No BM's but still want my friends with me while I get ready

jackannlu

Me and my FI have decided not to have a wedding party, well at least not bridesmaids and groomsmen although we are considering flower girls and a ring bearer. However, I still want my closest friends with me while I'm getting ready. Anyone have any experience with something like this?

lurkergirl

Yep. My close friend isn't having a wedding party, so one day when we were talking about our wedding plans she was like, "Hey, it would mean a lot to me to have you there with me while I'm getting ready for my wedding." I was like, "Hell yeah, I would love to!"..................................................................................(no paragraphs, sorry)...........That said...you do need to be prepared for not everyone to be as enthusiastic as me. Even as a bridesmaid they aren't required to spend the day with you/get ready with you. Don't be hurt or offended or take it personally if they decline.

manateehugger

I haven't done this personally, but I see nothing wrong with asking a few couple friends if they want to sip mimosas with you the morning before the wedding.  I would have food and drinks around though so they aren't just sitting around watching you get your hair and makeup done. 

Agreed that you need to be prepared and no upset in the event they decline and would rather spend the morning with their SO's or families. 

atlastmrsg

Scope out their interest in a mimosa brunch.  It would be boring for them to sit there while you get your nails/hair/make up done.  But a brunch beforehand with champagne, either somewhere pretty or even set up in your hotel suite, would be a way for you to get quality time with them and get some pics together.  Then let them go get ready on their own while you do the same.

Maggie0829

There is nothing wrong with asking some of your close friends to hang out the morning of the wedding with you and get ready.

But I will be honest here.  Even if you were a really good friend of mine I don't think I would want to get ready with you.  Most likely you will have to get ready a heck of a lot earlier then a normal guest would and I really would not want to get up earlier/get ready earlier then is needed and then have to sit around for a while all dressed up when I really don't have to.

atlastmrsg

lurkergirl said:

Yep. My close friend isn't having a wedding party, so one day when we were talking about our wedding plans she was like, "Hey, it would mean a lot to me to have you there with me while I'm getting ready for my wedding." I was like, "Hell yeah, I would love to!"..................................................................................(no paragraphs, sorry)...........That said...you do need to be prepared for not everyone to be as enthusiastic as me. Even as a bridesmaid they aren't required to spend the day with you/get ready with you. Don't be hurt or offended or take it personally if they decline.

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lessonlearnedinmay

I think it's fine to invite them and if they want to come, great, if not, that should be fine, too. 

climbingsingle

Yup. I'm only having a MOH, but I've invited a few of my closest girlfriends to stop by the bridal suite. We'll be having breakfast and mimosas. 

banana468

I think it's fine to ask and just not expect it.   That said, as long as it wasn't a logistical issue, I'd love to do that with a friend especially if champagne and OJ was involved! 

jackannlu

Champagne and OJ will definitely be involved plus some food to munch on! Even if its only my sister and mother, champagne will be involved! Lol Plus, I am having a late ceremony and reception (6pm) so I wouldn't ask them to be there ridiculously early in the morning or anything.  

dinnerparty3

Yes! I am doing this (my wedding is in 2.5 weeks!) ! FH and I did not want BMs and GMs but I want my three closest friends there with me as I get ready, and I also want pics with them! Soon into my wedding planning I asked each of them if they would be my "unofficial bridesmaids" (since if I was having BMs I would of course ask them) and I explained that this was what I wanted. They were all very enthusiastic (and grateful to not have to purchase a BM dress)! Do it!