2 Thank Yous or 1?

Sugargirl1019

DH's grandmother has severe Alzheimer's and lives with his aunt. She doesn't know that we got married and wouldn't remember, but she's able to read and knit and do little activities.

Aunt has control over grandmas bank account, so she generously gave us a check from both her and grandmas account in the same card.

Should I send a thank you note to each woman? Or just to Aunt? Grandma probably doesn't know about the money (or wouldn't remember if she DID give it..).. I just don't know what I should do.

sarahufl

Would it upset her to get a thank you card for a gift she didn't remember getting? I know everyone has different reactions with Alzheimer's so you may need to be careful.

I think I would thank your aunt with a traditional thank you card and maybe send grandma a framed photo of you and H at your wedding? That way, you are acknowledging her and giving her something thoughtful from the day without potentially upsetting her.

Sugargirl1019

The picture would have to be way in the future, as we won't be getting our professional pictures back for awhile. I'll address one thank you to both of them, and if aunt wants to show it to grandma, she can.