This is stupid. I'm sure I'm way over thinking this. In the line of not using your new last name monogram until you're actually married, should the order of your names be switched at the reception?
So for instance ... on the invitations we had a bellyband with our names on it. It read "Bridesfirstname and Groomsfirstname." Because the bride is listed first right. So at the top of the programs I put "Bridesfirstname and Groomsfirstname". But now I'm about to do the menus ... and at the reception we'll be married ... so should it be "Groomsfirstname and Bridesfirstname"? Or does the brides name go first on any and all wedding stationary until after the wedding?