One aspect I am struggling with is asking not my brides maides, but my "personal attendent." We have a small close knit group of college girls, so 6 are in my bridal party. However, one of my good friends won't be a BM, but is part of that close group! I dont want an odd number of BM, and 8 is too many. So, I was thinking of asking her to be my personal assistant on the wedding day. HOwever, I don't want to be rude, so I'm not sure how to word it. Did any of you have this problem? And if so, what did you do about it?