Unique ideas for unity ceremony

sarahtrg

My fiance and I are looking for ideas for a unity ceremony that doesn't involve sand or wine. Anyone have any thoughts?

chibiyui

Honestly, I'd recommend skipping a unity ceremony, especially if you're reaching for ideas. 

There are some fun unity ceremony thingies out there. But they only work if it fits you as a couple. So, if you decided to do something like a Prince Ruperts Drop cause it's different, a lot of your guests are going to be wondering how it relates to you if you're not into science. And why would you do something thats unrelated to you as a couple during your wedding ceremony, which unites you as a couple?

Marzipan13

Just skip it, OP.  You're no more or less married if you do some extraneous unity crap.

VulgarGirl

We're doing a unity cocktail. Because drink=yay.

Unity cereamonies can be great, if they mean something to you. But if they don't, there's really no reason to do one. 

kaos16

sarahtrg said:

My fiance and I are looking for ideas for a unity ceremony that doesn't involve sand or wine. Anyone have any thoughts?

 

SIB

What about some vows pledging to love each other for the rest of your lives. . . .that screams unity to me!

CMGragain

The candle unity ceremony that was used in the church service with my daughter's wedding and my own was symbolic of families being united, not individuals.  The parents participated.
I don't see the point of another ceremony (in addition to the marriage vows) that is about uniting the couple.

Nymeru

We decided to skip this because it felt too cheesy for us.

doeydo

Unity paint ceremony:

Wine box and/or love letter ceremony (put in box to be opened at a later date):

Tree planting ceremony: 

Like the sand ceremony, but using your favourite spices instead:

jennyleigh16

Years ago, FI and I were out for a walk and he had 2 miniature cans of ginger ale and a dairy milk chocolate bar in his pocket. We talked about getting married and he told me that the next time he'd have those items, he would be proposing. It became a running thing for awhile. When he finally did propose, we came back to the hotel room and he had laid out 2 champagne glasses with mini ginger ales and a dairy milk chocolate bar by the jacuzzi tub. I was so touched that he remembered that detail. 

I wanted to incorporate it into the wedding somehow but FI wasn't keen on it being part of the ceremony.  We're doing a first look so we decided to have a private moment before everyone arrives and share a dairy milk and some gingerale to celebrate our "unity" and to reflect on how far we've come. I think I'm looking forward to that moment even more than the ceremony. 

Tl;dr? You don't need a "unity" ceremony for it to be wedding, only include one if it truly means something to you, and even then, it doesn't have to be a public display for it to mean something. 

chasseuse

CMGragain said:

I don't see the point of another ceremony (in addition to the marriage vows) that is about uniting the couple.

I agree. I've never understood the additional unity ceremony. A wedding IS a unity ceremony. What more do you need?

jerkyanne

doeydo said:

Unity paint ceremony:

Wine box and/or love letter ceremony (put in box to be opened at a later date):

Tree planting ceremony: 

Like the sand ceremony, but using your favourite spices instead:

I would probably be a little irritated if I had to sit and watch the bride and groom plant a friggin tree. Way too long for a unity ceremony. ( which I often find cheesy anyhow)

slothiegal

jenbaer16 said:

Years ago, FI and I were out for a walk and he had 2 miniature cans of ginger ale and a dairy milk chocolate bar in his pocket. We talked about getting married and he told me that the next time he'd have those items, he would be proposing. It became a running thing for awhile. When he finally did propose, we came back to the hotel room and he had laid out 2 champagne glasses with mini ginger ales and a dairy milk chocolate bar by the jacuzzi tub. I was so touched that he remembered that detail. 

I wanted to incorporate it into the wedding somehow but FI wasn't keen on it being part of the ceremony.  We're doing a first look so we decided to have a private moment before everyone arrives and share a dairy milk and some gingerale to celebrate our "unity" and to reflect on how far we've come. I think I'm looking forward to that moment even more than the ceremony. 

Tl;dr? You don't need a "unity" ceremony for it to be wedding, only include one if it truly means something to you, and even then, it doesn't have to be a public display for it to mean something. 

I just needed to say that that is ridiculously adorable. 

artbyallie

Is it just me or does the bride with the box have no idea how to use a hammer?

wrigleyville

Is it just me, or is anyone else nervous seeing paint buckets that close to formal wear?

Knottie38307189

I am considering the Unity In Glass idea. They have a website.  You send the glass crystals in to the company and then they create a unity sculpture with the glass and send back to you.  One of our first dates was to a glass blowing place so for me the idea kind of fits. It is a little pricey though.  I've also heard about love locks.

Denise40

Knottie38307189 said:

I am considering the Unity In Glass idea. They have a website.  You send the glass crystals in to the company and then they create a unity sculpture with the glass and send back to you.  One of our first dates was to a glass blowing place so for me the idea kind of fits. It is a little pricey though.  I've also heard about love locks.

I love this and you have a keepsake for life. I wonder what would be read by the officiant during this.

weddingcactus

jerkyanne said:

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Unity paint ceremony:

Wine box and/or love letter ceremony (put in box to be opened at a later date):

Tree planting ceremony: 

Like the sand ceremony, but using your favourite spices instead:

I would probably be a little irritated if I had to sit and watch the bride and groom plant a friggin tree. Way too long for a unity ceremony. ( which I often find cheesy anyhow)

Yes, this. I could only see this working if you had an all day wedding gathering and at some point AFTER the ceremony the bride and groom decided to plant a tree together and it was entirely optional for guests to watch. I think the best wedding ceremonies are relatively short without a lot of filler.

STARMOON44

Unity blood transfusion. So bold. So unique. So unifying.

wajohnson09

I saw a unity plant in a pot once. They are farmers so I guess it fits them. As they planted all I could think of was this: