wedding from hell

princessleia22

At a wedding I'm BM in next weekend, there is a 3-hour gap between ceremony & reception (both at same hotel), for wedding party to go take photos off site (in a party bus).  I know there is a decent sized wedding party, so I didn't even bother asking if DH could come along for photos, as I expect there won't be space for everyone's SO's.  Instead, since I assumed he would be left behind at the hotel, and anyone he knows is in the wedding party, we booked a room there for the night of the wedding so he could go relax in the hotel room, rather than get stuck miserably waiting in the bar or lobby... which is probably what all the other guests will be doing during the gap. 

scrunchythief

I...there's too much nope in this wedding.  No water or bathrooms for 3 hours?!  3 hours of pictures to begin with?!  Banning people from entering a place of worship?  Did you rent God for that hour?  *headdesk*

ETA:  I coudn't get this video to embed:( https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=75aGG27dGUA

sarahufl

Who tells a bunch of adults when they are and are not allowed to pee?

steph861

I think I would attend this wedding for the sole purpose of bitching about it after.

WinstonsGirl

scrunchythief said:

ETA:  I coudn't get this video to embed:( 

The Yip Yip martians were my absolute favourite when I was a kid.  You're awesome for posting that!!

particuliersylphe

This sounds eerily like the beginnings of the wedding from hell I went to two months ago (GM's SO). Except it was dry, in a barn, in 100 degree weather and they RAN OUT of ice and water.

Good luck!!

raissyrais

Holly Mother Molly! Is this even for real? I mean how rude can you be? And the no water thing is just a terrible, terrible idea!

climbingsingle

This is some crazy bullshit. No bathroom breaks?!

scrunchythief

WinstonsGirl said:

scrunchythief said:

ETA:  I coudn't get this video to embed:( 

The Yip Yip martians were my absolute favourite when I was a kid.  You're awesome for posting that!!

Mine too!!  DH and are thinking about dressing up as them for this Halloween, for our first couple's costume.

banana468

ClimbingBrideNY said:

This is some crazy bullshit. No bathroom breaks?!

I'd threaten to pull a "bridesmaids" stunt just to get to hear someone say, "She's doing it. She's shitting in the street. "

I'd defend the action by reminding the bride that no bathrooms were used.

mschristie123

Lol @Banana468, that would be great, but would involve us actually leaving the bus- which is *Strictly Forbidden.*

banana468

mschristie123 said:

Lol @Banana468, that would be great, but would involve us actually leaving the bus- which is *Strictly Forbidden.*

Good point. Could one of you call the couple out and laugh at the ridiculousness? Like there's no way you're taking it seriously because you won't be told what you can do?

manateehugger

mschristie123 said:

Lol @Banana468, that would be great, but would involve us actually leaving the bus- which is *Strictly Forbidden.*

Ask if they are providing adult diapers or if you will be required to bring your own.

mschristie123

banana468 said:

Lol @Banana468, that would be great, but would involve us actually leaving the bus- which is *Strictly Forbidden.*

Good point. Could one of you call the couple out and laugh at the ridiculousness? Like there's no way you're taking it seriously because you won't be told what you can do?

Actually some of the GM called the groom out yesterday via text for the ridiculousness of the email. The groom literally has no idea why any of that is inappropriate and is blindsided that his friends are so annoyed with them. This isn't really just specific to their wedding though, this is how he always is. The couple frequently gets on people's nerves, and is shocked when people get pissy with them. Apparently the groom said to my H, "I don't know what the problem is here, *Bride's* bridesmaids aren't complaining about these requests!"

mysticl

mschristie123 said:

banana468 said:

Lol @Banana468, that would be great, but would involve us actually leaving the bus- which is *Strictly Forbidden.*

Good point. Could one of you call the couple out and laugh at the ridiculousness? Like there's no way you're taking it seriously because you won't be told what you can do?

Actually some of the GM called the groom out yesterday via text for the ridiculousness of the email. The groom literally has no idea why any of that is inappropriate and is blindsided that his friends are so annoyed with them. This isn't really just specific to their wedding though, this is how he always is. The couple frequently gets on people's nerves, and is shocked when people get pissy with them. Apparently the groom said to my H, "I don't know what the problem is here, *Bride's* bridesmaids aren't complaining about these requests!"

Did anyone explain to him that they are, they are just doing it behind her back?

banana468

mschristie123 said:

banana468 said:

mschristie123 said:

Lol @Banana468, that would be great, but would involve us actually leaving the bus- which is *Strictly Forbidden.*

Good point. Could one of you call the couple out and laugh at the ridiculousness? Like there's no way you're taking it seriously because you won't be told what you can do?

