So, I am having a really really hard time deciding where to get married -- in the city where I currently live (and where most friends and family live) or the city where fiancee just moved and where we will live together beginning in the spring, about a six hour drive/1 hourish flight from where I now live. We have a date set for the wedding in our new city (no deposit yet) at a place we both love. But my mother has thrown a fit about the wedding in my hometown city. Plus most of our guests (about 60% or so) are from my city, while very few (less than 20%) live in or closer to the newer city. In my city I would want to do a smaller restaurant wedding, possibly get married at city hall so no super formal ceremony. I feel anxious about planning anything else and a restaurant wedding feels intimate and fun to me, however, we would have to cut the guest list.
All things being equal, I love the venue in the new city more. But I have this fear that: (i) people won't come and (ii) I will be inconveniencing them if they do. Plus the logistics of playing host to certain cranky family members is starting to feel a bit overwhelming. Has anyone whose planned a quasi-destination wedding such as this have any advice or anecdotes on this?
Hopefully gathering thoughts from those who have been there or going to be there
. Plus, is it normal to feel this anxious about the city decision? Will this anxiety stop once the decision is made?