Thanks anyway

khristiana

Nevermind.

artbyallie

A wedding ceremony requires some form of vows to constitute a legal marriage, even if it's merely assenting to an officiant's question. Therefore, I'm not sure I understand your question. Your guests are invited to your ceremony, aren't they? And the ceremony and reception are happening on the same day with the latter immediately following the former? I am confused and trying to understand.

manateehugger

Saying vows is usually a principle part of any wedding ceremony, so color me confused about your question. 

Having a wedding in Las Vegas wouldn't make the content of your ceremony any different. 

AddieCake

I've never seen vows at a reception.

khristiana

I'm sorry you dont understand what I'm saying. Of course I will be saying traditional vows, I'm talking about personal sentiments to each other during the ceremony.

khristiana

Ok, nevermind

manateehugger

How long are these "personal sentiments"? Either way, any love-declaring belongs in the ceremony IMO. The reception should be more about celebrating with and thanking your guests for listening to your love-declaring earlier in the day. 

artbyallie

khristiana said:

I'm sorry you dont understand what I'm saying. Of course I will be saying traditional vows, I'm talking about personal sentiments to each other during the ceremony.

Vows are promises. We wrote our own personal vows, in the form of sonnets, even, but they still made promises. If what you're looking to do is more like a love-letter, that would be more appropriate written down and given to your spouse in private before or after the wedding. I would think people are aware you are in love when they attend your wedding. Those sentiments do not need to be voiced.

Jen4948

khristiana said:

I'm sorry you dont understand what I'm saying. Of course I will be saying traditional vows, I'm talking about personal sentiments to each other during the ceremony.

I'd save this kind of thing for when you and your FI are in private rather than doing this in public.    You're already making vows to be together for the rest of your lives during your wedding ceremony, so discussing personal sentiments as well can come off a little like verbal PDA.

khristiana

Have you all never been to a wedding where people say things like this?

I have. I'll do my own thing, thanks anyway.

holyguacamole79

Came for the DD.

chibiyui

Came for the DD.

My vows weren't just I promise to do this stuff, I had some flowery language in there as well. But you know, keep it short and sweet.

Because you deleted everything, I can only assume you re having a ceremony where your only allowed to say the traditional vows, with no personalization, which is why you wanted to say stuff at the reception. If thats the case, sorry but having a religious ceremony that requires the traditional vows kinds trumps having your own vows. That's the price you pay for having that kind of ceremony.

Jen4948

khristiana said:

Have you all never been to a wedding where people say things like this?

I have. I'll do my own thing, thanks anyway.

Yes.  We have all been to weddings where 90% of the ceremony is "I love you forever, I love you forever (romantic), I love you forever (cutesy), I love you forever (inside humorous), etc. ad nauseam,"  And as guests, it turned us off.  So we're trying to give you advice on how to keep your vows interesting and dignified so that your guests will appreciate being invited. 

If you're going to "do your own thing" anyway, you don't need our advice and telling us this means that you wasted our time.  It's offensive, as is deleting your original post.

@chibiyui, the deleted content was about how the OP wants to do her wedding in Vegas and wanted ideas on what to say.  Apparently she wants to make "personal vows" and we're trying to give her some guidelines.

chibiyui

Jen4948 said:

khristiana said:

Have you all never been to a wedding where people say things like this?

I have. I'll do my own thing, thanks anyway.

Yes.  We have all been to weddings where 90% of the ceremony is "I love you forever, I love you forever (romantic), I love you forever (cutesy), I love you forever (inside humorous), etc. ad nauseam,"  And as guests, it turned us off.  So we're trying to give you advice on how to keep your vows interesting and dignified so that your guests will appreciate being invited. 

If you're going to "do your own thing" anyway, you don't need our advice and telling us this means that you wasted our time.  It's offensive, as is deleting your original post.

@chibiyui, the deleted content was about how the OP wants to do her wedding in Vegas and wanted ideas on what to say.  Apparently she wants to make "personal vows" and we're trying to give her some guidelines.


Then my advice is keep it short and sweet. 2 minutes max per person for vows. Nobody cares that much.

Maggie0829

chibiyui said:

Then my advice is keep it short and sweet. 2 minutes max per person for vows. Nobody cares that much.

OFT. The only people who care about what the vows include are the bride and groom since the vows only affect them, no one else. And I would say no more then 1 minute per person and even that is pushing it.

southernbelle0915

Came for the DD. No OP quote? Bummer.

If you really want to say extra stuff at the reception that you didn't say in your ceremony vows, why don't you write each other letters and exchange them privately?

KatieinBkln

CMGragain

Could this be a Catholic ceremony where personal vows are not permitted?

I think lovey-dovey sentimental promises are icky, just like I hate sentimental poetry on wedding invitations.  You asked for opinions - you got 'em.  Why post if you can't take opinions other than your own?

allisoneliz

CMGragain said:

I think lovey-dovey sentimental promises are icky, just like I hate sentimental poetry on wedding invitations.

Ugh, me too. So much of this stuff makes me cringe. I was doing a Shutterfly photo book of our wedding photos an all the "Wedding" layouts had page templates where you could put "meaningful quotes" and shit. No thanks. At $1/page I'll stick to pictures.

Unfortunately, I came too late to see the OP so I can't actually add anything relevant.