My step-mom had a small get-together and wanted to get all of her grandchildren together at the same time. My oldest sister no longer talks to twin sis or me. It was so ridiculous. I don't know why the family has to try to get us together, when there is so much tension, you have to cut it with a chainsaw. How is that enjoyable for anyone? It is my step-mom's house, so she can invite whomever she wants. Next time, though, I will decline, unless it is a large birthday party or wedding to soak up some of that deafening silence.
I mean is it awkward for no one else when you say hi to someone and they don't answer you? Is it awkward for no one else when she ignores my nephew and shoos him away, because she is not allowed to consort with us or our spawn, nor is her daughter allowed to play with him. It was like a three hour game of keep away. Children, naturally want to play with other children, and are curious about them. I think it would be much harder for my nephew to understand when he gets older that he cannot play with her daughter or talk to her, when he sees her. The ridiculousness of it all!
It is just sad, to me, that my sister has cut my step-mom out of her life, several times, because her husband doesn't like her. Now, they are willing to talk to her because my step-mom gives gifts for her daughter. I know my step-mom is a free person to get hurt when my sister stops talking to her, again. You just have to let people learn for themselves. (I don't try and tell my step-mom what I think of my sister. In fact, I never say one negative word about her to people who are, still in contact with her. When people talk about seeing her, I don't shush them, because I don't want our situation to make them feel uncomfortable or feel bad about liking her.... as much as these conversations annoy me). However, it just hurts when I have appreciated my step-mom for the person she is, all of these years, and I have never turned my back on her. Now, I am the one who has to step away from these events, and miss out, for the fair weather step-daughter. I got little sleep, last night,.. I have very little family left, and I feel like I am being pushed out, the rest of the way.
I guess that's why my rift with her bothers me so much. It's not her, that I feel badly about, it is my time with the rest of my family. They all chose her first, because they know how delicate their relationship is. So they tiptoe on eggshells and pacify her, because they know their relationship could be next on the chopping block. My twin sister and I were the only ones who have had enough of the revolving door. Just a very crappy situation.