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Where did the thread about wet hair go?
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Re: Missing Thread?

  • Huh. Good question. 
  • Was just going to ask that. It was still up on my laptop when I went to bed. I refreshed it this morning and got "discussion not found"

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  • lurkergirllurkergirl member
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    Didn't they tell us that only happens when someone deletes their entire account?  I only saw the beginning of that thread, and it didn't seem bad at all.  There was a mix of different advice, but that was it.  Maybe it took a turn while we were sleeping?  Is @paperpusher still here?

    ETA: I can click on her tag, but it looks like all her replies and discussions are gone.




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  • Maybe she went all rebellious and decided to use mousse, and that was just too much?
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  • @paperpusher was last active at 7:55 am but all her discussions and replies are gone. Anyone know what the deal is? 

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  • @Lyndausvi Do you happen to know what's going on?
  • What was the wet hair post? I missed it. 
  • Can I ask my question again then, Addie? Why do you think it's unprofessional? I wear my hair wet sometimes but it's back in a slick top knot and I've gotten compliments so I'm curious. Most of the time it's just doing groceries or something though.
  • I missed it completely apparently. Clue me in?

  • emmaaa said:
    I missed it completely apparently. Clue me in?
    It was a pretty tame thread where OP was upset that a supervisor (and apparently, all around b) had made a comment about her coming to work with damp hair. A few people made a comment to the effect of "Personally, I would dry my hair. I think going to work with damp hair looks kind of unprofessional." 

    No notable drama ensued, but now the thread, and all of @paperpusher's posts are gone.
  • I liked @paperpusher and her awesome llama gif :(
  • I also think it looks unprofessional to have wet hair at work. However, having it up in a ponytail or bun is totally different. 
  • ashley8918ashley8918 member
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    Can I ask my question again then, Addie? Why do you think it's unprofessional? I wear my hair wet sometimes but it's back in a slick top knot and I've gotten compliments so I'm curious. Most of the time it's just doing groceries or something though.
    @RebeccaFlower - I know you weren't asking me but I think having damp hair but it up in a bun or top knot is completely different then having damp/wet hair that is just hanging down your back. The bun looks put together while the hair just hanging in the breeze looks like you were running late or just don't care.

    I had a co-worker with waist length hair who would always come into work with damp/wet hair. She always wore it down to so it just looked so unprofessional to me.  She would spend all day looking like a slowly drying drowned rat and then during the last hour of work would do her makeup, paint her nails and curl her hair so she looked good for when she met up with her boyfriend.  To me, wouldn't you want to look good all day, especially when you are working face to face with clients?
    I agree with all of this. Having it styled in some way (bun. braid, whatever) is fine; but otherwise it's just looks like you don't care.

    ETA - I came to work with damp hair today because I actually was running late. So, I braided it and then twisted the braid into a bun. Voila! Easy.
  • I guess I don't care about my hair, it just kind of grows out of my head.  Also, I think, generally, that women have longer hair than men and therefor men can go without drying their tidbits of hair because it is kind of pointless or the wet look almost looks like gel.  So, I don't like the idea that a woman has to spend time blowing her hair dry and/or do her makeup (I pretty much never wear makeup, TBH to me it is sexist that people think women have to wear makeup to look presentable).
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  • doeydo said:
    I guess I don't care about my hair, it just kind of grows out of my head.  Also, I think, generally, that women have longer hair than men and therefor men can go without drying their tidbits of hair because it is kind of pointless or the wet look almost looks like gel.  So, I don't like the idea that a woman has to spend time blowing her hair dry and/or do her makeup (I pretty much never wear makeup, TBH to me it is sexist that people think women have to wear makeup to look presentable).
    Eh, If a man comes into work looking like he just rolled out of bed, he also looks unprofessional. If it's not buzzed, they should be doing some sort of "styling", as well.

