Why is The Nest so dead?

FiancB

Every once in a while I venture over there and come right back because there's nothing going on. There's more OMHs over here than there. Why do you think this is? Are most people inherently less interested once the wedding's over, is there just no need for a forum for day-to-day life after the wedding planning, is it the lack of a general chit-chat forum, or lack of investment from the company? 

daria24

Are you familiar with GBCN? There used to be a decent sized community over on TN, then when all the shit went down across the XO forums-huge technical problems, censorship issues, etc, the regs decided to take the party to Proboards and formed GBCN (Goodbye Cruel Nest). The Nest's page views plummeted by something like 80%. It's never recovered.

FiancB

Ahhhh. No I wasn't aware of that, though I'm vaguely aware of what I'm assuming were similar issues that started the treehouse. 

daria24

It was pre-Treehouse. Maybe a year before that? It was around the time that some of TK regs formed the Thunderdome, which is another Proboards offshoot.

Also TN is the most under-promoted property from XO. It just doesn't have the same draw that planning a wedding/pregnancy does.

WinstonsGirl

It was pre Thunderdome.  Maybe the summer before??  There's a couple of regs still left, mostly on Married Life and TIP I believe.  But actually, a couple and that's it.  

AddieCake

And I think it never recovering is in part to the nature of the beast. There are always going to be new brides coming along needing advice for wedding planning. If they come along to The Nest and lurk and see there are not that many active posters, they are not likely to even attempt chitchat or questions and just move on somewhere more active to check out and join.

goldchocobo.defunct635829490514903826

I lurk on The Nest all the time to read relationship drama and noticed it has slowed to a crawl.  It makes me sad that there is such a lack of activity.  I agree with what AddieCake said: There will always be new brides looking for advice here.

WinstonsGirl

I try every once in a while to move to some boards over there, but I just can't do it.  I don't know anyone, I can't lurk and figure out who regs are.  It's just always different.  I think the Book Club board is pretty active with regs though.  

AprilH81

Money Matters is decently active (at least by TN standards)...  Most of them are painfully slow though...

AddieCake

Yeah, it's much easier to join a community if you can lurk it a bit. If there's nothing to lurk, I can't get comfortable.

Maggie0829

Like others have said, there will always be new brides and new pregnant ladies, but in the interim there really isn't much to plan or get advice on.  I mean if I want house decorating ideas or advice I will head on over to Pinterest or HGTV.  If I want recipes I will go to Food Network or Pinterest.  If I want money advice I will talk to a financial advisor.  I mean there are plenty of other places to gain ideas.  But when it comes to weddings and pregnancies you tend to want to talk to those people who have either gone through it or are going through it with you.

thisismynickname2

I ventured over, saw how many people were having Trouble In Paradise, got depressed, and came right back here. 

 

Jells2dot0

I used to try to be active on the travel board there, but I kept seeing a million posts about traveling with kids. Makes sense I suppose, but it's not my cup of tea and I abandoned ship.

Sugargirl1019

YAY OMHs on TK! We have our fair share of devastating stories on here, but we also have the support for those going through those situations. And then happy celebrations, and silliness.

I haven't moved over because I know you guys (and kinda like you too).

kerbohl

I went over to TN to try and post stuff, but like people was saying, it was dead.  Besides, I get awesome advice and comments here - I just don't feel the need to switch sites.  I was so sad about the pet board being so dead.  Lots of people have pets and are getting new pets, but there was just nothing. 

IrishPirate60

;Doesn't help when KP addresses a note on TK Tech "Dear Nesties." I don't think TK's much invested in anything.

Bubblegum5586

thisismynickname said:

I ventured over, saw how many people were having Trouble In Paradise, got depressed, and came right back here. 

 

Yea, that board seems to have more posts then others, and man it does get depressing fast! I tried using the house buying board when we were going through the process.... but pretty slow. I still go over and post sometimes though!

Maggie0829

bubblegum1309 said:

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thisismynickname said:

I ventured over, saw how many people were having Trouble In Paradise, got depressed, and came right back here. 

 

Yea, that board seems to have more posts then others, and man it does get depressing fast! I tried using the house buying board when we were going through the process.... but pretty slow. I still go over and post sometimes though!

