Hair dresser advice!

Kristyml287_23265549

I dont't normally post in a forum, but I desparately need some advice!

My hairdresser and I used to go to church together when we were in high school (like 8 years ago). She has since moved away and moved back and switched churches. She still does my hair and that is really the only time we see each other. When she first moved back she was in a bad home situation and my parents helped her out a lot, so we consider each other family friends. I went to her wedding, she's invited to mine, but we really aren't good friends anymore. She did all of the hair styling at my sister's wedding last year, and it wasn't the best! The hair styles were amazing!! (She's an unreal hair dresser) But it took FOREVER!! My sister hardly had time for pictures because hair took so long. There were 4 bridesmaids plus my sister. I have 8 bridesmaids plus myself! So I booked a hair stylist for the wedding that specialized in doing weddings. She told me she would be able to get all of my bridesmaids and myself done with plenty of time for pictures. I didn't even think of asking my hair dresser to do it because it would be more expensive and take longer. Last time I was getting my hair done, my hair dresser made a comment about how I can just text her pictures of how I want my hair for the wedding. I didn't realize it at the time, but she was assuming that she would be doing hair for my wedding as well. I didn't say anything to her becasue I didn't realize that until later. I know that normally I could just go to her and explain the situation and she would understand and it'd all be good, but this isn't a normal situation. She is an extremely dramatic person. I mean like post about me on facebook and be rude to be dramatic. I know I shouldn't care, but our whole family gets our hair done by her and she charges us a discounted rate, and I just really don't want to have to find a new hair dresser. I feel like it wouldn't be as big of an issue if we weren't family friends as well. Also, she just found out she's pregnent, so that adds a whole new level of drama to her as well. I know I need to say something, but I'm not sure how or what to say to explain it to her. I'm sure she'll probably be mad anyway, but if anyone has any advice on how to discuss this with her to try to lessen the issue or the drama that will follow I would greatly appreciate it!!!

Maggie0829

Kristyml287 said:

I dont't normally post in a forum, but I desparately need some advice!

My hairdresser and I used to go to church together when we were in high school (like 8 years ago). She has since moved away and moved back and switched churches. She still does my hair and that is really the only time we see each other. When she first moved back she was in a bad home situation and my parents helped her out a lot, so we consider each other family friends. I went to her wedding, she's invited to mine, but we really aren't good friends anymore. She did all of the hair styling at my sister's wedding last year, and it wasn't the best! The hair styles were amazing!! (She's an unreal hair dresser) But it took FOREVER!! My sister hardly had time for pictures because hair took so long. There were 4 bridesmaids plus my sister. I have 8 bridesmaids plus myself! So I booked a hair stylist for the wedding that specialized in doing weddings. She told me she would be able to get all of my bridesmaids and myself done with plenty of time for pictures. I didn't even think of asking my hair dresser to do it because it would be more expensive and take longer. Last time I was getting my hair done, my hair dresser made a comment about how I can just text her pictures of how I want my hair for the wedding. I didn't realize it at the time, but she was assuming that she would be doing hair for my wedding as well. I didn't say anything to her becasue I didn't realize that until later. I know that normally I could just go to her and explain the situation and she would understand and it'd all be good, but this isn't a normal situation. She is an extremely dramatic person. I mean like post about me on facebook and be rude to be dramatic. I know I shouldn't care, but our whole family gets our hair done by her and she charges us a discounted rate, and I just really don't want to have to find a new hair dresser. I feel like it wouldn't be as big of an issue if we weren't family friends as well. Also, she just found out she's pregnent, so that adds a whole new level of drama to her as well. I know I need to say something, but I'm not sure how or what to say to explain it to her. I'm sure she'll probably be mad anyway, but if anyone has any advice on how to discuss this with her to try to lessen the issue or the drama that will follow I would greatly appreciate it!!!

I think having to find a new hairdresser would be the least of your problems.

Look, you need to tell her that you are going with someone else.  You don't need to give her an explanation.  You can just say, "Well since you are a guest I just want you to enjoy the day and relax so I decided to book someone else to do our wedding parties hair."

If she freaks out or flips her shit then that is on her.  You can't control her actions and if she will really be willing to make this into a over dramatic thing then oh well.

blabla89

If she mentions it again, just say something like, "You're so sweet to offer, but I'd hate to make you work on our wedding day. We would just love for you to come celebrate with us as a guest." If she makes a big deal of it, that's on her.

RebeccaFlower

Seriously, screw her. Crap like that pisses me off. I'm currently thinking about switching my hairdresser too because he runs so late! I even called before my apt. to see if he was on time (thinking I might as well spend the HOUR at home) and he said no... then I waited for an hour. Bullshit. 

In your case, let her be mad and throw a fit. You can't let her make you run late and miss pictures. I would suggest getting more than one hairdresser though. Nine heads is a lot. 

anndee2020

I like @missax suggestion. Especially since it sounds like you appreciate her work and she did a great job with your sister's wedding. If she is only doing your hair her timing shouldn't be too bad.

But you also mentioned that she is more expensive, so if it comes down to budget concerns then go with the other PP's suggestions and break it to her nicely and its her issue after that.

erinlin25

I agree to just spin it as you want her to be able to enjoy the day as a guest, but if you are super worried about the situation think about having the hired hair dresser do your bridesmaids hair and have *your* hairdresser just do your hair.

She should not have assumed, and you have every right to hire someone else.  If she freaks out, then I would want to find another hair dresser anyway!