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Wedding Etiquette Forum
calliopeia2013
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Watching a train wreck
I've been off the boards since my wedding, but I just got a hilarious train wreck of a wedding invitation in the mail and felt like I needed to share it, so, hi, everyone.
I recently got this invitation (addressed to a dramatically incorrect version of my married name, btw) from a relatively close family member, who has always been maybe a little lacking on the etiquette front, but usually not egregiously. She sent out Save-the-Dates about six months before the wedding- and then, less than a week later, sent out invitations. These invitations set an RSVP date in about three weeks- i.e., five months before the wedding.
So, informal poll- is she B-listing (honestly, five months out, probably C-listing and D-listing, too), or really, really clueless about etiquette? Or both?
The invitation then directs guests to a cash registry.
Second informal poll- is it wrong of me to be finding this train wreck hilarious?
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Re: Watching a train wreck
That's the thing! She can be kind of clueless about things, so getting names right, and the cash registry, and so forth, I can maybe see her not knowing. The thing with the B-listing is that I can't think of any reason other than B-listing that she would need RSVPs 5 months in advance. I mean, it's not like the caterer needs 5 months to buy the food or anything. It's a DW for me, but not generally a DW (it's one of those things where the guests are really spread out so they picked the most central option out of several), so it's not like she's booking flights to Bali for everyone or whatever.
The sad part is, it's looking like I can't actually go because of a work conflict. I actually do like her as a person and would love to see her get married, plus it's going to be hilarious to see what else she comes up with - we do share one of those ethnicities where dollar dances are common, so that should be exciting - but I think I'm going to miss the fun. I guess there will be Facebook afterwards.
Not saying this ok, by any means! I can just see someone saying "Let's get the RSVPs in early enough so we know if we can add another option to the buffet/have more elaborate centerpieces/order favors/etc and we'll have enough time to do all of that"
It actually worked out somehow. At least the room didn't seem full. The biggest issue is that it was storming that day. Bad. (This same venue was destroyed by our really bad oklahoma tornados last year.) We got there about 20 before the ceremony was scheduled to start and they were still deciding if they wanted to have the ceremony outside or move it to the reception space.