    And nobody said anything about makeup. I personally would NEVER go to work without makeup, but I don't necessarily judge anyone or think they look unprofessional for doing so.
  • doeydo said:
    I guess I don't care about my hair, it just kind of grows out of my head.  Also, I think, generally, that women have longer hair than men and therefor men can go without drying their tidbits of hair because it is kind of pointless or the wet look almost looks like gel.  So, I don't like the idea that a woman has to spend time blowing her hair dry and/or do her makeup (I pretty much never wear makeup, TBH to me it is sexist that people think women have to wear makeup to look presentable).
    Eh, If a man comes into work looking like he just rolled out of bed, he also looks unprofessional. If it's not buzzed, they should be doing some sort of "styling", as well.

    And nobody said anything about makeup. I personally would NEVER go to work without makeup, but I don't necessarily judge anyone or think they look unprofessional for doing so.
    Exactly. No said said a woman has to put makeup on. 

    I work in a pretty casual office. But if my employees came to work looking like they just rolled out of bed, I'd have a problem with it. And that goes for men (my drivers) and women (my assistants). My drivers have to be clean shaven. And my assistant should look pulled together. She doesn't have to dry her hair - if it's going to be wet or damp, it should be up. And she's not required to wear any kind of makeup. 
  • doeydo said:
    I guess I don't care about my hair, it just kind of grows out of my head.  Also, I think, generally, that women have longer hair than men and therefor men can go without drying their tidbits of hair because it is kind of pointless or the wet look almost looks like gel.  So, I don't like the idea that a woman has to spend time blowing her hair dry and/or do her makeup (I pretty much never wear makeup, TBH to me it is sexist that people think women have to wear makeup to look presentable).
    I would also judge a man that came into work with a head full of "just rolled out of bed" hair.  It doesn't take that long to wet it down and comb it out.  And most men (and some women with short hair) don't have to blow dry their hair because their hair takes about 5 minutes to air dry since it is short.  But if a man had longer hair then they should take the time to dry their hair as well unless they pull it back into a tight pony tail.

    Now if people were just going about their daily lives (not work) and running to the store with wet hair then whatever, but when you are in a professional setting then you should look the part and match the level of professionalism within your company.

  • lyndausvi said:
    paperpusher contacted me last night and asked for her account and all the contents deleted.   She said she has a friend or family member who just got engaged and was afraid they will be here and recognize her.    She said she would lurk for a while to see if the friend is here or not.  If not, she will make up a new account.
    Phew, I hope she'll be back soon!
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  • I go into work with wet hair. I get in about and hour and a half before anyone else and since I'm in AZ, my hair is dry by then.

    I'm guessing this is not going to be an issue for me for awhile, though :-/

     







  • lyndausvi said:
    paperpusher contacted me last night and asked for her account and all the contents deleted.   She said she has a friend or family member who just got engaged and was afraid they will be here and recognize her.    She said she would lurk for a while to see if the friend is here or not.  If not, she will make up a new account.
    Phew, I hope she'll be back soon!
    Oh, okay. I was really confused as to why she would leave over the wet hair thread. 
  • I think looking professional applies to both sexes. However, if a woman has long hair, she has to "style" it differently than a man with short hair. I don't think saying a person should look presentable and professional by making sure their hair is neat is a sexist statement because it applies to men and women. It'd be different if someone said you should wear makeup to look professional because you are a woman.

  • Let me preface this by stating that I was raised by a mom who never wore makeup, didn't do her hair, and hated anything girlie....

    I think wet hair is unprofessional. I also think that there are certain roles where women need to have nice hair and makeup. <*cowering in shame*>

    My hair is usually in a damp bun or ponytail when I get to work. I rarely wear makeup. But we're a small business working in an office with other small businesses. We usually work in jeans and people frequently sleep here. I don't need to be professional most days.

    But if I think there's a chance that I'll see a client, investor, prospect, possible future employee, or anyone of potential interest, my hair is done and there's makeup on my face. Probably not a lot- I hate makeup- but enough to make me look polished. I might still wear jeans on those days but the comfy sweater is gone and a fitted jacket goes on. If there's a client or a prospect, there's a suit and heels.

