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Should I allow my cousin to pay part of my wedding dress?

vguzman12vguzman12 member
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Before I got engaged my cousin said she would put $1000.00 down on my wedding dress. Should I hold her up to it?
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    holyguacamole79holyguacamole79 member
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    vguzman12 said:
    Before I got engaged my cousin said she would put $1000.00 down on my wedding dress. Should I hold her up to it?
    Does she know you're engaged?  Does she know you have found a dress?  Or is this something she said in passing earlier?

    I would not have a discussion like "hey, cuz - remember that $1k you promised me?  Where is it?"




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    charlottesmom0626charlottesmom0626 member
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    Did she go shopping with you? Are you close to her? If she came shopping with you and you said "this is the dress!" and she didn't offer, I wouldn't push the issue. If you are close to her and she couldn't make it, offer to show her a picture of the dress and see how she responds.

    I wouldn't outright say anything, it could come off as rude. "Hey I bought my dress, it was $XXXX, remember that grand you offered?"
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    Couggal12Couggal12 member
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    I would allow her to be the one to bring that up in a conversation. As PP mentioned I would not say something like "Soooo, about that $1,000 you promised me towards my dress." 
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    vguzman12vguzman12 member
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    Lol....well we are really close. I did set a date for wedding dress shopping and she will be there. I guess I will let her bring it up.
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    climbingsingleclimbingsingle member
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    I'd let her bring it up. There's no way I'd be all, "Hey, can I have that money now, like you promised?"
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    Maggie0829Maggie0829 member
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    vguzman12 said:
    Lol....well we are really close. I did set a date for wedding dress shopping and she will be there. I guess I will let her bring it up.
    Yup!

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    RebeccaFlowerRebeccaFlower member
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    If she brings it up, then you can talk about it. That is so kind and generous of her!
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    PineapplePopsiclesPineapplePopsicles member
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    Post a message on her fb wall and ask if she is still good for it.  That way she can't say no. 

    :)

    kidding, kidding. 
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    emmaaaemmaaa mod
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    Man, I wish I had your cousin. That would have paid for the majority of my wedding dress.

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    AlexaF2014AlexaF2014 member
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    Does this count as "She who pays has a say?" IDK if I would want ANYONE to get a say in my dress other than me. It was high up on my list of wedding priorities.

    I'd say just invite her shopping with you; prepare to pay for it yourself (if they ask for your budget, it's YOUR BUDGET, not your budget plus $1K) and if she brings it up, she brings it up. Otherwise, pay for it yourself.
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