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Divvying up "TV" Time

*Warning*: This post is full of whine so feel free to stop reading here.

Most of the shows that we watch, we watch together.  But, sometimes I watch other movies and shows on my laptop with earphones; for example, I love me some Mads Mikkelsen, so I watched Flame and Citron the other night and I know FI hates subtitles movies.  FI has his laptop hooked up to the TV so we can watch stuff on there via Netflix or whatever, and we also have cable, a Blu-ray player, and Xbox plugged into that TV.  In the bedroom, we have another smaller TV, but it only has DVD and VHS hooked up to it.  
Anyways, I recently played a game on the Xbox (I am not a gamer, but I  thought I'd give it a try and got into it) and I got stuck at one point.  When FI came home, I tried to ask him to help or give me advice or something.  After trying for a while and looking stuff about it up online, he concluded that I should go back from my last save point, which was forever ago at the beginning of the game.  *Sigh*  So this morning he starts playing it from scratch, as a female character and everything like I was.  He then says to me that he will get me up to that point again or past it then let me take over again.  So, I'm like "great" (except he went off on little side missions that I hadn't had the chance to do yet), but now, he is past it and doesn't look like he is stopping.  I just wanted to do it alone, TBH, but now if I want to play again, I guess I'll have to wait until he leaves the apartment for a while and then start back from the beginning.  
Sorry for my whining.
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Re: Divvying up "TV" Time

  • Can you tell him you'd like to play again?
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  • I'd just boot him off and tell him it's your turn.

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  • Well, I ended up talking to him.  I get super anxious about asking for anything so I usually just don't.  We're watching something right now, but it looks like I'll get in some game time of my own tomorrow (or whenever).  
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  • Yep, practice that assertiveness.  Asking your partner for equal TV time should not be an anxiety-inducing thing.  Try: "Hey, I'd really like to play that game again.  Can you try to finish up within the next ten or fifteen minutes?"
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  • doeydo said:
    Well, I ended up talking to him.  I get super anxious about asking for anything so I usually just don't.  We're watching something right now, but it looks like I'll get in some game time of my own tomorrow (or whenever).  
    Well, you're partners with him. Equal partners. You shouldn't be hesitant about things like this! There's nothing wrong with reminding him that you're due equal time. This is a good one to get some practice with! :)
    I love doey, but they are not actually equal partners from the sound of it. I feel like you are always on eggshells around him DD. You seem to be constantly b steamrolled and your needs and wants are always second. This actually isn't a first world problem, your ability to advocate for your own desires has been worn down so much that it makes you anxious to say to your FH "hey my turn." That's actually pretty huge. 

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  • doeydo said:
    Well, I ended up talking to him.  I get super anxious about asking for anything so I usually just don't.  We're watching something right now, but it looks like I'll get in some game time of my own tomorrow (or whenever).  
    Well, you're partners with him. Equal partners. You shouldn't be hesitant about things like this! There's nothing wrong with reminding him that you're due equal time. This is a good one to get some practice with! :)
    QFT! Own this proudly, Doe. 
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