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Does a small marijuana plant make a good wedding favor?

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One of my favorite guilty pleasures is reading the New York Times Style section for its ridiculous "trend" pieces. Like the one that claimed monocles are back. This week's: Marijuana-themed weddings in Washington and Colorado. What say you, Knotties? Would you carry a bouquet of Mary Jane? Or put a little doobie in your welcome bags? Do you think getting your guests high promotes community and togetherness?
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  • beetherybeethery So sayeth the fuckin' Pope. member
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    Lmfao WHO WOULD REALLY EVEN THINK THAT WAS COOL besides like... high school-age kids that are still going through their ~hippie~ phase.


    The delusion in that piece is REAL.
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  • RebeccaB88RebeccaB88 Figment of Your Imagination member
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    Tacky as hell.
  • Jells2dot0Jells2dot0 Cowtown mod
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    I'd be PISSED. If I got one as a guest, even if I didn't take it home, I would have to report it to work and hope that I don't lose my job.

     







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  • JCbride2015JCbride2015 Dirty Jerz member
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    NO.  No no no.

    This is like having a cigarette-themed wedding.  Tacky.  If your venue allows it and you don't mind, whatever, go ahead.  But to theme your wedding around it?  No.

    I really hope they have some more creative interests than just getting high.  That's their dominant hobby, really?  (I get that one of the couples has made it their business-- cool.  But you don't see me having a lawyer-themed wedding)
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  • Well, DH is active duty so we would have to get the hell out of there.  It could be his career if he ate the wrong cupcake.  I personally want nothing to do with pot use. I don't care if it's legal, I think it smells disgusting and I don't like dealing with high people.  

    I also think it was really irresponsible for those people to put collars of marijuana and eucalyptus on their dogs.  Eucalyptus is toxic to dogs and I'm guessing marijuana can't be that great for them either.  It would have been tragic if the dogs had eaten their collars.  
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  • The rest of the world presumes that Coloradans are crazy overboard about legal weed. I've been here since 1998. It's been decriminalized since before then and a way of life for so many here for so long that really, the only big difference is weed stores you can just walk in a buy pot. I know some really huge stoners and even they probably wouldn't go this route. This is just dumb. If your guests are local they have the same access to weed. If your guests are from out of town they can pop in to one of a billion dispensaries and get weed they don't have to wait until it grows up to smoke. The NYT is so off base, so often. This is just silly.
  • RebeccaB88RebeccaB88 Figment of Your Imagination member
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    I'd agree with the others. I would not stay. I'm drug tested at work. My employer has said that even in states where it's legal, testing positive will remain a terminal offense. However, even the few friends I have who occasionally use have way more sense than to do this.
  • I'd agree with the others. I would not stay. I'm drug tested at work. My employer has said that even in states where it's legal, testing positive will remain a terminal offense. However, even the few friends I have who occasionally use have way more sense than to do this.
    Makes sense. Everywhere I've worked being under the influence of alcohol was grounds for termination and that was legal.  It just takes a lot less time to get out of your system.  
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  • bethsmilesbethsmiles Denver, CO member
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    I'd have to leave just because the smell of pot makes me puke. 


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  • ohannabelleohannabelle member
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    I seriously doubt if it's a trend as a "wedding theme." I think it's probably a random event more than a trend.

    This wedding, like many themed weddings, just went too far over the line into ridiculous.

    However, and in the interest of fairness, and assuming that you're in either Washington or Colorado where there are no legal repercussions:
    Is it really any different than a beer or wine theme? In all cases, there are people who are enthusiasts or aficiounados, who pursue wine or beer crafting, or varietal marijuana growing as a hobby, who care about various brewing techniques or grape varietal blends, or hybrid strains of cannabis.

    I wouldn't raise an eyebrow at the wedding with a wine theme, or at a beer enthusiast who offered his guests specialty brews in their guest bags. I would raise an eyebrow at a couple who chose either for a theme, who otherwise had no genuine interest in these things, but chose them to be hipster cool. 

    I judged this wedding and awarded it an eye-roll, but more for trendy current event inclusion, and over the top too much theme. 

    I'm curious to see what new etiquette rules will develop as a result of legalization. I suppose they will be based on courtesy and common sense, not unlike alcohol rules. 

    I live in a "legal" state, and have my own firm set of etiquette rules about weed. They work.  (They don't include putting it in guest bags or giving every guest a plant.)

