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My brother broke up with his FI.

And I could not be more relieved. Apparently she was smoking crack and trying to hide it from him. This was on top of a whole other mess of problems. I don't know if you guys remember, but we had an intervention for both her and him in January. 

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Not only was she trying to hide in the bathroom and smoke crack, she was doing all of this while her daughter was in the house. I honestly thought she was just drinking again. I had NO CLUE there were such serious drugs involved too. 

They came camping with us the other weekend, and she got shitfaced. She flipped out on my brother and was yelling and cursing at him. Again, all of this happened in front of her daughter. FI and I were pretty horrified, and I spent the rest of the night comforting her daughter. My FI had a long talk with my brother, and I think my brother took a lot of what he said to heart. So thankfully this Saturday, he woke her up and told her to get out of his house. She left, and the second he called me, I sent my locksmith friend over there to change the locks. 

Supposedly right now she's in a hospital. After she left my brother's, she went to her dad's house. He caught her calling people for drugs, and then she threatened to kill herself (which is apparently what she does, it's the reason my brother was afraid to end it with her). 

So, hopefully this whole ordeal is over. I will really miss her daughter though. That's what I'm most upset about, as is my brother. 

Re: My brother broke up with his FI.

  • This is me now:
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    Unfortunately we have had to deal with this in a way too.  The brother FI doesn't talk to?  Yeah.....crack is so fucking whack.





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    That is terrible!  I will keep her daughter in my thoughts.  It is amazing how selfish drug addicts are, and that seeing the suffering of their children is not enough to make them stop. it's really sad.  
      You must be relieved that your brother is finally free from that ex.  Let's hope she stays in the past and doesn't bring any more drama into his life.  
  • Holy crap! I'm so glad your FI was able to get through to him. Hopefully this will be the wake-up call she needs to get her shit right for her daughter!

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  • Holy cow!

     

    Is there any way you can stay in the daughter's life? Sounds like she'll need the support.

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  • That is awful.   Who has the daughter while she's in the hospital?    Hopefully there's at least a family member that can take her in.

    It's horrible when you see the consequences of drug use when a child is involved.   That poor little girl needs a lot of love. 
  • My heart breaks for her daughter but I think it says a lot about your brother's growth and strength to end things with her. I'll be thinking of y'all.

  • yikes! That is scary. I feel so terrible for children in that position.
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  • Thanks everyone. Right now the daughter is with her father. Her ex-husband's mom is also helping take care of her too. 

    The ex-husband is in court appointed rehab. Apparently he's a heroin addict. 
  • So sorry to hear about your bro's Fi (especially the daughter) but very glad your bro had the strength and maturity to end the relationship.  I feel terrible for the little girl.  Hopefully someone stable can take her in.
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  • That's so sad. Especially for the daughter, it's truly heartbreaking. I'm glad your brother made the right decision.
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  • What a terrible situation all around  :(  I'm so sorry...I hope your brother is doing OK and that your ex-FSIL is getting the help she so obviously needs.  Good on your bro taking steps to better his life.
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  • I feel so bad for the daughter. Is there any chance your brother has any contact with the ex-husband's mom? Depending on how long your brother was in this little girl's life grandma may understand why it would be beneficial to maintain some contact. 
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  • afox007 said:
    I feel so bad for the daughter. Is there any chance your brother has any contact with the ex-husband's mom? Depending on how long your brother was in this little girl's life grandma may understand why it would be beneficial to maintain some contact. 
    I know he's spoke to her a few times in the past. 
  • afox007 said:
    I feel so bad for the daughter. Is there any chance your brother has any contact with the ex-husband's mom? Depending on how long your brother was in this little girl's life grandma may understand why it would be beneficial to maintain some contact. 
    I know he's spoke to her a few times in the past. 
    If he's spoken with her and they are on good terms I really suggest he try to keep spending some time with the daughter. She needs a good support system right now. We had FI's ex's daughter live with us for a few months and now every time she needs someone to talk to she reaches out to me. 
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  • Happy for your brother to see the light.  Sad for that poor little girl.  It's just so unfair.


    My brother is taking care of SIL's 2 nephews (including having to fly to Croatia to get them) due to drug addicted parents.  I feel so bad for the boys.






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  • lyndausvi said:
    Happy for your brother to see the light.  Sad for that poor little girl.  It's just so unfair.


    My brother is taking care of SIL's 2 nephews (including having to fly to Croatia to get them) due to drug addicted parents.  I feel so bad for the boys.
    Oh that's terrible. Thank god for your brother. 
  • Crack??! Damn, that's some serious stuff right there. Good on your brother for doing the right thing! I really hope the daughter will grow up with the right familial support.
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  • I'm glad your brother was strong enough (and has such a wonderfully supportive family encouraging him) to make a healthy decision. So, so sorry about how painful the situation must be. Thinking of you all.

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  • That is terrible. I always feel the worst for the children. They do not get to choose who they have as parents.
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    I'm really happy for your brother! I'm sure he'll need a lot of love and support right now.
  • I'm sorry your brother is going through this, as necessary as it is.

    I feel awful for the ex's daughter. It sounds like she can use all the support she can get. Is she old enough to understand what's going on?
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  • I'm sorry your brother is going through this, as necessary as it is.


    I feel awful for the ex's daughter. It sounds like she can use all the support she can get. Is she old enough to understand what's going on?
    She's 6, so I think she understands quite a bit, unfortunately.
  • I'm sorry your brother is going through this, as necessary as it is.

    I feel awful for the ex's daughter. It sounds like she can use all the support she can get. Is she old enough to understand what's going on?
    She's 6, so I think she understands quite a bit, unfortunately.
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  • I feel so badly for your brother and the daughter. Hopefully she cleans up!
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  • Thanks for the kind words and thoughts, you guys. I really do appreciate all of you. <3 
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