Hello everyone, this is my first time posting and I have dilemma regarding my father. I will try to keep it short and to the point. So over the years I have not had a healthy relationship with my parents (they were unhappily married for many years and got divorced a few years back, for some reason they have enjoyed taking out their frustrations for each other on me) my mother not so much but my father constantly even after they divorced. My father has a new girlfriend he would like to bring to the wedding and considering some time has passed since the divorce I felt that was okay and even offered my mother to bring a guest. Needles to say she was very upset he was bringing someone, I explained that she was given the same choice. She was still upset but didn't say much. Then my father tells me he wants to walk in to the reception and be announced with his girlfriend of a year. I kindly explained to him that I didn't feel it was the best decision as I knew my mother would be devastated before even talking to her because of the way she reacting when she found out he was bringing someone. He then accused me of conspiring with my mother about the decision, which I did not speak to her about it, I instead confided in my two younger sisters who also felt it might be a bit to much for my mother to emotional handle that day. My father was very argumentative about he's decision and again stated how everyone is out to get him ( his typical response when he doesn't get his way). I explained that I am trying my hardest to make everyone happy and comprise. My mother didn't want her even at the wedding but I stood up for him and explained he has a right to being someone but I explained to him I felt being announced with her and taking professional pictures of them might me pushing it a bit much and I did not want to see my mother that upset (after my discussion with my father about the issues I did talk to my mother who did flip out and say if that happens she won't come). So after my conversation with my father he then decides because he did not get his way that he would punish me ( he has done this several times in the past when money is involved and he doesn't get what he wants). He originally told fi and myself that he would give us 5k towards the wedding, which is the same amount he have my sister and told my other sister she would receive as well. Well yesterday I asked him about payment to the reception hall as they had not received his payment yet and the wedding is a little less then 3 weeks away. He then proceeds to tell me that has since changed his mind and he will no longer be giving that amount because only 4 of his family members will be there so he will only give me 4k ( his family is very small because no one speaks to each other they constantly fight and the issues are usually about money). How could someone own father do this to them so soon before the wedding? There is not enough time to collect that type of money and I am completely crushed that my own father would treat me this way although I feel I should have know better as he always does this to me ( my college education, when he was divorcing my mother he talked me into getting a cell phone in my name for him and then never paid it for the two years, and then he wanted to move in with fi and myself but not really pay any rent or to contribute to daily chores). My therapist recommend breaking off all ties with my father use to the way he has treated me time and time again. (He did not pull any of this bs at my sisters wedding). So my question is I am so incredibly hurt by this punishment he has decided to place upon me for not getting is way. I know after the wedding I will no longer keep in contact or attempt a relationship with him. Is it wrong of my to just not invite him to the wedding? Thank you for your help I greatly appreciate it