Tell Me I'm Not Being a SS

loveislouder

We went bridesmaid shopping today and it was awesome having all my girls together for the first time. Or what I thought was the first time. They apparently have been planning some kind of surprise, but what I don't know. I asked to be kept in the loop and plans and for no surprises because I have am anxiety disorder and the thought of not knowing is already making me anxious, let alone if they jump out at me. Am I being unreasonable? If so, blame it on the lack of sleep. And still love me. Please

LabLove86

I get not wanting to be surprised and needing to know whats going on (I'm the same way - type A personality . . . ) but these girls know you. Do your best to trust them - I bet they are planning something you'll enjoy!

missdelilah

You're not being unreasonable.   I have anxiety problems too, so have had to be very specific with my MOHs about what is and isn't going to be appropriate for my bachelorette party.  I hope they're respectful.  Your friends should be respectful too.  The problem is, it's terribly difficult to explain what it's like to suffer from anxiety to anyone who doesn't share this issue.

lc07

Ditto LabLove. These are your nearest and dearest, right? They (hopefully) wouldn't plan something you're uncomfortable with? Although I get it that they don't even realize that a surprise is something anxiety inducing for you. Can you talk with whomever you are closest with and gently explain that you are grateful that they want to do something special for you but that you are having anxiety due to the surprise?

I assume they love you and want to do something special for you that makes you happy. I highly doubt they are trying to make you anxious.

RebeccaFlower

I hate stuff like this, so I'm with you OP. Maybe 'slip' to one of your BMs that you appreciate the though, just make sure it won't give me a panic attack *giggle* or something, just to put the bug in her ear. 

theartistformerlyknownas

Yeah I would try to trust them, but also drop the hint that surprise parties are a no-go. Maybe they're all planning a gift, not a party.

birdybride2014

You aren't being a SS. I felt like a SS the other day when I was told of the bachelorette party plans my sister/MOH was hosting for me. I had her change some details because I thought she was getting too expensive. I was having SS feels but really I felt WORSE thinking of everyone attending spending $60+ on me, it gives me anxiety!

loveislouder

So I woke up this morning to 67 facebook messages.  They added me to the conversation they were having about said surprise because my little sister (I love her) went on a small rampage. "DO YOU UNDERSTAND ANXIETY? It's like when you're starving and you see the waiter with food that looks like yours, and then they walk past you, but 50 times worse!!"  Her best analogy yet. 

It's an engagement party And I'm so thankful to have ladies that are willing to hold a party for us.