When FIL's attack! Talk me down! With GIFs because if I don't put some humor I will lose it.

sarawifenow

sarahufl said:

SaraBrideSoon said:

sarahufl said:

Get her off the loan. Sounds like she is being a total B, but if she is actually involved in your finances, she has some say in them.

I say cut her off so she can't bother you.

I see that she has a say in the loan, but the rest of my finances aren't really her business. I am going to be going to the bank with FI tomorrow and see what we can do about getting her off of the loan.

Oh, I don't disagree. But people are odd. If she is on the car loan she may see it as being more involved than she actually is. If she has zero say in your $$ situation, you are better off. Also, I may add- Facebook is a horribly unproductive way to discuss just about anything. It sounds like your FI needs to go over and sit with her. Or, at the very least, talk on the phone. FB isn't the place for that.

I completely agree. She is two states away, so he has been calling her when she sends these messages. The whole thing is just so immature. Hopefully we can get the loan out of her name so she can just step off.

blondeej

Geez girl - I am so sorry you're dealing with this. But as a couple other's have said - the ONE thing you have to be thankful for in all of this is that your FI is standing by your side and going to bat for you all by setting them straight. Lots of men would just choose to ignore it all and hope it goes away and leave you alone with all this. Wow... I don't even begin to comprehend these folks way of thinking saying your family should pay for THEIR sides hotel/etc! Has it been explained WHO's grandchildren she's speaking of - are they the children to the FBIL you mention in the messages???

sarawifenow

@blondeej--Yes I am very lucky to have such a supportive FI.

One child is FBIL and then FSIL (not this particular FBIL's wife, just another sibling) just had a baby. I have a lot of FBILs and FSILs!

blondeej

Well please come back and give up an update when the dust settles! Sounds like FMIL allows herself to be a financial doormat for all the other kids and is taking the frustration out on you.

beethery

I feel like nearly every time something wild as hell is going on with someone's ILs, they're starting shit over a facebook message. Dramatic olds getting their teenage angst out through facebook because they didn't have it in those days.

Shit, I didn't have it during my teenage angst years either. I had an LJ that nobody read, and so many rage-filled notebooks shoved under my mattress that it was a good inch taller than it should've been.

sarawifenow

@beethery--This is immediatly where my mind went when you said you had rage filled notebooks and this is now how I picture you as a child:

beethery

SaraBrideSoon said:

@beethery--This is immediatly where my mind went when you said you had rage filled notebooks and this is now how I picture you as a child:

more tears and hormones, and then yes.

Sugargirl1019

FMIL never should have cosigned his car loan then. Her fault! Too bad, so sad. As long as he is making payments, she has nothing to do with the loan. I didn't know you could get her removed. I've never heard of that. I don't think that will happen though. It might affect her credit negatively if she does get off though, interestingly enough. And why she thinks the loan is taking money from her grandchildren I will never know.

Thank goodness she lives so far away! My MIL demands that DH cones to visit her when she's feeling angsty! I'd say we have the same MIL if I wasn't already married.

I'm so sorry she's making you feel like a terrible person. I'm glad your FI has your back though. That's the only way you'll survive her. and wine. Mixed with tequila.

ohannabelle

Holy hell. There is so much out of line happening there that I almost blew a gasket. 

Thank you for making my pissy sister seem almost normal.

afox007

beethery said:

I feel like nearly every time something wild as hell is going on with someone's ILs, they're starting shit over a facebook message. Dramatic olds getting their teenage angst out through facebook because they didn't have it in those days.

Shit, I didn't have it during my teenage angst years either. I had an LJ that nobody read, and so many rage-filled notebooks shoved under my mattress that it was a good inch taller than it should've been.

And this is why I am not friends with FMIL on FB! It's bad enough when she can comment on pics I tag FI in.

sophhabobopha

beethery said:

SaraBrideSoon said:

@beethery--This is immediatly where my mind went when you said you had rage filled notebooks and this is now how I picture you as a child:

more tears and hormones, and then yes.

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