FH's friends are so considerate!

mrscaty

I got a text today from one of FH's friends that basically said "Hey LadyGoldfish, I broke up with [girlfriend] a few weeks ago, and would you prefer I brought no one or shall I find another date? Sorry if this makes anything harder." 

1. It's awesome that he texted me rather than FH (who probably would have forgotten to tell me, but would have told him the same thing I did) 

2. I did invite gf by name so it's nice that he thought to ask if he could bring someone else in her place 

3. OF COURSE HE CAN BRING SOMEONE ELSE! I told him that if he does decide to bring someone else, just put their name on the RSVP so I have it for place cards 

4. In the ensuing conversation, he told me that he and another friend were wondering what they should wear - tux? suit? shirt and tie? I told him a suit would be nice if he had a suit but don't go out of his way if he didn't (I know I shouldn't dictate but this is the THIRD time someone from the group had asked and my "wear whatever you feel best in" wasn't working). I'm glad they care, though, it makes me feel good that he (and I) have such a great group of friends.

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falsara

It's awesome that your FI'S friends are so good to you. My fi's friends are my friends so I've never really had to worry about that much.

Sad that he and his GF broke up..... maybe he should come to the wedding without a date so he can meet a cousin or something. Hehe

mrscaty

cwradford said:

It's awesome that your FI'S friends are so good to you. My fi's friends are my friends so I've never really had to worry about that much. Sad that he and his GF broke up..... maybe he should come to the wedding without a date so he can meet a cousin or something. Hehe

Unfortunately, we are having a very small wedding (30 people). So unless he wanted to start dating my 21 year old, separated-but-not-divorced sister (seriously), he'd be SOL. lol

ETA: words are hard

raissyrais

How darling! I wish everybody was that considerate all the time! I can't really complain though, people have been pretty good on my side too. A tad on the impolite on FI's side though.

falsara

ladygoldfish said:

cwradford said:

It's awesome that your FI'S friends are so good to you. My fi's friends are my friends so I've never really had to worry about that much.

Sad that he and his GF broke up..... maybe he should come to the wedding without a date so he can meet a cousin or something. Hehe

Unfortunately, we are having a very small wedding (30 people). So unless he wanted to start dating my 21 year old, separated-but-not-divorced sister (seriously), he'd be SOL. lol

ETA: words are hard

Well maybe he'll have some good luck with dating right before hand. Though I must say when we asked one of our friends if he would mind being our videographer, he's a film student at Columbia, his response was " only if you feed me and help me hook up with the hottest Bridesmaid." I guess that's why it was on my brain ..

Inkdancer

cwradford said:

cwradford said:

It's awesome that your FI'S friends are so good to you. My fi's friends are my friends so I've never really had to worry about that much. Sad that he and his GF broke up..... maybe he should come to the wedding without a date so he can meet a cousin or something. Hehe

Unfortunately, we are having a very small wedding (30 people). So unless he wanted to start dating my 21 year old, separated-but-not-divorced sister (seriously), he'd be SOL. lol

ETA: words are hard

Well maybe he'll have some good luck with dating right before hand. Though I must say when we asked one of our friends if he would mind being our videographer, he's a film student at Columbia, his response was " only if you feed me and help me hook up with the hottest Bridesmaid." I guess that's why it was on my brain ..

My cousin asked if any of my bridesmaids were hot and single. He is 17. I told him they were way out of his league.

blabla89

ladygoldfish said:

I got a text today from one of FH's friends that basically said "Hey LadyGoldfish, I broke up with [girlfriend] a few weeks ago, and would you prefer I brought no one or shall I find another date? Sorry if this makes anything harder." 

1. It's awesome that he texted me rather than FH (who probably would have forgotten to tell me, but would have told him the same thing I did) 

2. I did invite gf by name so it's nice that he thought to ask if he could bring someone else in her place 

3. OF COURSE HE CAN BRING SOMEONE ELSE! I told him that if he does decide to bring someone else, just put their name on the RSVP so I have it for place cards 

4. In the ensuing conversation, he told me that he and another friend were wondering what they should wear - tux? suit? shirt and tie? I told him a suit would be nice if he had a suit but don't go out of his way if he didn't (I know I shouldn't dictate but this is the THIRD time someone from the group had asked and my "wear whatever you feel best in" wasn't working). I'm glad they care, though, it makes me feel good that he (and I) have such a great group of friends.

ETF: WTF - Paragraphs

FWIW, I think it's fine if they've asked. I hate being over- or under-dressed so I sometimes ask, and I like receiving a specific answer.

slothiegal

Inkdancer said:

cwradford said:

cwradford said:

It's awesome that your FI'S friends are so good to you. My fi's friends are my friends so I've never really had to worry about that much. Sad that he and his GF broke up..... maybe he should come to the wedding without a date so he can meet a cousin or something. Hehe

Unfortunately, we are having a very small wedding (30 people). So unless he wanted to start dating my 21 year old, separated-but-not-divorced sister (seriously), he'd be SOL. lol

ETA: words are hard

Well maybe he'll have some good luck with dating right before hand. Though I must say when we asked one of our friends if he would mind being our videographer, he's a film student at Columbia, his response was " only if you feed me and help me hook up with the hottest Bridesmaid." I guess that's why it was on my brain ..

My cousin asked if any of my bridesmaids were hot and single. He is 17. I told him they were way out of his league.

SIB

My younger cousin ended up making out with DH's cousin at the bar after our reception.  What a rascal.

ohmrs2014

Thats so nice of him and kinda rare!  I had a guest who couldn't go and decided that it would be ok to pass the invite to her son and his FI.  When I received the RSVP with names I didn't recognize I thought I was going crazy and screwed up somewhere until I did a little FB search and found her and realized what happened.  DH flipped and his parents took care of it, the guest was a family friend of theirs.  Needless to say, they didn't show up.