UGH. Venting sorry.

jynxiie

So we asked all of our parents who they would like to invite to the wedding so they could have some of their friends there too.
FMIL tells us that she's only close with one person at her work and she doesn't know if she'd come, I said well lets give her an invite and let her decide. 
So I ask for the husbands name and she said she'd get back to me. So we waited a week and give FMIL a call since we really need to get these invites out. 

So FI calls his FMIL and she word of mouth invited her... And of course she declined on the spot. (FMIL doesn't tell us until we ask too).
BECAUSE WHO DOES THIS? UGH.

It's a WEDDING. You can't just word of mouth invite some guests. We had already written out part of the invite too (Just the address part), So a wasted invite at that... I said no to a wedding for this exact same reason this summer. If you can't even be bothered to send me an invitation - of course I will say no.

Anyways just venting.

This was the FMIL who also made invites and send them out to our engagement party without confirming guests or anything. She even made her own (Awful) invitations - even though we had our own (???) I guess so she could invite who she wanted to invite? 

I seriously love my FMIL... Just sometimes I'm speechless...

SBmini

If it makes you feel any better- when I asked my MIL for her guest list she said, "Just give me 65 invitations" When I told her I really needed to know who was on her list she said, "You don't know these's people, don't worry about them."

jynxiie

Oh my, yeah nothing like that thankfully! 
I'm sure we all have the MIL stories... 

She was trying to convince my FI that he should invite the insurance broker... That was fun...

Inkdancer

Today, I met with my FMIL to go over the seating chart. We're looking at the list and she asks "Where's Joan?" "Who's Joan?" "My little sister." "Um... you didn't ask me to invite her." "Oh. Well, she's coming."

beharrington

We should start a "Horrible MIL stories" thread.  It may make people feel less alone....

wandajune6

Not at helpful but thank you for making me feel better....

FMIL is so happy that she's invited (many years of them not speaking) that she's stayed out of planning. However, it means that FI forgot about a few people on his side that should have been invited. We're not b-listing so it's too late.

emmaaa

Word of mouth invites are just rude and reads to me as "I couldn't afford to buy more invitations." Some friends of mine and FI's got married a little while ago and we got invited (by the groom verbally inviting us ) THE NIGHT BEFORE! I told FI we weren't going because we didn't receive and invitation. 

The next week we see the newlyweds and he asks why didn't come. I replied, "We weren't invited!" He was like, "No one realy got invitations but everyone was invited." *face palm* *eye roll*

levioosa

wandajune6 said:

Not at helpful but thank you for making me feel better.... FMIL is so happy that she's invited (many years of them not speaking) that she's stayed out of planning. However, it means that FI forgot about a few people on his side that should have been invited. We're not b-listing so it's too late.


SITB:

Is it technically B-listing if they were never on the list in the first place?  

goldchocobo.defunct635829490514903826

My FMIL is weird.  She took our invitation and showed the neighbours.  Not to invite them, just to show them a pretty piece of paper.  She knows that adding peple to the list is a no-no.  Then she took it to her nail salon and showed her manicurist.  Why would you show your manicurist this?  You aren't besties!  You have seen her maybe twice.

afox007

If it makes you feel any better FMIL just tried to hire her pastor for our wedding. It took a lot of effort not to flip out on her because 1) we don't have a date set 2) my uncle will most likely be our officiant 3) FI and I have been to her church once and FI hated the sermon and found a half dozen things factually wrong and most important he came across as a sexist jerk.

FMIL is livid that we told her she needs to go back and tell him she was out of line and that we would not need his services.

beethery

A friend-of-a-friend got married this past weekend. Other friends of friends got formal invitations way ahead of time. My two friends got text messages THREE WEEKS AGO inviting them to the wedding that is a SEVEN HOUR DRIVE away.

HOW NICE.

FMIL just wants FI to invite some third cousins. He said no. Thankfully, that was it.

wandajune6

Time2strtliving said:

wandajune6 said:

Not at helpful but thank you for making me feel better....

FMIL is so happy that she's invited (many years of them not speaking) that she's stayed out of planning. However, it means that FI forgot about a few people on his side that should have been invited. We're not b-listing so it's too late.


SITB:

Is it technically B-listing if they were never on the list in the first place?  

Fair point. It probably isn't but it still feels rude. Plus, while we're still within budget and capacity, we have a bigger crowd than either of us would like.