Stress and anxiety.

birdybride2014

How do you/did you deal with your wedding planning anxiety? What were your most stressful aspects of planning?

I'm starting to get super stressed out. I can't really put my finger on exactly why. We are pretty much right on schedule, but I think these last things we have left to do are the least fun, most time consuming, and annoying. Plus, I'm getting anxiety when people asking me things that I just don't quite have the answer to yet (ex. plans/schedules the morning of the wedding, I JUST DON'T KNOW YET!! lol )...it makes me feel as though I am behind.

I took last week off from wedding planning and this week I need to get back into the grove again. Starting to address invites/start planning rehearsal dinner.

bucksgirl414

I am planning my 2nd wedding so im a little more relaxed this time around.

All I can say IT ALL WORKS OUT!!!!!

Just arrange things the way you want and let them play out the way they will play out.......worse comes to worse IF something goes wrong...... either nobody will even notice or you'll have a funny story to tell.

My first wedding MY LIMO BUS BROKE DOWN ON THE WAY TO THE CHURCH. Yup whole inside filled up with smoke my BM'S and I were left on the side of the road to be picked up by my other guest and taken to the church LOL the BM's all had transmission fluid on their dresses it was a mess!!! But its a funny story NOW and it is the one thing I didnt even stress about. .... POINT BEING.... go with the flow and JUST HAVE FUN!

mschristie123

Details. Details really make me flip the hell out. My anxiety really kicked up about 3 months out when things started getting more nitty gritty. One of the things that was most stressful was making sure that I didn't forget everything and that everything was completed. I used TK checklist for a long time, but as I got closer to the wedding and the smaller details started to completely overwhelm me, I made my own extremely comprehensive To-Do list to keep track of everything minute detail. I organized it broadly into months. (Tasks for March, Tasks for April, Tasks for May). As I got closer, I was able to be more detailed and plan tasks by the week/weekend.

That really helped me manage all the details that were stressing me out. And having a large list that I was constantly adding to helped me make sure nothing got forgotten. It really helped. I think the only thing I forgot to do was to a get a ring bearer gift. I remembered the day of our rehearsal dinner. My MOH (ring bearer's mommy) said not to sweat it. He'll get a big Xmas gift this year from us. :-)

manateehugger

1. Make lists. Have your giant checklist of stuff to still get done and parse it up into tiny chunks by week or day. When everything is a giant "You haven't finished this" sign, it's easy to get anxious about everything and nothing. Break it down for yourself.

2. With list in hand, tell yourself, "Today, I will make a day of schedule and confirm start time with the stylist." Do those things, and then don't think about your wedding afterward (unless it's fluffy thoughts). Your list is the master; once you've done what you need to do for the day, no more wedding to-do stress or thoughts.

3. With list in hand, if annoying people are asking you about wedding things you can say, "I don't have the schedule yet, but I'm getting it done by Tuesday."

4.Delegate to your FI if you haven't been already. Give your FI things on your list. 

5. Treat yourself to a nightly glass of wine and remember that you'll soon be married. 

MegEn1

I'm just getting anxious because everything is costing about $500 more than I had planned. We have the money, but at what point do you STOP SINKING YOUR CASH into this beast?!

penguin44

manateehugger said:

1. Make lists. Have your giant checklist of stuff to still get done and parse it up into tiny chunks by week or day. When everything is a giant "You haven't finished this" sign, it's easy to get anxious about everything and nothing. Break it down for yourself.

2. With list in hand, tell yourself, "Today, I will make a day of schedule and confirm start time with the stylist." Do those things, and then don't think about your wedding afterward (unless it's fluffy thoughts). Your list is the master; once you've done what you need to do for the day, no more wedding to-do stress or thoughts.

3. With list in hand, if annoying people are asking you about wedding things you can say, "I don't have the schedule yet, but I'm getting it done by Tuesday."

4.Delegate to your FI if you haven't been already. Give your FI things on your list. 

5. Treat yourself to a nightly glass of wine and remember that you'll soon be married. 

All of this. I also invested in some bath salts. When I was really stressed I would take a long bath, drink wine, and read my book.

birdybride2014

penguin44 said:

manateehugger said:

1. Make lists. Have your giant checklist of stuff to still get done and parse it up into tiny chunks by week or day. When everything is a giant "You haven't finished this" sign, it's easy to get anxious about everything and nothing. Break it down for yourself.

2. With list in hand, tell yourself, "Today, I will make a day of schedule and confirm start time with the stylist." Do those things, and then don't think about your wedding afterward (unless it's fluffy thoughts). Your list is the master; once you've done what you need to do for the day, no more wedding to-do stress or thoughts.

3. With list in hand, if annoying people are asking you about wedding things you can say, "I don't have the schedule yet, but I'm getting it done by Tuesday."

4.Delegate to your FI if you haven't been already. Give your FI things on your list. 

5. Treat yourself to a nightly glass of wine and remember that you'll soon be married. 

All of this. I also invested in some bath salts. When I was really stressed I would take a long bath, drink wine, and read my book.

The bolded may be what saves my life. I think I tend to complete things on my list and then feel the need to tackle something new, which then overwhelms me.

loveislouder

MegEn1 said:

I'm just getting anxious because everything is costing about $500 more than I had planned. We have the money, but at what point do you STOP SINKING YOUR CASH into this beast?!

Tell me about it.  Just got a quote for flowers for just me, my 6 girls, FI, his 6 guys, our moms and dads - 1500.00. FIFTEEN HUNDRED DOLLARS. I could feed a starving African village for a week with that.

birdybride2014

@loveislouder I'm doing my own bouquets because I was NOT going to pay that much for something that was going to die. NOPE. Being a budget bride is definitely adding to the stress factor lol

why am i in a box? wahh.

loveislouder

@birdybride2014 Budget Brides all the way lol. I found a Buzzfeed yesterday that was full of free printables for brides ( http://www.buzzfeed.com/melissaharrison/free-wedding-printables#44jr2zq ) so I'm going to hunt through to see if (with a little elbow grease) I can print my invites.