Actually some of the GM called the groom out yesterday via text for the ridiculousness of the email. The groom literally has no idea why any of that is inappropriate and is blindsided that his friends are so annoyed with them. This isn't really just specific to their wedding though, this is how he always is. The couple frequently gets on people's nerves, and is shocked when people get pissy with them. Apparently the groom said to my H, "I don't know what the problem is here, *Bride's* bridesmaids aren't complaining about these requests!"


I think the GM may need to eat up on power food before they get into the bus. Hope about beans and burritos?

lyndausvi

mschristie123 said:

thisismynickname said:

Helllllllllllll no.

I don't know a single person besides maybe a parent of a bride or groom that would give $1,000 as a gift, let alone $2,000. (Not even $500!)  If you can't afford Fiji out of your own salary, you don't get to go to fucking Fiji.  

Well I think the point is that you can chip in whatever you want to go towards that experience. I was just blow away by how tacky it was to put the prices for each experience on there! Like I said, I don't know if this is normal, but it didn't take DH's friends too long to add up how much their honeymoon would be..... Somewhere in the ballpark of $30,000. Funded by their friends.

I did get a $1000+ gift from a guest.   A guest who was a plus one of my MIL.  He could not make the wedding.  He sent down a wad of cash in an envelope with MIL.   I've met the guy once.    It was right out of the wedding scene of Goodfellas.   I couldn't even send an TY note because he's married.   Yes, you read the right.   Him and MIL were together for 20 something years (they are no longer together).

Anyway.  I've live in the Caribbean.  Not sure where they are coming from and going to, but 1st class to the Caribbean is overrated at $2K.   Free? Sure.   Even the $250 at the gate upgrade, not $2K.   

My HM was less than their dream $30K HM and we went to much cooler places than the caribbean.   Including 2 different continents. 

lyndausvi

DH is in a wedding in a few weeks.  There is a gap for the WP to take pictures.  I'm invited on the bus that is taking them around.    The bus has a built in bar and bathroom.         While I'm not a fan of gaps if they are all like this one I might change my mind on the subject.

levioosa

sarahufl said:

Who tells a bunch of adults when they are and are not allowed to pee?

Ain't nobody telling me I can't leave to go to the bathroom.  I don't care if it's your "speshul day,"  you can't dictate my bathroom or my water drinking habits.  The bus has to park sometime.  What is the bride going to do, keep them all on a leash tethered to her so they can't escape for three minutes to use the bathroom?

scrunchythief

Is it bad that I'm kind of hoping the B+G get arrested for unlawful imprisonment or something on their "special day" for trapping people on a bus?  It'd make the day much more memorable!

princessleia22

flantastic said:

nicoann said:

At a wedding I'm BM in next weekend, there is a 3-hour gap between ceremony & reception (both at same hotel), for wedding party to go take photos off site (in a party bus).  I know there is a decent sized wedding party, so I didn't even bother asking if DH could come along for photos, as I expect there won't be space for everyone's SO's.  Instead, since I assumed he would be left behind at the hotel, and anyone he knows is in the wedding party, we booked a room there for the night of the wedding so he could go relax in the hotel room, rather than get stuck miserably waiting in the bar or lobby... which is probably what all the other guests will be doing during the gap. 

I kind of want you to "accidentally" get yourself left behind from the photo tour and hang out with him instead.

Trust me, I'd prefer that. Especially since I do feel really bad that DH will be on his own all day. Before ceremony, he'll be on his own while we do hair & makeup.  Then at ceremony, he'll be sitting by himself (or with my parents, his in-laws), since I'm in wedding party.  Then there's the 3-hour photo gap where he's on his own, while bridal party hangs out in a party bus & takes photos. Then at reception, they are having a head table with bridal party, but not dates, so he'll be on his own there too (well, sitting with in-laws again). So, I'm dragging him across country for this wedding, but he will be on his own the whole time. Even on our flight back home, we weren't able to get seats next to each other! I know my husband can handle it, especially since we prepared by getting hotel room, and it gives him a good opportunity to get to know some of my family better.

But, I feel bad for dates of other BM's.  If he wasn't my spouse, I wouldn't put a date through a day like that.  What type of date is that where you don't see them the whole time?

And honestly, at this point, DH is actually kind of curious to see how bad this wedding goes.  And I think he plans to poll people during the gap and possibly inform the bride about how miserable her guests really were. Although, at that point it's too late to fix anything, so I'm will try to keep him from informing her that people hated her wedding... because that's just mean.  But, I would like to know the results & comments to post on TK to hopefully prevent future brides from making that mistake.

steph861

Just pee in the bus and then we'll see how she feels about prohibiting bathroom breaks.