Originally I was thinking of doing the cards as "Mr. & Mrs. Hisfirst Hislast and family" for families with children. Both of us come from large families, so some last names are used for several families. Then I though I would do one for each person, including children. Now I am stuck.
I relied on my FI to compile his side of the guest list. He brought me a list of names and waited until a week before to get addresses. I told him we needed phone numbers too but he said we could get those later. So I sent out invites.
I am by no means an expert on his side of the family. He has a cousin (i think?) who we sent an invite to. I tried really hard to follow etiquette while addressing the invites. I sent it to Husband, Wife, and Daughter, as was on the list. While doing the seating chart he mentions that Husband, Wife, Daughter and baby Son (!!!!!!!!) would like to sit with so and so. I pulled out the RSVP. Sure enough, I sent an invite to three people and they RSVPed for three.
FI is out of town and has tried to contact his sister for the phone number. I had her on the phone and asked for the number to follow up. She doesn't have it. So I asked FMIL for the number. Also got a no. They both said "oh, well it is probably just Wife and the kids". I did not explain that we accidentally left the baby off the invite to FSIL or FMIL because I know that they would say "They probably know that he was invited". I know this from experiences in other situations. Everyone on their side knows what is supposed to happen, regardless of what is said.
I am at a loss here. I don't know who else to try and FI says he has no ideas. I could try finding them on facebook but worry that they might not get it in time or that it would be weird coming from me (FI doesn't have FB).
As for the caterer, the baby wont make a difference in the numbers. If I can't follow up with her how do I do the escort cards? Not doing assigned seats, just assigned tables. How much more should I do to get an answer? Wedding is 7 days away and I have to get escort cards done and printed soon. This particular group is the only one with their last name. Should I just put "The Lastname Family" for this group and any others that do not share a last name with other groups and the rest would go back to "Mr. & Mrs. Hisfirst Hislast and family"?
Sorry its so long!!!!!