Etiquette on who to bring to final fitting?

abaughm3

For some reason my original message won't show up.

Basically I was wondering what the etiquette is because when I asked my future MIL if she could go with me, she acted like she shouldn't be seeing me in my dress beforehand.

manateehugger

There is no etiquette. Bring whoever you want there and whoever wants to tag along. It was just me and my mom for mine. 

abaughm3

Thanks for the input

climbingsingle

manateehugger said:

There is no etiquette. Bring whoever you want there and whoever wants to tag along. It was just me and my mom for mine. 

This. There's no etiquette on this. Bring whomever you'd like. My FMIL would probably want to attend my final fitting if she was here (she lives in FL).

vmj23

Depending on how complicated your dress is (if there is a bustle, corset, etc) I'd also suggest brining someone that will be helping  you dress, so they can see what they will need to do! 

abaughm3

My dress has a corset top that needs zipped and laced as well as a bustle.  I'm definitely intending to bring someone to the fitting, I was just hoping the future MIL was more receptive.  My fiance said he was going to talk to her about it because she probably didn't realize how important this would be for me.  My mom passed away when I was 15, so this whole process has been a little difficult.

manateehugger

abaughm3 said:

My dress has a corset top that needs zipped and laced as well as a bustle.  I'm definitely intending to bring someone to the fitting, I was just hoping the future MIL was more receptive.  My fiance said he was going to talk to her about it because she probably didn't realize how important this would be for me.  My mom passed away when I was 15, so this whole process has been a little difficult.

I'm sorry about your mom.

Hrrmmm, how did you pose it to her? If you just kind of said, "I need someone to go to my fitting with me," I can see her being less than enthusiastic. 

If you said, "Hey MIL, I was hoping you might go to my final fitting with me. It would mean a lot of me to have the strongest mother figure in my life there with me" I could see her reacting a little differently. 

Being asked to go to a fitting doesn't sound like a huge deal offhand, so you may just want to explain what it would mean to you.

atlastmrsg

My MOH came to one of my fittings to make sure she could bustle my dress.  So you may want to bring one of your maids who's planning on being sober enough to do it.

lotsosandwiches

I bet she just wasn't thinking! I asked my FMIL if she wanted to see a picture of my dress on my phone and she responded, "Oh! I'm not supposed to see it before the wedding!" Then I laughed and said, "I'm not marrying YOU! FI isn't supposed to see it before the wedding!" Then she also laughed and said, "Oh yeah, you're right! Let me see it!" Now she won't stop talking about the dress and I'm worried she's actually going to tell my FI too much. Just ask her again like it's the first time you're bringing it up, and if she says the thing about not wanting to see it, just call her silly and remind her it's actually her SON that isn't supposed to see it, and that'd it would mean a lot to have her there. I'm sure she'll be flattered and happy to come to your fitting!