wanting anything to do with the wedding. He recently got remarried, and their wedding celebration (to which I was not invited) had 500 guests and 4 different dresses for his wife. I'm not asking for a black tie affair - just a normal affair with a slightly large guest list to keep my parents far away from each other. Any way I can address my feelings about being pushed aside without sounding like a brat? I don't feel entitled to having my wedding paid for - but if I let my mother pay for the wedding it will come with concessions like banning my father from attending.