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Who is looking at wedding reception venues when they are single? I understand thinking "oh this place would be a cool place for a reception if/when i get married" but going "omg this is THE spot for my reception" while single is really out there in my book. Plus what if her future fiance hates that venue...then what?
This was my first thought. How much can you really plan without an actual FI? Silly me to think it might be something they would decide on together and right now, he doesn't exist.
Anyway, I say put the deposit down. If she does use it later on down the line, that's fine too but no way should you give it up.
Go ahead and put that deposit down! The venue it perfect for your needs and your budget, and your new sister-in-law will just have to deal with it. Don't forget that your wedding is about you and your groom, and NO ONE else! Do what's right for you.
That's your fiancé issue to desk with. Not yours. If you both love it then go for it. Let him deal with it. PS she'll be dating then engaged them
Married. You prob have a minimum of 3-5 years before she's using that Venue. By then we could be walking dead Ebola victims. Bigger problems in the world then a wedding venue. She needs to let it go.
This is a tough one. I am a person who has had her wedding planned since I was 12 and would be crushed if anyone "stole" one of my major ideas. That being said, to not book the venue would be letting her steal your idea as well. The thing is that I had a venue picked out even just a couple months ago and was very hush hush about it because I was terrified of someone using it. Then a couple things changed and I thought I'd just look around a bit more to see if anything else fit the bill and sure enough I found something I love even more and than is (no exaggerating) 10x cheaper. So I would have felt really bad if I had made someone change their plans and then I didn't even go with it.Honestly, I feel really bad about it, but what I would likely do here would be to lie and say we had already paid for the place. I would just say that we had to put a deposit down or lose it and that we hadn't found anything else within our budget that was even close to that place.I think part of the reason FHs family may be freaking out is that they are worried about their kids, and you aren't one of them. If I'm wrong then totally disregard but from their perceptive it's their sons wedding and then later their daughters (future) wedding. Most families would likely put more importance on a daughters wedding. Also, they know how much their daughter cares about the venue but for all they know you just picked a place and it's not that big of a deal. All they see is their son and boys don't often care about things like venues so to them all that's happening is their son is being inconvenienced by having to find a new place. They may not be thinking about how you would be emotionally upset. I could be way off but in my situation my FHs family doesn't really think through my thoughts/feelings. For them it's because they genuinely dislike me but I can imagine the same thing happening just out of thoughtlessness because you are new to the group and they aren't used to having to think about your feelings.Honestly, if they get really bad about it you could always mention that she still has the option to get married there. Yes, for some people it might take away some of the fun but it also might be neat to sort of make it the family venue!