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  • beetherybeethery So sayeth the fuckin' Pope. member
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    NO.  No no no.

    This is like having a cigarette-themed wedding.  Tacky.  If your venue allows it and you don't mind, whatever, go ahead.  But to theme your wedding around it?  No.

    I really hope they have some more creative interests than just getting high.  That's their dominant hobby, really?  (I get that one of the couples has made it their business-- cool.  But you don't see me having a lawyer-themed wedding)
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  • I think the same rule applies to smoking marijuana as cigars, or cigarettes. Not everybody loves the smell, a good many people hate it, and many people actually get sick from it. Keep it outside in a large area, at least 25 feet from entry ways, and make sure that guests have clean, unscented air to breathe. 
    If they don't, you're a crappy host.
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  • hellosweetie1015hellosweetie1015 Where the skies are so blue member
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    Drugs of any kind make for a weird and tacky wedding theme. Like, who would want a Xanex wedding? Or a Viagra one? Weird.
    The bolded especially.

    If EVERYONE you know is A) a stoner, B) lives in a place where one small plant is legal, and C) wants to put in the time to baby it (heard MJ's a bitch to grow), then yeah. Give 'em what they'll want.

    If you cannot answer yes to ALL of the above about EVERY SINGLE GUEST, hell naw. Stay away from dat MJ.

    (I am, however, hopeful that my brother moves to CA, CO or WA when he gets out of school. I will not worry about him if he moves there, because in CA he'll have a Med MJ license and in CO or WA it wouldn't matter. His anxiety does way better on MJ than it does any legal anxiety med he's tried, but I worry about him getting caught since it's not even "kind of legal" anywhere around us.)
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  • I seriously doubt if it's a trend as a "wedding theme." I think it's probably a random event more than a trend.


    This wedding, like many themed weddings, just went too far over the line into ridiculous.

    However, and in the interest of fairness, and assuming that you're in either Washington or Colorado where there are no legal repercussions:
    Is it really any different than a beer or wine theme? In all cases, there are people who are enthusiasts or aficiounados, who pursue wine or beer crafting, or varietal marijuana growing as a hobby, who care about various brewing techniques or grape varietal blends, or hybrid strains of cannabis.

    I wouldn't raise an eyebrow at the wedding with a wine theme, or at a beer enthusiast who offered his guests specialty brews in their guest bags. I would raise an eyebrow at a couple who chose either for a theme, who otherwise had no genuine interest in these things, but chose them to be hipster cool. 

    I judged this wedding and awarded it an eye-roll, but more for trendy current event inclusion, and over the top too much theme. 

    I'm curious to see what new etiquette rules will develop as a result of legalization. I suppose they will be based on courtesy and common sense, not unlike alcohol rules. 

    I live in a "legal" state, and have my own firm set of etiquette rules about weed. They work.  (They don't include putting it in guest bags or giving every guest a plant.)


    We're doing a wine themed decor, but mostly because we drink enough wine that I already have more than enough corks for 3 weddings to have decor. Also most of my favorite date nights were picnics at home with wine and cheese.

    FI also happens to be a stoner, a high functioning one (no pun intended) but still a total stoner none the less. No part of us would consider making it the theme of the wedding or including it in our day aside from him smoking at some point. I did at one point have the "brilliant" idea while drunk that I wanted to sneak a few leaves off his plants into his corsage, but once the wine wore off saw that was a bad idea.
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    Drugs of any kind make for a weird and tacky wedding theme. Like, who would want a Xanex wedding? Or a Viagra one? Weird.

    The bolded especially.

    If EVERYONE you know is A) a stoner, B) lives in a place where one small plant is legal, and C) wants to put in the time to baby it (heard MJ's a bitch to grow), then yeah. Give 'em what they'll want.

    If you cannot answer yes to ALL of the above about EVERY SINGLE GUEST, hell naw. Stay away from dat MJ.

    (I am, however, hopeful that my brother moves to CA, CO or WA when he gets out of school. I will not worry about him if he moves there, because in CA he'll have a Med MJ license and in CO or WA it wouldn't matter. His anxiety does way better on MJ than it does any legal anxiety med he's tried, but I worry about him getting caught since it's not even "kind of legal" anywhere around us.)


    Even if a guest is a resident of one of the legal states, it may still put them in a major bind. This is because it's not legal at the federal level. If the guest is a gov't employee or contractor, it could mean lots of reporting on their part. Beer and Wine could also cause issues on a personal level, but as long as a guest is of age, those issues are not of a legal nature and can hopefully be dealt with on a personal level with the couple.