    Is it wrong and sexist that these are requirements? Hell yeah. But there are also certain times where it's done because it's what's socially expected and/or a sign of respect for the people around you. I'd rather suck it up and wear mascara to meet with a prospect then run the risk of missing out on a million bucks because they think I don't take things seriously.
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  • Let me preface this by stating that I was raised by a mom who never wore makeup, didn't do her hair, and hated anything girlie....

    I think wet hair is unprofessional. I also think that there are certain roles where women need to have nice hair and makeup. <*cowering in shame*>

    My hair is usually in a damp bun or ponytail when I get to work. I rarely wear makeup. But we're a small business working in an office with other small businesses. We usually work in jeans and people frequently sleep here. I don't need to be professional most days.

    But if I think there's a chance that I'll see a client, investor, prospect, possible future employee, or anyone of potential interest, my hair is done and there's makeup on my face. Probably not a lot- I hate makeup- but enough to make me look polished. I might still wear jeans on those days but the comfy sweater is gone and a fitted jacket goes on. If there's a client or a prospect, there's a suit and heels.

    Is it wrong and sexist that these are requirements? Hell yeah. But there are also certain times where it's done because it's what's socially expected and/or a sign of respect for the people around you. I'd rather suck it up and wear mascara to meet with a prospect then run the risk of missing out on a million bucks because they think I don't take things seriously.
    I agree with you on this.  I equate women wearing make up in more professional settings the same as men making sure that their face is groomed.  A man working in a professional setting who chooses to have a beard or mustache should make sure said beard and mustache is groomed and not growing crazy like on his face because resembling a mountain man when you are trying to close a multi-million dollar deal just doesn't work.

  • This is odd, and not a direct indication of anything but:

    I feel like I do better in sales (I'm a retail manager, so sales is my job) when I don't have makeup and have "plain" hair versus when I have on my "full face" (which is really a pretty natural look) and styled hair.

    Odd, but it's what I've experienced.
  • Can I ask my question again then, Addie? Why do you think it's unprofessional? I wear my hair wet sometimes but it's back in a slick top knot and I've gotten compliments so I'm curious. Most of the time it's just doing groceries or something though.
    @RebeccaFlower - I know you weren't asking me but I think having damp hair but it up in a bun or top knot is completely different then having damp/wet hair that is just hanging down your back. The bun looks put together while the hair just hanging in the breeze looks like you were running late or just don't care.

    I had a co-worker with waist length hair who would always come into work with damp/wet hair. She always wore it down to so it just looked so unprofessional to me.  She would spend all day looking like a slowly drying drowned rat and then during the last hour of work would do her makeup, paint her nails and curl her hair so she looked good for when she met up with her boyfriend.  To me, wouldn't you want to look good all day, especially when you are working face to face with clients?
    Totally on board with this. I'm not even client-facing, and I would never wear my hair down and wet. 

    I'm currently growing it out, and it's almost to the point where it isn't going to be fully dry by the time I get to the office. It's gonna suck, because it's not going to be long enough to put in a bun (let alone braid) for a while yet, so my hair dryer and I will have to become friends again.

    I'm going to chop my hair short again SO FAST after the wedding, I have a feeling. I like it long, and I love it short, but this in between is killing me. That all said, I made the choice to grow it, so now I have to groom it appropriately for work. (Weekends though, I do what I want!)
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  • Man, where were you guys when I was getting b****ed out on the judging thread a few weeks ago re: makeup?!


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  • Man, where were you guys when I was getting b****ed out on the judging thread a few weeks ago re: makeup?!
    I wish I would have seen it. Ugh.
  • Man, where were you guys when I was getting b****ed out on the judging thread a few weeks ago re: makeup?!
    I wish I would have seen it. Ugh.
    Sorry. When I see a thread with tons of pages of comments, my instinct is to ignore it. I have a low tolerance for drama.
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