Did anyone else feel this way?

behsco90

Today FI and I met with his priest for the first time to discuss getting married. At the end he gave us a list of dates that are open to choose from next August and so we tentatively chose one. Once we did, I got super excited! It felt more real to me that now we are actually getting married. I guess I feel silly that I got so excited over finally choosing a tentative date, but did anyone else feel this way or is it just me?

luckya23

Of course it feels more real because it is!

My date was pretty much #1 for me, so I called the church to reserve it pretty soon after announcing our engagement.  At the time I was thinking we could just use the church hall, so I considered the date set, even though we ended up looking for other venues afterwards, some of which were already booked even a year out. (Moral of the story: start calling reception places)

When we booked the reception venue, it was exciting again to confirm the date!  ...And to know for sure it wasn't changing when the million and one people ask when is the wedding.

BreMR

It's definitely exciting to confirm the date!!  Seriously, I"m such a nerd that every time the 10th of the month comes (every month) I think "AHH IN 1 YEAR AND xxx MONTHS WE'RE GETTING MARRIED!" 

Blue & White

@kelani23 moral of the story: don't put the cart before the horse. The marriage is more important than the perfect reception venue, and if you need the venue, you can wait for it.

Setting a date did make the whole wedding process easier lol - plus you can actually move on to bigger and better things now like all the other vendors and such. The tastings are obviously the best part

buddysmom80

Once we had our date set and deposit paid, it felt real, but sooooo far away. Now I'm like "less than 6 months, I have nothing done!!!!!!"

KeptInStitches

I'm with @buddysmom80 - we've done most of the work (except for menus, I think we're down to nitpicky details), but late April is a long time from early August. It's real, but not here yet.

[Deleted User]

It feels super real after setting the date! You can start doing the fun things and now when people ask when you're getting married, you won't stand there like a deer in headlights. 

We didn't set a date though before we got the venue...we knew we wanted to get married the year of our engagement so we kind of left that up to what was available with the places we liked...so like @Blue said....your marriage is more important than the perfect venue : )

Peaseblossom55

It definitely felt more real and more exciting once we had set the date with our church. We could actually countdown and begin to tell people. 

lmcooper86

Yup, absolutely. Until we set a date it was just this ambiguous thing, like "oh yeah we're getting married...sometime". Once we set a date and signed a contract it felt so much more real, and it was great to actually have an answer when people asked when the wedding was lol.

GoldenPenguin

It really hit me when we visited the venue, and knew that it was the one. Walking down the lawn towards the water where the ceremony will be, I just broke out in full-body goosebumps and started crying. We stood there for a minute, and I looked at him & said "We're getting married. RIGHT HERE." and he said "Yea we are." and kissed me, and it was just awesome. 

We got available dates from the venue within the next couple of days, and I had the same butterflies when we picked the date. 

[Deleted User]

I had the same reaction with our venue. We knew what we were looking for and hadn't found it yet. When we finally visited THE venue, it was emotional - this was it!

It's amazing the things that will reaffirm "we're really doing this" throughout the planning process. I remember feeling that same way when I found my dress, when my mom and I went shopping for accessories...when one of our flower girls came running up to me at the rehearsal dinner shouting "I'm going to be your flower girl!", every time FI called me "wifey to be". Enjoy all the little and big moments leading up to the big day! It's a wonderful time!

Blackbird230

You do know when it's THE venue. I started comparing it to everywhere else we looked and FI teared up after we toured the Inn. We just knew it was right.