Calling @ohannabelle - I'm gonna need soothing mom noises

KeptInStitches

FI and I are cleaning his apartment for checkout. It's pretty bad around here (he's been here 7 years) and I can feel myself losing it ... I could use soothing mom noises to help make this better!!

ohannabelle

Oh, hell. I can't think of a worse way to spend the day.

You're an excellent fiancée to do this, and you will get many jewels in your hypothetical crown.

On the bright side, you'll never have to do this again. Soon, you'll be queen, and you will be able to create the laws over how much accumulated mess is allowed to gather. 

He owes you for your noble sacrifice. Think of all the lovely favors you can request in return. 

One small area at a time, one room at at time, and you'll be done before you know it. And then you should eat take out food and have a nice drink or three. For being a hell of a good girl. 

cupcait927

Best. mom. ever.

lc07

Can you afford to hire someone? I'm a huge advocate after I hired the house cleaner. 

hellosweetie1015

I am actually currently avoiding this exact same process. FI and I spent the morning packing up some of his kitchen stuff, and now he's gone to work and my motivation seems to have gone with him. Thankfully he's only been here two or three years so it's not SOO SOO bad but it's still not a party.

Also I cleaned up his bathroom last night and went a little heavy on the thank-you vodka he brought me... so I don't actually feel all that great either hahahaha.... Guess that's what I get for telling him the cleaning imps I brought with me were Russian...

KeptInStitches

@lc07, nope, no time and no money to hire it done. It's our elbow grease, and in his defense, he is helping.

7 years of cat ... argh. So much fur and cat smell. I love cats and this is a lot of cat smell. It's set up like a condo, so the bedrooms are upstairs with the bathroom, there's living and kitchen on the same level, and basement storage. Where the litterbox was. And where I will. not. go. But he will.

We're almost done with the upstairs! I have a bathroom to clean and we're hoping to get through the living room by the end of the night.

Thank you for soothing mom noises, sister-mother @ohannabelle.

CMGragain

ohannabelle said:

Oh, hell. I can't think of a worse way to spend the day.

You're an excellent fiancée to do this, and you will get many jewels in your hypothetical crown.

On the bright side, you'll never have to do this again. Soon, you'll be queen, and you will be able to create the laws over how much accumulated mess is allowed to gather. 

He owes you for your noble sacrifice. Think of all the lovely favors you can request in return. 

One small area at a time, one room at at time, and you'll be done before you know it. And then you should eat take out food and have a nice drink or three. For being a hell of a good girl. 

Don't believe the bolded for a minute!  I married an engineer!

KeptInStitches

CMGragain said:

ohannabelle said:

Oh, hell. I can't think of a worse way to spend the day.

You're an excellent fiancée to do this, and you will get many jewels in your hypothetical crown.

On the bright side, you'll never have to do this again. Soon, you'll be queen, and you will be able to create the laws over how much accumulated mess is allowed to gather. 

He owes you for your noble sacrifice. Think of all the lovely favors you can request in return. 

One small area at a time, one room at at time, and you'll be done before you know it. And then you should eat take out food and have a nice drink or three. For being a hell of a good girl. 

Don't believe the bolded for a minute!  I married an engineer!

Ah, but in this case, I AM the engineer.

And he's smart enough to know that my word is law.

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I discovered my breaking point this evening, and my breaking point is a medicine cabinet. He can have that damn bathroom, I'll wash some walls for a while.

aspoonfulofsugar

Oh no, I feel your pain.  Good luck!

When FI was selling his condo, we had many nights of packing and me yelling about all the crap he had: saving old computers, some of his parents files, a box marked "office" that contained school supplies from 9th grade.  NEVER. AGAIN.

CMGragain

Moving is the greatest test of a relationship.  I came into some money last year, and we could easily afford to buy a larger, more luxurious house.  Nope!  Moving again is too much trouble!

JCbride2015

CMGragain said:

Moving is the greatest test of a relationship.  I came into some money last year, and we could easily afford to buy a larger, more luxurious house.  Nope!  Moving again is too much trouble!

Oh Good Lord.  After summer 2012, in which we moved... let's see... FIVE times between June and November, we made a pact we will not move until we can afford professional movers.  That change in financial situation happens to coincide with when our current lease is up, so we'll see.  If we can get away with staying in our current apartment until after the wedding, I'll be a happy camper.

CMGragain

Professional movers don't make it all that much easier when your DH is a panic prone control freak.

JCbride2015

CMGragain said:

Professional movers don't make it all that much easier when your DH is a panic prone control freak.

Yes, I have heard you say how your DH loves his control!

I'm the nitpicky one in our relationship, but I don't get sentimental or particular about objects.  Fi is the packrat in our family.  After Sandy, he had this idea that pretty much anything could be dried out, sanitized, and saved.  I was chucking things in contractor bags left and right.

CMGragain

There is a half of a broken computer chair laying on the floor of my beautiful guest room - the seat half.  The bottom part broke.  He wants to save the seat so that if the replacement chair breaks, he can put the old seat on the newer wheelbase to avoid buying another chair.  It has been a year.  We HAVE money to replace the new chair when (not if) it breaks.  Grrrrr!

lc07

I feel you, OP it sucks. I'm glad you're making progress What is even more gross to me, though, is cleaning a place I just moved into for the first time. Like I know that random hair in the fridge does NOT belong to me. *dry heave*

JCbride2015

CMGragain said:

There is a half of a broken computer chair laying on the floor of my beautiful guest room - the seat half.  The bottom part broke.  He wants to save the seat so that if the replacement chair breaks, he can put the old seat on the newer wheelbase to avoid buying another chair.  It has been a year.  We HAVE money to replace the new chair when (not if) it breaks.  Grrrrr!

