So I've been experiencing something that has been making my head spin. I've had guests cross out the seat(s) reserved number and add their own. The thing is, we weren't able to give every single person a plus one. We have a huge family and most of our friends and family have spouses or long term partners. When we had spaces left after doing the guest list, we were able to give a few plus ones, but not everyone. Today I got a text from my half sister saying shes sending out her rsvp late and shes bringing 2 extra people......wahhh??? Who does that?? I only gave her one space..... For the most part, I've been telling people that due to space limitations, we are able to add more people to the list, but if spaces open up, we'll be glad to accommodate. I know that not everyone is up on their wedding etiquette, but isn't this just common sense? Has anyone experienced this? How do you deal?
Re: Guests adding extra people to rsvp
People have no tact, I swear.
After planning a wedding I will be on top of shit as a guest from now on. My RSVP will be sent back right away (when possible) with no extra guests, initialed menu options and I'll even put a little note. Because I loved those.
I think a 'maybe' on a response card is really rude, unless an explanation is given that is important, like ill health or pregnancy or military deployment.
Those invitees who would just say 'maybe' for no special reason, it seems like they are just waiting to see if anything better comes up on that day, that they would rather do. Or that they will make the decision on attending the wedding, depending on how they feel that morning.