So, prior to my sending out invites, I read a LOT on these boards about that whole nightmare. People showing up with their uninvited children, their uninvited but assumed +1s, etc. I'm like, wow, these posters know some really rude people. Glad I won't have to deal with that.
I WAS SO NAIVE.
1. Coworker: My Husband has to work that night, so can I bring my daughter instead? I thought it could be a fun "Mommy daughter" night out.
My internal response: Not on my dime.
My external response: We decided to invite all our relatives regardless of age, so children of family are invited. Unfortunately, we weren't able to invite the children of coworkers or friends, and we don't wish to show favoritism or insult our guests. So no.
2. Friend: Can I bring my babies? (twin girls, about 16 months) We decided to invite all our relatives regardless of age, so children of family are invited. Unfortunately, we weren't able to invite the children of coworkers or friends, and we don't wish to show favoritism or insult our guests. So no.
Friend: But you already have shown favoritism, and you will insult people.
Me: *silence, brooding, and anger* We look forward to you and your husband attending our wedding! *grins through clenched teeth*
3. Good guy friend: Hey -- I got your invite today! So excited. Also, I have some really great news.... call me!
Me: Ooh! Is it what I think?! Shall I send out an invite to a certain someone *wink*?
(Ok, this was admittedly a STUPID response. I assumed. Dumb. But everytime he contacted me it was about this girl. But... not this time.)
Good guy friend: Um... well no. But I got that promotion! [details about promotion]. But hey, maybe I can find a +1 to bring.
4. My venue will prepare a child's meal which is infinitely cheaper than the adult meal choices, which are all $20+, and I know a young child will not eat or even enjoy. Unfortunately, the RSVPs were not sent out according to my specifications, so guests are indicating adult meal choices for their toddlers. I would like to call and clarify with them that we wish to provide a kid-friendly meal for their young ones, instead of a $20+ meal that they will most likely just pick at, but I don't know how to do this tactfully! Of course I wouldn't cite cost, but how on earth do I do this?