What have people assumed during your planning?

steph861 · September 2014

smichek said:
@wandajune6, not only are we date twins, it sounds like we are planning twins. I've taken the chillzilla approach and people think it's weird. It's like they want me to be bossy/picky/super opinionated. I said "short marine dress that doesn't look like it belongs in da club" and all the girls insisted I shop with them and give them opinions on every single dress. I would say "I love this one" "this is nice but I still like the second one the best" etc. I told them all "get something that you feel amazing in with a price tag that doesn't make you nauseous." LOL

Same deal with my mom. THREE. FULL. DAYS. of dress shopping. I didn't even have three full days of dress shopping. I went to DB one night and a couple other shops the next day. I bought the third dress I put on at DB.

The bossy/picky/super opinionated one is something I've encountered as well. Apparently I'm supposed to have a grand 'vision'. Nope. I have opinions about certain elements (like my dress) but there are lots of things about which I'm truly ambivalent.

gladyscf · September 2014

Yes, we're getting married in Vegas.

No, Elvis will not be attending/officiating.

No, we aren't going through the drive-thru.

Yes, we are having a ceremony.

Yes, we are having a reception.

Yes, you can bring your rowdy, party friends with you to Vegas but no, they won't be invited to the wedding and absolutely not to "just the reception."

bwy · September 2014

Number one assumption is that I'm pregnant because we're young and getting married in December and we've barely started planning. FI is joining the army. Usually when I tell people that they back off.

The other assumption was that my FI was short because I said I was going to wear flats.

We just started planning so I'm sure there are more to come.

beethery · September 2014

bc+rw16 said:

Number one assumption is that I'm pregnant because we're young and getting married in December and we've barely started planning. FI is joining the army. Usually when I tell people that they back off.
The other assumption was that my FI was short because I said I was going to wear flats.

We just started planning so I'm sure there are more to come.

Oh shit, this one too. I've gotten asked if I'm pregnant a whoooole bunch of times because I haven't been drinking when we go out, and sometimes FI hasn't either. FFIL and FGMIL were giving FI shit about it a couple weeks ago and I just said, "Well, we didn't want to announce it on FFIL's birthday, but FI is carrying my child and drinking isn't good for the baby."

Between saying I'm having a food baby named burrito and saying that yes, FI is carrying my child, I've got solid, rehearsed responses to that bullshit now.

I'm not pregnant, I'm fat. Get a damn clue.

jynxiie · September 2014

That my parents are paying for the wedding. When we first got engaged a lot of people also asked if I was pregnant because we got engaged after 6 months. Plus the fun lady who assumed my ring was fake - that was fun...

bekt14 · September 2014

1. That every person we've ever met would be invited

2. My parents thought they would pay- but I'm only allowing them to contribute a little

3. MFIL also thought she would pay- but i refused

4. My mom assumed I wanted a princess, over-the-top, expensive, elaborate, huge fancy wedding- but we are going simple and small

5. When we announced that we were getting married 4.5 months after we got engaged, some people assumed we were pregnant- Nope, just excited to be married and don't see the point in waiting.

6. Everyone's assuming we will be TTC right after the wedding- but I want to wait 5 years

7. Everyone assumed we wanted presents/wedding showers- nope

8. Everyone assumed I was having a bachelorette party- nope

9. Friends assumed they would be bridesmaids/groomsmen- nope

10. Mom assumes I want ribbons and bows on everything (she litterally keeps talking about "ribbons and bows" like every day")- I am banning all ribbons and bows. They are not allowed at the wedding.

Don't think our wedding could be further from what everyone assumed it would be.

NowIamMrsKlein · September 2014

1) I've been trying to lose a bit of weight and mainly get healthier for the last year. I have a thyroid problem and really struggle with it sometimes. After getting engaged I went in for a long overdue chiropractor appointment and he complimented me on my weight loss and said 'Oh, decided to do it for the wedding eh?" I was floored. I was like "uh. No. I've actually been working my ass off for months prior to getting engaged, I only recently found a routine thats working with my medical issues." Ugh.

2) That my FI is disinterested in anything wedding related. lots of "Oh i bet he's having funnnn with that" when I mention we went and did something wedding related together. He is actually way more into everything than I am. I wanted a small wedding or an elopement. We're having the big family wedding for him. And he loves being involved in everything. Because its OUR day. not MINE.

3) That we are immediately going to have children after the wedding. Seeing as we are going to be SO OLD at 29 & 31. We have no choice but to have children ASAP. before I apparently shrivel up. ha ha

NowIamMrsKlein · September 2014

Also, random. But people always seem surprised when they find out that im wearing flats (converse) under my dress.

I'm only 5 feet tall and people seem to assume that I am uncomfortable with my height and would want to wear heels to accomodate it.

When in fact being short is who I am. Its a major part of my identity. I fully intend on rocking it. (plus the fact that I never wear heels and just want to be comfortable).

I also love the fact that theres over a foot height difference between the FI and I. Will make for some adorable photos.

gladyscf · September 2014

Why are so many people concerned with a bride's choice in footwear???

NowIamMrsKlein · September 2014

msstaticfancypants said:

Why are so many people concerned with a bride's choice in footwear???

I have no idea! I was so confused. FMIL was going on about how I just 'cant' wear sneakers to a formal ceremony. And in my mind Im just "If I hadn't told you I was wearing sneakers, you would have no idea! no one is going to be seeing my feet!, and who flippin cares?!"