One of my BM, also my SIL, had her baby early. I planned to throw a surprise baby shower, and asked my mom to keep her phone on her so I can send cake ideas to her. I get a lengthy message from SIL saying how awful I am for not including her in choosing the cake. Long story short, I'm mean and spiteful and horrible for throwing a baby shower. Mom and I kind of worked through it a little and are still throwing it, but there's intense tension because she hasn't apologized, and I doubt she will.
Second BM, another SIL, is in two weddings in October. Because I knew about this, I asked my MOH to make sure all bachelorette activities were optional so she could pick and choose, and not break the bank. My mom is helping to sponsor my shower and paid for the rental for the venue. My fiance's mother, who doesn't have girls, offered to pay for the food. (FI and I have been together 9 years, so I might as well be her daughter). The only financial responsibility for the shower is $20 for decor, which everyone agreed to do. They picked their own dresses (dresses ranged from $99-$200), I'm paying for their makeup on the day-of, and buying them their jewelry. Well, this BM emailed all the other girls saying she refuses to help pay for the shower (which, whatever... fine), but then went on to say that the wedding is too expensive, and someone needs to put a stop to it. She also said my MIL was so embarrassed by all the money that was being spent on my shower alone, that she felt compelled to pay for the shower's food. When my FI confronted the BM about it, she said she lied and my MIL said nothing. What.... the... hell. I had a drama-free engagement until last week. Is this normal for drama this close to the wedding, or is mine just that special? lol