     







  • jdluvr06jdluvr06 member
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    The practical part of me says this is a horrible idea. As an addict in recovery I don't like to be around any drugs, even something as relatively harmless as pot. There is too much temptation there. The part of me that is kindred spirits with Bob Marley (we have the same birthday that has to mean something right?) is seriously amused at the prospect and would kind of like to see how it plays out.
  • It's just very self-centered. I get that the couple in question loves weed, but they should understand that not everyone does. Some people have moral opposition, legal issues due to their employer, recovery issues, etc. etc. 
  • emmaaaemmaaa North Carolina mod
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    I would be so uncomfortable by this. Even if I were in a state where marijuana were legal, I probably couldn't partake because I work for the government.

  • KatieinBklnKatieinBkln (NO SLEEP TIL) Brooklyn! member
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    Ugh, the NYT is such a pain in the ass. Sometimes it forgets that wealthy people can be tacky people, too.
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  • lyndausvilyndausvi Western Slope, Colorado mod
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    I think I would laugh at a pot weed bouquet.   Even if they had glass pipes or bong as table decorations.  I would find those pretty funny.

    As a favor?   No that is just silly and a waste.  Weed might be legal here, but it's not exactly cheap compared to other favors.  It would be such a waste of money because contrary to popular believe not everyone here in CO smokes.  Some because of employment reasons, others like myself simply because we do not want to (but we do not care if others do), still others have moral believes against weed.    Who in their right might wants to waste good weed?





    emmyg65 said:
    It's just very self-centered. I get that the couple in question loves weed, but they should understand that not everyone does. Some people have moral opposition, legal issues due to their employer, recovery issues, etc. etc. 
    Some people have the same objections to alcohol.   My standard answer is no one is making them drink any more than someone is making them smoke.    At least here in CO you can't smoke in public, so unless the wedding is at a private home, it's unlikely everyone is lighting up.  

     Edibles would be the biggest issue with me.  There is a real possibility of those being around and consumed by mistake.  In that case, yes ,I think it would totally irresponsible.  Especially because a lot of the edibles look just like other common foods and candies.  A lot of people don't even know that pot gummie bears and brownies even exist to even question.




    Overall this is just a fluff piece.  I don't think we have to worry about these types of themes becoming mainstream.  






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  • lyndausvi said:
    I think I would laugh at a pot weed bouquet.   Even if they had glass pipes or bong as table decorations.  I would find those pretty funny.

    As a favor?   No that is just silly and a waste.  Weed might be legal here, but it's not exactly cheap compared to other favors.  It would be such a waste of money because contrary to popular believe not everyone here in CO smokes.  Some because of employment reasons, others like myself simply because we do not want to (but we do not care if others do), still others have moral believes against weed.    Who in their right might wants to waste good weed?





    emmyg65 said:
    It's just very self-centered. I get that the couple in question loves weed, but they should understand that not everyone does. Some people have moral opposition, legal issues due to their employer, recovery issues, etc. etc. 
    Some people have the same objections to alcohol.   My standard answer is no one is making them drink any more than someone is making them smoke.    At least here in CO you can't smoke in public, so unless the wedding is at a private home, it's unlikely everyone is lighting up.  

     Edibles would be the biggest issue with me.  There is a real possibility of those being around and consumed by mistake.  In that case, yes ,I think it would totally irresponsible.  Especially because a lot of the edibles look just like other common foods and candies.  A lot of people don't even know that pot gummie bears and brownies even exist to even question.




    Overall this is just a fluff piece.  I don't think we have to worry about these types of themes becoming mainstream.  
    True. But federally it's still illegal so if you are a federal employee there can still be issues with your employer if you are around it.  As for recovery issues the smoke causes the smell to be spread much further through the room so I can see that being a bigger issue for a recovering addict than seeing people drink alcohol.  
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  • climbingsingleclimbingsingle NYC 'burbs member
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    I honestly can only see teenagers being amused by this. My FI smokes (I don't) and we both believe it should be legal. But going so far as to have it marijuana-themed wedding is just lame. 

  • lyndausvilyndausvi Western Slope, Colorado mod
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    mysticl said:
    lyndausvi said:
    I think I would laugh at a pot weed bouquet.   Even if they had glass pipes or bong as table decorations.  I would find those pretty funny.

