Rant- Insults

smalfrie19

MagicInk said:

Ok I wanted to talk about straight allies, but I had to eat something first. Now I've had food and can talk.

Straight allies. It's big guys. It's huge. And this is the perfect example of why being a straight ally is so important to the gay community. I can sit here all day and talk about about how using gay and fag and dyke as insults is shitty. Because it is. Its shitty. There are plenty of good insult words out there (jerk, asshole), we don't need to take words that describe actual human people and use them to describe things we dislike.

But at the end of the day, I'm just some dyke. Of course bothers me. I'm fucking queer. But regular people, normal people, straight people, it doesn't bug them...right? It's so fucking easy, so easy, to silence the minority. As long as the majority is happy...it's fine. 

So when a straight ally stands up and says "No, that isn't ok. Those words aren't ok" it's our voice in the straight community. It's someone who isn't a fag or a dyke or queer or gay or trans, still saying this is wrong. It's the majority helping the minority. It's the majority saying we aren't happy with this, change it. And when our straight allies stand by our side and really support us, it mean so much.

Remember last summer when the HRC was all "Go Red for Marriage Equality" and everyone on FB changed their profile pics? Yeah I changed mine and so did FI. And my not so straight brothers, and my bi mom and lesbian step mom, but so did my straight dad. And so did my straight friends and straight co-workers of mine and FIs. People who in all honesty were not directly effected by DOMA being overturned, stood up and said over fucking turn it already. They stood up and said, by that very simple act, we support our LGBT friends, family, co-workers and fellow humans. 

So when you actively say "Don't use gay slurs as insults", you're standing up for your fellow humans. And that's fucking awesome. 

@pinkshorts27, let your FI know that by sitting silenty he's saying he's not a striaght ally. He's not going to stand up for his fellow humans. Martin Luther King Jr. said it best "In the end, we will remember not the words of our enemies, but the silence of our friends". 

And lastly from the NOFX song Re-Gaining Unconsciousness:

Then they beat and bashed the queers,
Turned away asylum-seekers,
Fed us suspicions and fears.
We didn't raise our voice,
We didn't make a fuss.
It's funny there was no one left to notice
When they came for us.

(which is a play on this original poem http://scott.hayes.org/thoughts/niemoller.html)

@MagicInk ..I love you.. please NEVER leave! 

VulgarGirl

smalfrie19 said:

MagicInk said:

Ok I wanted to talk about straight allies, but I had to eat something first. Now I've had food and can talk.

Straight allies. It's big guys. It's huge. And this is the perfect example of why being a straight ally is so important to the gay community. I can sit here all day and talk about about how using gay and fag and dyke as insults is shitty. Because it is. Its shitty. There are plenty of good insult words out there (jerk, asshole), we don't need to take words that describe actual human people and use them to describe things we dislike.

But at the end of the day, I'm just some dyke. Of course bothers me. I'm fucking queer. But regular people, normal people, straight people, it doesn't bug them...right? It's so fucking easy, so easy, to silence the minority. As long as the majority is happy...it's fine. 

So when a straight ally stands up and says "No, that isn't ok. Those words aren't ok" it's our voice in the straight community. It's someone who isn't a fag or a dyke or queer or gay or trans, still saying this is wrong. It's the majority helping the minority. It's the majority saying we aren't happy with this, change it. And when our straight allies stand by our side and really support us, it mean so much.

Remember last summer when the HRC was all "Go Red for Marriage Equality" and everyone on FB changed their profile pics? Yeah I changed mine and so did FI. And my not so straight brothers, and my bi mom and lesbian step mom, but so did my straight dad. And so did my straight friends and straight co-workers of mine and FIs. People who in all honesty were not directly effected by DOMA being overturned, stood up and said over fucking turn it already. They stood up and said, by that very simple act, we support our LGBT friends, family, co-workers and fellow humans. 

So when you actively say "Don't use gay slurs as insults", you're standing up for your fellow humans. And that's fucking awesome. 

@pinkshorts27, let your FI know that by sitting silenty he's saying he's not a striaght ally. He's not going to stand up for his fellow humans. Martin Luther King Jr. said it best "In the end, we will remember not the words of our enemies, but the silence of our friends". 

And lastly from the NOFX song Re-Gaining Unconsciousness:

Then they beat and bashed the queers,
Turned away asylum-seekers,
Fed us suspicions and fears.
We didn't raise our voice,
We didn't make a fuss.
It's funny there was no one left to notice
When they came for us.

(which is a play on this original poem http://scott.hayes.org/thoughts/niemoller.html)

@MagicInk ..I love you.. please NEVER leave! 

I have no intentions to do so!