I know where I stand

LadyMillil

Bridezilla sis update 

I've posted before about being kicked out of my sister's WP because I couldn't afford the cost of the required dress+shoes+accessories+hair+make-up+nails and I wasn't comfortable wearing the outfit she picked. No budget or dress opinion was asked, BMs were just told "this is the dress. go buy it". When I mentioned my concerns I was told that she didn't care, that this was what she wanted so her pictures would be awesome and if I wouldn't wear what she wanted I couldn't be in her WP. She promoted one of the BMs to MOH (replacing me) and asked another girl to be a BM because even sides. 

I thought all this was hurtful, until now. I was talking to MOB and found out that the new MOH wasn't able to afford the attire either so sis bought it for her because she didn't want her friend to drop out of the WP. Another BM was uncomfortable wearing the dress that was picked out, so BM and sis went shopping together and picked out an alternative option for this BM. She didn't care when I had issues with the cost and was uncomfortable with the attire, but when her friends have a problem she does whatever it takes to keep the friends in the WP. There are no words. Glad to know she makes exceptions/helps out her friends but wouldn't do anything for me.

raissyrais

That's tough...sorry that this is happening to you!

beethery

Your sister sounds like a dink!

Viczaesar

That's awful.  I would be horribly hurt.  I'm sorry.

missdelilah

I'm so sorry to hear about it.  I find getting on with sister incredibly difficult at times.  

She gave all the other BMs options on the dresses, but I only got the BM invite a few months before the wedding, so had already bought a dress to wear anyway.  I still had to buy the dress she wanted, that I felt uncomfortable in, and wear it all night, even though the other ladies got some amount of input in to theirs.  NBD, except that I spent the whole wedding feeling exposed.  I don't think it made it her photos any better.  Fortunately the dress wasn't expensive, she paid for hair and make up, and I could choose shoes.  

Your sister sounds like a raging BZ.  If I were in your position, I'd be tempted to tell her I wasn't even going to attend the wedding.  You're a better person that I am.  

Grab yourself a drink, and fantasize a little about small things you can do to piss her off on the day.  I don't suggest doing them, but imagining doing them was fun for me, and my situation wasn't nearly as bad.  

Know you've got a ton of support here. x

WinstonsGirl

That sucks. I'm sure it has to do with you being her sister. It's 'easier' to treat family poorly, cos for the most part, they'll always be there (or so the thought is). Friends an bail much more easily than family can. Doesn't excuse stupid behaviour though

hellohkb

Man, that's really horrible. You would think she would go out of her way for her sister, you know? Sorry you have to deal with it and I'm glad you seem to be taking it well (way better than I would).

Simply Fated

She probably figured that because you're sisters you should have sucked it up. Or maybe she's out of females as replacements and no one answered her Craigs list ad.
What ever. You're better off not dealing with that crap.

wandajune6

She did you a favor. You were spared the dress, more expenses, the opportunity for some truly BZ-ish antics, and whatever other bullshit she would have going your way. On top of that, you know where you stand. That makes it easier to extricate yourself from drama.

I'd look at this is a good thing, even though it hurts now.

RebeccaFlower

Oh man, I would be really hurt but it definitely sounds like you dodged a serious bullet. 

PineapplePopsicles

@simplyfated   no one answered her Craigslist ad.... ha!!

LadyMillil

missdelilah said:

Your sister sounds like a raging BZ.  If I were in your position, I'd be tempted to tell her I wasn't even going to attend the wedding.  You're a better person that I am.  

Thanks for the support everyone.

I'm going to Skype in for the ceremony. She didn't check the date with anyone before booking and it is one of the worst times of year for me to take time off work to travel cross-country so after the way she treated me and a lot of other inconveniences and issues I've decided that the travel expense and time isn't worth it.  

daria24

What a twat.

That's all I got. 

hellohkb

Didn't she not want chairs at the ceremony? At least if you Skype in you will get a seat ;-)

LadyMillil

hellokellybean said:

Didn't she not want chairs at the ceremony? At least if you Skype in you will get a seat ;-)

Yup, she is being "quirky and unique" by using hay bales (which I'm highly allergic to) and blankets on the ground for seating. MOB jumped in and arranged chairs for the "old people"