I'm getting married in less than a month, and so my bridesmaids and close friends held my bachelorette party. We rented a house on Nantucket. It was attended by my best friend from childhood, my best friend from college and some of my closest friends I've met since college. They are an incredible group of women and everyone got along extremely well. So much so that my stomach hurt for two days just from all the laughing and sharing of stories.
The day after everyone left, I got the following note via Facebook from my best friend from childhood (and bridesmaid). The kind of friend that you spent more time together than apart in high school, but have since lived 3,000 miles apart for years. You still see one another when you can and know that the other has your back.
Hey you~Hope you are having fun and the weather is better. I am writing this to you to let you know that I will not be making the wedding. I am so very sorry. I am sending you my dress, and it has not been altered in any way. I feel very undeserving of the opportunity and I feel that you have very good friends that very much deserve to be standing next to you on your big day. I know you are going to be absolutely stunning and everything is going to be amazing. I am so very happy for you. You deserve the very best, and I think you have found it in every aspect of your life. I am not doing this to hurt you. I hope you know me better than that. I hope your day turns out to be everything you dreamed it to be.
I wrote back and asked if she could talk. She replied she was at work. I wrote back and asked if she could talk that night because it seemed to be a conversation for the phone, not text, and she replied that she had to take her car to the shop. (She of course has a cell phone.)
I feel it is truly one thing to say you don't feel comfortable being in my wedding party because you feel I have friends that I am closer to as an adult, however, I that is a very different thing than saying you won't be attending someone's wedding, isn't it?
I'm wondering if anyone else had had something similar happen and how they handled it?