Invite questions (probably a simple one that I am missing)

hales2010

So I have been searching all over trying to find out how address invites to certain people. I know how to do it if they are married, unmarried living together, widowed, and for families. What I am sort of confused about a couple of others.

My first one is couples who have been dating long term but if they were to break up I would want them both at the wedding. My example for this one is a good friend of mine and her boyfriend. I have been friends with them since I was in middle school. They do not live together. My guess on this one is that I would send them both seperate invites?

The second one is the exact opposite. It about couples who have been dating long term but if they were to break up I would only want one there. They also do not live together or I would send it to both of them. My example is my cousin and his g/f. Do not get me wrong I like the girl and she is nice to me but my only tie with her is my cousin and that is really it. For this one would I just send my cousin a plus one? I just do not want to seem rude since they have been dating for over 2 years.

Like I said I am sure there is post I skipped or did not see. I am just trying to find out how to address people so I do not come across rude. Thanks in advance

Maggie0829

hales2010 said:

So I have been searching all over trying to find out how address invites to certain people. I know how to do it if they are married, unmarried living together, widowed, and for families. What I am sort of confused about a couple of others.

My first one is couples who have been dating long term but if they were to break up I would want them both at the wedding. My example for this one is a good friend of mine and her boyfriend. I have been friends with them since I was in middle school. They do not live together. My guess on this one is that I would send them both seperate invites?

The second one is the exact opposite. It about couples who have been dating long term but if they were to break up I would only want one there. They also do not live together or I would send it to both of them. My example is my cousin and his g/f. Do not get me wrong I like the girl and she is nice to me but my only tie with her is my cousin and that is really it. For this one would I just send my cousin a plus one? I just do not want to seem rude since they have been dating for over 2 years.

Like I said I am sure there is post I skipped or did not see. I am just trying to find out how to address people so I do not come across rude. Thanks in advance

For both instances you should list who is invited by name since they are both couples, not plus ones.

Even if you send one invite then those listed on that invite will be invited regardless of whether or not they are still in their respective relationships.

You can certainly send separate invites if you want but that isn't necessary.  Most likely the first couple you spoke about, if they broke up and they felt comfortable attending the same event as each other would come separately.  For the second couple, most likely the girl would end up not coming because the only reason she has any connection to you at all is because she is dating your cousin.

But in the end everyone needs to be invited by name and if something were to happen in their relationships then they would all still be invited regardless.  At that point they would have to make the decision to attend or not solo.