Remember my situation with my stepmom? *sigh* Vent, fair warning.
Ok, so my dad is the most indecisive person on the planet in general. It takes him days and weeks to make decisions. His wife is part of the reason.
Now, figure this into me wanting my 10 year old brother to be an usher and my 3 year old sister to be a flower girl. Technically they are half siblings, as my stepmom is their mother, so I guess she gets a say in the decision. I can tell from conversations I had with my dad that she is not thrilled about the idea of them being in the wedding. My dad asked me not to mention the idea at a family dinner recently because she flipped out about it just prior. My brother says he doesn't care what she says about it, he will be in it (lol).
I cannot, for the life of me, understand what justifiable reason she has to not allow them to be in it, other than our lack of a relationship and she knows it will hurt me. I have offered to cover all expenses. She is invited to the wedding. Hell, I will give her a damn mother flower if she will let them do this. As far as I know, she is not saying they cannot attend, just not participate. How dumb.
All men and boys in the wedding need to be fitted and pay a $20 deposit by June 30 or we lose our discount at Savvi that I won at a bridal show. Obviously my brother will grow before then, but its just a formality really. I told my dad about the deadline and he said he'd take care of it.
I know I really don't have to know about either of them this far out, and my brother could still get a tux later on, just not at the discounted price. We can get my sister a dress any time a few months before the wedding, which would probably be best anyway to be sure it fits.
I guess I am just really frustrated in my dad's inability to stand up to his wife and say "They are her siblings, they will be in the wedding because there is no reason for them not to be." This is all I asked of him related to the wedding. I expect no money or gift from him because she is unemployed and he works 2 jobs. I've made up my mind, that if my dad cannot make this one thing, all I asked for, happen for me, then I will be walking myself down the aisle. He will have chosen his wife over me for the last time because I will never ask him to again. Ever.
Ok sorry dramatic rant over. lol
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