Should I just redo this... PIP

jakeiaf

So a little back story I came off depo provera and gained 70 pounds in a little over a year... I'm sure that my 16 hour work shifts and 15 credits factored somewhere in there but long story short I gained a whole lot of weight. I took my engagement photos and it finally hit me how much weight I gained. They came out beautifully and I do love them but since then I have lost 40 pounds I was wondering if I should redo my shoot or stick with these photos. These photos will be going on my STD and invitations but they don't even look like me. What do you think?

This is the photo I posted after I came off the Daniel's fast I lost about 28 pounds. 

This was the last photo I took... Here I am about 185...

If you were in my shoes would you re-do your shoot?

pinkcow13

Congrats on your weight loss! What is this Daniel's fast?

I think you look beautiful in your engagement photos, as well as after the weight loss. Do you feel happy and comfortable with the current engagement photos? If you personally don't feel happy with them, or don't feel that you look your best, and if another shoot is within your budget, then go for it. Although I do think they look great!

 I know myself, and if I lost weight I know that I would personally take the pics over. That is just me, though. I remember re-taking my HS graduation pictures because I was not happy with the first set.

wandajune6

I think you look beautiful in all of them. I'd only retake them if you're truly unhappy with what you have.

jenna8984

I think you look great in the photos and now. But I can understand wanting to show off who you are now since you are probably proud of yourself and feel more confident. Depending how much the session costs though, I'd either have a friend with a quality camera take a shot or 2 for free, or just not use a picture on the save the date. Or after my fiasco, not even send save the dates hahah.

doeydo

I wouldn't use pictures on invitations because that is kind of weird and AWish IMO, but STD photos of you two are fine.  If you can afford it, you can always have another photo shoot or, as PP said, have someone with a decent camera get a few shots (you can Google couple photo pose ideas and just do it in someone's backyard or something).  I guess what I am trying to say is it is really up to you.  You look great in all of them.

slothiegal

I agree with what PPs have said; if you're truly unhappy, redo them.  But personally, I think you look GREAT in both the before and after and would focus on how AMAZING your wedding pics are going to look.  I didn't love how I looked in my e-pics because of my big ol' chubby cheeks....but what I hated more what how much money it would cost to redo them, ha.  

Again, you look awesome and a huge congrats for the weight loss!

levioosa

I think you look great, but I know how you feel.  In the last year my birth control has made me gain forty pounds as well, and I don't feel like myself.  Don't beat yourself up; you look wonderful!  

@Pinkcow13, I believe this is what she is referring to (it's what everyone I know who's referred to the Daniel Fast has done).

http://www.daniel-fast.com/

It's basically a vegan diet that abstains from breads and sweeteners as well.  It's based off the book of Daniel in the Bible where Daniel refuses the king's food in favor of the food of his faith.  He undergoes a challenge to prove that his diet will make him stronger and healthier than the king's diet.  At the end of it, he and his companions are stronger and healthier than any of the king's men.  He is eventually elevated to Right Hand Man status.  Obviously there's a lot more theology involved, but that's the Cliff's Notes summary version.  

AddieCake

I think you look good, but I would redo them if it were me. I would just really want pics of me as my most current me to be used, if that makes sense.

lyndausvi

AddieCake said:

I think you look good, but I would redo them if it were me. I would just really want pics of me as my most current me to be used, if that makes sense.

yep.

And let's talk about those shoes.  Girl, no wayI would be able to walk in those things.  More power you to you if you can.

jakeiaf

Thank you @pinkcow13 @wandajune6 @jenna8984 @doeydo @slothiegal @AddieCake The couple who did our shoot were professionals and were attempting to get put on a gay friendly vendor site to show their support so they only charge us $75 for 2 hour shoot. So I suggested to my fiance we re-do our shoot. She was so down because she also lost alot of weight with the Daniels fast. We will probably re-do with the same people because they were so cheap. I really appreciate the advice. I definitely want to show the new (well kinda old) me in my photos. @Time2strtliving that is exactly the fast I was on. On the depo shot, everyone I know blew up. Except one person, she got super skinny. Lucky her. And @lyndausvi let's just say that I got those shoes made by a friend just for those photos and I never wore them again. I spent most of the shoot in just one shoe. ETA: Where are my paragraphs TK? Come on sheesh.

Kauris

I just wanted to add, that you look great in the photos, because you genuinely look happy and that comes through. But I did the same thing, I had a set of our engagements redone because I wasn't happy with them and our photographers were happy to accommodate us.

suburbanstepmom

I think it could go one of two ways -

1. You are very unhappy with the photos, and it's in your budget to take new ones so you get them redone.

2. You are very unhappy with the photos but it's not within your budget to get them redone so your wedding day is like a "Biggest Loser" moment and you want out in your wedding dress and BAM - you're a new woman!

I think either of these scenarios could have a positive and reassuring outcome. On a side note, though, those shoes are AMAZING.

SBmini

Husband lost a ton of weight between engagement photos and the wedding. We took a second set somewhere in the middle- but he lost more weight after that so by the time we got married- he hated those photos too. 

What I would do is take some nice anniversary photos after your first anniversary. You don't need to use your engagement photos anywhere. You can do STD without photos, etc. So you don't *need* them. We didn't end up doing anything with our second set of engagement photos. 

climbingsingle

I think you look gorgeous! But I totally understand wanting them retaken now that you've lost some weight. That's hard to do and I'm sure you're proud of yourself! I'd have them redone, myself. Ditto on wanting the pictures to look like yourself now.