Hi All,
I have been on the knot since getting engaged 03/13. I know you all will give me honest , unbiased opinions on my issue. My fiance and I are getting married 9/27/14, and are over the moon thrilled. I have some family drama(step mother doesn't like me or any of her sister in-laws) so there's that challenge, but hey not to bad, some strategic seating chart planning and that can be resolved. So here comes the issue we just ran into. . . My fiance has 2 sisters - each having two kids- 1 boy, 1 girl each. We asked each set of sisters and kids separately in November, 2013 to be in our wedding as follower girls/ring bearers. We quickly decided we didn't want any kids at the ceremony/reception and told sister #1 at Christmas if the kids can take part in the ceremony but not the reception, and sister #1 was 100% fine with it and thought it was a great idea. Word quickly traveled between my family and our friends that we completely spaced on telling sister #2 since we haven't seen her since originally asking her kids. We found out from sister #1(just this weekend) that she told sister #2 about the no kids being at the wedding/reception and sister #2 flipped and how dare we not let her kids be at the reception. My fiance called sister #2 immediately after we found out she didn't know and apologized and tried to help find a solution, she said told him how could we do this to her and her kids and how he was the worst uncle for doing this and we better make an exception. She even told him she would call me, and would tell me to make an exception. We are just under 6 weeks out from our wedding and we don't want to make an exception for her because then we would have to for several other people's kids who are close to us. While I get where she is coming from that her kids are in the ceremony, I also feel like she may be over the top and has time to find an option. Any advise, even telling me I'm wrong is appreciated as I don't want to start my marriage on drama.
Thank you!