Invitation wording help please

SmithMcFarlane

Ok, so I thought the people inviting guests to the wedding were those who are paying for the wedding.  In my case, its my divorsed parents and their spouses, and myself.  No contributions from FI's side of the family, no big deal.  So my understanding of how this would work would be something like:

Mom and Husband
With Dad and wife
invite you to the marriage of their daughter _____
to _______  son of Mr___ and Mrs ________
on_____

Is this acceptable?  I know that his parents have made the comment to FI about how their names are not at the top of the invite with the "we invite you" section (these are just drafts right now).  But I guess when my parents are footing the bill I don't see it to be fair to say that they are part of the "inviting people"  they have not said that they want to pay for anything, and I am not going to ask them to.  So I guess I'm wondering how I should respond if they bring this up to me.  Its not like their names are not on the invites, I want their names on the invites.  But I also want credit given where credit is due.

Jules08

It is just fine the way you have it worded and technically correct.

These days there can be so many contributions from so many places and not always financial gifts, so to us, it wasn't important who paid or paid the most, it was about who supported us and our marriage.  We disregarded the majority of that "rule." 

I mean half the guests invited are truly being invited by your FI's side right?  If your FI or his parents didn't invite them it's not like your parents would have known them well enough to do so.

So many people don't pay much attention to the invite, they make a note of the date, time, and place ... that's about it.  So if it might be easier to avoid the drama with FI's family, then who really cares?

Just something to think about.

Whatever you decide will be right

portialoveschris

Ditto.

That's exactly what I did.  Top billing goes to who's footing the bill! It's nice that you included her name on the invites because you didn't have to.  

I included my FMIL and her ex-husband out of respect, but their names are second.  

browneyedbride7

You know, I went through the same feelings when it came to wording our invitations.  I felt that credit should be given where it is due.  My parents are paying for over 50% of the wedding, then FI and I are paying about 40-45% and FI's parents maybe 5-10%.  FI has always had this "things have to be fair" mentality.  I finally gave up and allowed him to write the invites as such: "Bride, daughter of Mom and Dad" and "Groom, son of Mom and Dad" invite you to...

It still kind of irritates me to have it this way, but my parents don't care because they are such loving, caring, giving, and humble people so eventually I'll come to terms with it.

I think the way you have your invitation worded is just fine.  It's completely appropriate and correct.