Can I talk to you about how many video game and TV and computer boxes we have stuffed into the closets of our tiny city apartment?  JUST in case something breaks and needs to be sent back for repair.  Or we move and need to pack it.  Or... because reasons?

CMGragain

JCbride2015 said:

CMGragain said:

There is a half of a broken computer chair laying on the floor of my beautiful guest room - the seat half.  The bottom part broke.  He wants to save the seat so that if the replacement chair breaks, he can put the old seat on the newer wheelbase to avoid buying another chair.  It has been a year.  We HAVE money to replace the new chair when (not if) it breaks.  Grrrrr!

Can I talk to you about how many video game and TV and computer boxes we have stuffed into the closets of our tiny city apartment?  JUST in case something breaks and needs to be sent back for repair.  Or we move and need to pack it.  Or... because reasons?

Ha,ha!  I feel your pain.  One of the worst things you can do to these types is to buy a house with basement storage.  We lived in one for 16 years, and he filled it to the brim with broken electronics, storage boxes, and even dumpster diving stuff.  The last few years, I just didn't go down there.  When it was time to move, I drove 19 mini-van loads of stuff to Salvation Army, and we had to schedule a special trash pick up.  Then there was the garage sale!  Nobody wanted his used Beta recorder.
Our current house has no basement, but a 3 car garage.  We have 2 cars.  The smallest bedroom is a storage room.  If by any chance I outlive him, I have nightmares of hiring trucks to haul this stuff away.

KeptInStitches

@CMGragain, and we've been moving on an ongoing basis for the last 2.5 months. It has been a hell of a strain on our relationship. We bought the house in May and moved me out of my apartment around the same time. Then we started moving him, discovered the water leakage problem in the basement, had family obligations, etc. That's how we ended up here, needing to be done by Thursday and still having a lot of work to do.

He went down to the basement (brave soul) yesterday and got all the garbage out. Something was heavily cat-scented because after he did that, the smell was a lot better last night. The truth will out this morning, though - it all depends on how it smells today.

kmmssg

CMGragain said:

ohannabelle said:

Oh, hell. I can't think of a worse way to spend the day.

You're an excellent fiancée to do this, and you will get many jewels in your hypothetical crown.

On the bright side, you'll never have to do this again. Soon, you'll be queen, and you will be able to create the laws over how much accumulated mess is allowed to gather. 

He owes you for your noble sacrifice. Think of all the lovely favors you can request in return. 

One small area at a time, one room at at time, and you'll be done before you know it. And then you should eat take out food and have a nice drink or three. For being a hell of a good girl. 

Don't believe the bolded for a minute!  I married an engineer!

Me too...when I read the bolded I actually fantasized for a moment and then came back to Earth.  OP - I hope your FI has nothing to do with engineering.

KeptInStitches

@kmmssg, I'm the engineer in the relationship. 

kmmssg

KeptInStitches said:

@kmmssg, I'm the engineer in the relationship. 

And you do not have an overwhemling amount of "stuff"?  Is that really possible?  DH has 3 siblings who are engineers and they also have acquired an overwhelming amount of stuff.

KeptInStitches

kmmssg said:

KeptInStitches said:

@kmmssg, I'm the engineer in the relationship. 

And you do not have an overwhemling amount of "stuff"?  Is that really possible?  DH has 3 siblings who are engineers and they also have acquired an overwhelming amount of stuff.

More minimalist, I guess. My yarn collection is kind of embarrassing (it's a closet - on its own), but I had a 1-bedroom apartment and there was only so much stuff I could store anyway.

kmmssg

Minimalist AND and engineer......I never experienced this before.  DH is beyond hope but it is lovely that you have not embraced the idea that there is an application for EVERYTHING if you hang on to it long enough.

KeptInStitches

I'm 27. There's plenty of time for me to collect useless garbage -- I mean things without application yet.

Aray82

When FI moved out of his first place and I came over to help with packing and cleaning the day before (he had not done a SINGLE thing to get ready before then), I helped for about 4 hours, then cried and left. I was getting on the plane for research in Ireland the next day and I had packing to do myself. I just couldn't stay and help him anymore. He got it together to move out in time, but next time he started packing earlier. Like, two days ahead of time. At least he's learning? That said, moving is a shitshow even when you do it gradually. And the cleaning. Oh, the cleaning. Think of something fun you'll do together when this is over!

CMGragain

kmmssg said:

Minimalist AND and engineer......I never experienced this before.  DH is beyond hope but it is lovely that you have not embraced the idea that there is an application for EVERYTHING if you hang on to it long enough.

Maybe it's a testosterone thing?

kmmssg

CMGragain said:

kmmssg said:

Minimalist AND and engineer......I never experienced this before.  DH is beyond hope but it is lovely that you have not embraced the idea that there is an application for EVERYTHING if you hang on to it long enough.

Maybe it's a testosterone thing?

Wel, it DOES explain many other things in life, so maybe that's it!