Is it weird that I now want to go check out that board?

AddieCake

Not weird, Maggie. Now I want to, too.

zitiqueen

WinstonsGirl said:

It was pre Thunderdome.  Maybe the summer before??  There's a couple of regs still left, mostly on Married Life and TIP I believe.  But actually, a couple and that's it.  

TarponMonoxide is in her fucking glory over there now that there's nobody sane to rein her in.

smalfrie19

zitiqueen said:

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WinstonsGirl said:

It was pre Thunderdome.  Maybe the summer before??  There's a couple of regs still left, mostly on Married Life and TIP I believe.  But actually, a couple and that's it.  

TarponMonoxide is in her fucking glory over there now that there's nobody sane to rein her in.

and this is why I stick to my local board on GBCN..ML gets TOOO CRAZY for me. 

wandajune6

So what's the deal with The Treehouse? I keep seeing references to it but don't know anything about it.

theartistformerlyknownas

I don't wanna talk to new people. I like you guys.

I wasn't invited to the Treehouse sooooo I guess you're stuck with me here. :-p

manateehugger

Treehouse is another proboards deal that was created last summer after a couple regs got banned in a crazy-ass ridiculous manner. Whether we liked those regs or not, everyone pretty much agreed the way the bannings were handed down by the KG's (who had used them to troll other boards) was stupid (and it involved a lot of back room dealing with HisGirlFriday, which is why people have beef with her). 

I think it's public still. I poked over there for a bit when it was first created.

wandajune6

PDKH said:

Treehouse is another proboards deal that was created last summer after a couple regs got banned in a crazy-ass ridiculous manner. Whether we liked those regs or not, everyone pretty much agreed the way the bannings were handed down by the KG's (who had used them to troll other boards) was stupid (and it involved a lot of back room dealing with HisGirlFriday, which is why people have beef with her). 

I think it's public still. I poked over there for a bit when it was first created.

Thank you! I've wondered about that! I like it here, though I admit that I tend to skip over any post that has over 100 responses. I assume that means drama.

annathy03

PDKH said:

Treehouse is another proboards deal that was created last summer after a couple regs got banned in a crazy-ass ridiculous manner. Whether we liked those regs or not, everyone pretty much agreed the way the bannings were handed down by the KG's (who had used them to troll other boards) was stupid (and it involved a lot of back room dealing with HisGirlFriday, which is why people have beef with her). 

I think it's public still. I poked over there for a bit when it was first created.

Treehouse is public to lurk, as is GBCN.  GBCN is a massive community I couldn't keep up with if I tried.

And @lolo883, pretty sure you were invited, and TH is very welcoming of new members.  It's way more chit chat than wedding since most of us are OMHs now.

theartistformerlyknownas

annathy03 said:

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PDKH said:

Treehouse is another proboards deal that was created last summer after a couple regs got banned in a crazy-ass ridiculous manner. Whether we liked those regs or not, everyone pretty much agreed the way the bannings were handed down by the KG's (who had used them to troll other boards) was stupid (and it involved a lot of back room dealing with HisGirlFriday, which is why people have beef with her). 

I think it's public still. I poked over there for a bit when it was first created.

Treehouse is public to lurk, as is GBCN.  GBCN is a massive community I couldn't keep up with if I tried.

And @lolo883, pretty sure you were invited, and TH is very welcoming of new members.  It's way more chit chat than wedding since most of us are OMHs now.

Oh. Are there sloths there?

JennyColada

I posted a few times in their Sexuality and Dating/Relationship sections, but I found most of the posters to be...well...idiots. And it was frustrating trying to give my rational viewpoint and have them just be like "durrr, I think this is how life is" and I'm just like "uh, no."

WinstonsGirl

zitiqueen said:

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WinstonsGirl said:

It was pre Thunderdome.  Maybe the summer before??  There's a couple of regs still left, mostly on Married Life and TIP I believe.  But actually, a couple and that's it.  

TarponMonoxide is in her fucking glory over there now that there's nobody sane to rein her in.

SIB

That's exactly who I was thinking of when I wrote this!!  

AddieCake

Anyone can join the treehouse as long as you aren't an asshole.

annathy03

@lolo883, there is A sloth there, not sure about plural sloths