    As a favor?   No that is just silly and a waste.  Weed might be legal here, but it's not exactly cheap compared to other favors.  It would be such a waste of money because contrary to popular believe not everyone here in CO smokes.  Some because of employment reasons, others like myself simply because we do not want to (but we do not care if others do), still others have moral believes against weed.    Who in their right might wants to waste good weed?





    emmyg65 said:
    It's just very self-centered. I get that the couple in question loves weed, but they should understand that not everyone does. Some people have moral opposition, legal issues due to their employer, recovery issues, etc. etc. 
    Some people have the same objections to alcohol.   My standard answer is no one is making them drink any more than someone is making them smoke.    At least here in CO you can't smoke in public, so unless the wedding is at a private home, it's unlikely everyone is lighting up.  

     Edibles would be the biggest issue with me.  There is a real possibility of those being around and consumed by mistake.  In that case, yes ,I think it would totally irresponsible.  Especially because a lot of the edibles look just like other common foods and candies.  A lot of people don't even know that pot gummie bears and brownies even exist to even question.




    Overall this is just a fluff piece.  I don't think we have to worry about these types of themes becoming mainstream.  
    True. But federally it's still illegal so if you are a federal employee there can still be issues with your employer if you are around it.  As for recovery issues the smoke causes the smell to be spread much further through the room so I can see that being a bigger issue for a recovering addict than seeing people drink alcohol.  
    In CO you can not smoke  in public areas.  So again, unless the wedding is at a private home it should be non-issue.      

    That said, if you are going to a wedding of a stonier who lives in CO I think it's safe to say some smoking will be going on.  I'm not even saying at the wedding, just a stonier will smoke pot at some point.  The person in recovery will have to deal with the smell  with or without a pot themed wedding.









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  • beetherybeethery So sayeth the fuckin' Pope. member
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    If weed is your wedding theme, you need to get a hold of some better shit. The creativity is sorely lacking of what I'd expect from stoners SO DEAD SERIOUS about enjoying weed.

    Thankfully, like @lyndausvi said, it's just a fluff piece and highly unlikely that it'll become a thing.
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  • sarawifenowsarawifenow Denver, baby! member
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    Stuff like this makes me so uncomfortable. Being a Colorado native, it is hard to convince people that not all of us love us some weed! FI and I would absolutely leave if this was a "favor".

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  • hellosweetie1015hellosweetie1015 Where the skies are so blue member
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    Drugs of any kind make for a weird and tacky wedding theme. Like, who would want a Xanex wedding? Or a Viagra one? Weird.
    The bolded especially.

    If EVERYONE you know is A) a stoner, B) lives in a place where one small plant is legal, and C) wants to put in the time to baby it (heard MJ's a bitch to grow), then yeah. Give 'em what they'll want.

    If you cannot answer yes to ALL of the above about EVERY SINGLE GUEST, hell naw. Stay away from dat MJ.

    (I am, however, hopeful that my brother moves to CA, CO or WA when he gets out of school. I will not worry about him if he moves there, because in CA he'll have a Med MJ license and in CO or WA it wouldn't matter. His anxiety does way better on MJ than it does any legal anxiety med he's tried, but I worry about him getting caught since it's not even "kind of legal" anywhere around us.)
    Even if a guest is a resident of one of the legal states, it may still put them in a major bind. This is because it's not legal at the federal level. If the guest is a gov't employee or contractor, it could mean lots of reporting on their part. Beer and Wine could also cause issues on a personal level, but as long as a guest is of age, those issues are not of a legal nature and can hopefully be dealt with on a personal level with the couple.
    Yup. That's why I added the two other caveats of knowing that EVERYONE who would be at the wedding would actually use it and appreciate it. If there's even one person who wouldn't want to, it's a great big fat no. :D
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  • lyndausvilyndausvi Western Slope, Colorado mod
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    Stuff like this makes me so uncomfortable. Being a Colorado native, it is hard to convince people that not all of us love us some weed! FI and I would absolutely leave if this was a "favor".

    Seriously, the world thinks everyone in CO is high and stoned. I never see it or smell it. Sure people do, but it's not like there is some cloud of pot smoke hovering over our town. My relationship with pot is like my relationship with say Gin or fishing equipment. I know where to buy the products if I want, but since it's something I don't use I don't think about them.






    What differentiates an average host and a great host is anticipating unexpressed needs and wants of their guests.  Just because the want/need is not expressed, doesn't mean it wouldn't be appreciated. 
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