Please help me find this dress

laceykeo

Hey all,

I know how wonderful you lovely ladies are at reading visions and finding what fits.

I'm just looking at the moment to throw some ideas together and start on the general "vision".

I'm looking for a shorter wedding dress (knee length-y), with a longer lace overlay.

I can see it perfectly in my mind, just can not find the picture I'm looking for, and no amount of googling is bringing up the right combination.

Below are a couple pictures of somewhere in the region of what I'm trying to describe... In all honesty I think it may be a custom job but we'll see.

The first I really like but I can only find a pic of the back, no idea what the front's like, and the lace is a lot "heavier" than I'd like.

The second, I really like the lace on this but don't particularly like the dress itself.

The third, I just really like how the lace sits over the top half.

If any of that makes sense (because I'm not-so-good at this whole dress thing), and anyone can find anything remotely like what I'm attempting to describe, I'll be impressed.

Thanks in advance.

Maggie0829

I believe the first dress is from Alfred Angelo...http://www.alfredangelo.com/Collections/Bridal-Collection/1774NT/?pg=1

And here is another option from Allure...CLICK

doeydo

Below are links to some suggestions:

http://www.symphonybridal.com/scripts/ViewFullSizeGown977.cfm?image=/2014F/images/symphony/S3407F.jpg&id=191

http://www.symphonybridal.com/scripts/ViewFullSizeGown977.cfm?image=/2014F/images/symphony/S3424F.jpg&id=191

http://www.bcbg.com/Clarissa-Sleeveless-Lace-High-Low-Gown/NEQ6X081-100,default,pd.html

http://watters.com/Product/Encore/3684E

http://www.kitschbitsch.com.au/store/products/Vintage-50's-cotton-antique-lace-wedding-dress-S-M-L-XL.html

http://www.kitschbitsch.com.au/store/products/Vintage-cotton-two%2dtone-antique-lace-wedding-midi-dress-S-M-L-XL.html

http://loverthelabel.com/collection/white-magick/#look14

http://loverthelabel.com/collection/white-magick/#look16

http://loverthelabel.com/collection/white-magick/#look22

http://loverthelabel.com/collection/white-magick/#look40

http://loverthelabel.com/collection/white-magick/#look42

http://us.asos.com/Lydia-Bright-Skater-Dress-With-Mesh-Top/12dpg2/?iid=3705173&cid=5235&sh=0&pge=5&pgesize=999&sort=-1&clr=Cream&utm_source=Affiliate&utm_medium=LinkShare&utm_content=USNetwork.3705173&utm_campaign=QFGLnEolOWg&cvosrc=Affiliate.LinkShare.QFGLnEolOWg&link=15&promo=307314&source=linkshare&MID=35719&affid=2135&WT.tsrc=Affiliate&siteID=QFGLnEolOWg-tuhoByqFGC0clzOoldqiDw&r=2&mporgp=L0x5ZGlhLUJyaWdodC9MeWRpYS1CcmlnaHQtU2thdGVyLURyZXNzLVdpdGgtTWVzaC1Ub3AvUHJvZC8.

http://www.bhldn.com/product/queen-anne-dress

Knottie13820824

I have seen, what seems to be the style you're looking for on some dress websites. I have been scouring the www for my "dream" dress as well. I have seen a knee length fitted style dress with a sheer skirt past the knee and comes to what I think is a court train. Check "Etsy", "DH Gate", "Amazon", etc. I ended up finding the bodice I want and the skirt I want on 2 different dresses, so my seamstress is going to combine them for me!

CMGragain

Knottie13820824 said:

I have seen, what seems to be the style you're looking for on some dress websites. I have been scouring the www for my "dream" dress as well. I have seen a knee length fitted style dress with a sheer skirt past the knee and comes to what I think is a court train. Check "Etsy", "DH Gate", "Amazon", etc. I ended up finding the bodice I want and the skirt I want on 2 different dresses, so my seamstress is going to combine them for me!

Bad advice!  DH Gate is a Chinese knock off site with terrible reviews.  Etsy and Amazon are just alternate versions of eBay.  Never buy a dress unless you have actually tried it on in person.
You cannot possibly choose a dress by looking at pictures of anorexic models in tortured poses.  Those dresses look completely different on you.  Go shopping in a real bridal shop and try on a variety of styles.  Lace is very fashionable right now.  This is how you will really find your dream dress.   Stay open to other styles.  My daughter didn't want to even try on "the dress" because it wasn't on her list.  I insisted.  Thank you, Mommy!

missdelilah

@CMGragain: I'm always surprised when you have to tell people these things.  Can you just make a sticky somewhere please?  It's always sad to see ladies get their hopes up.

missdelilah

OP: Have you considered trying on regular length dresses with lace overlays and asking if the hem can be readjusted?  It's going to give you a ton more options.

CMGragain

missdelilah said:

@CMGragain: I'm always surprised when you have to tell people these things.  Can you just make a sticky somewhere please?  It's always sad to see ladies get their hopes up.

There are plenty of stickies about the Chinese knock-off web sites.  You have to read them before they are useful, and so many new brides don't bother.  No, I can't make stickies.  Only the Knot Gods can do that.

missdelilah

CMGragain said:

missdelilah said:

@CMGragain: I'm always surprised when you have to tell people these things.  Can you just make a sticky somewhere please?  It's always sad to see ladies get their hopes up.

There are plenty of stickies about the Chinese knock-off web sites.  You have to read them before they are useful, and so many new brides don't bother.  No, I can't make stickies.  Only the Knot Gods can do that.

That's a bit of a shame.  I did read something on TK about them because I had to convince my BMs to buy real dresses, but it was on the website, not in the forums.  

laceykeo

See... You ladies are just awesome.

I should probably have clarified in my OP... This is my perfect "minds eye" dress.

We'll be having an outdoor ceremony at a cabin on a lake in SW Iowa, with a maximum of about 15 people present, including FI, myself, photographer, officiant. As much as I want a "typical" wedding dress, I feel anything long, or OTT will be, well, OTT.
Whilst browsing I found the pictures I posted, and the vision just, clicked.

I am lucky enough to have a friend who is a talented seamstress, who has talked to me about making alterations as a gift, and has mentioned making my dress from a simple "base" dress.

Ultimately, what I was looking for, was a couple of pictures of what I'm aiming for in order to show her what I meant.

I will be going to salons to try on a few different dresses beforehand. Personally, I dislike the mermaid/trumpet-style dresses. I can't walk in them and just don't particularly like the way they look on me, however, I'm well aware that I could well change my mind entirely when trying on wedding dresses.

I will not be buying from Chinese knock-offs. I've seen enough threads on here alone to know that's a baaad plan.

Thank you ladies so much for taking the time to search/reply. There's a couple of options there that are pretty much exactly what I was trying to explain.

laceykeo

The bottom of this first dress @doeydo posted from loverthelabel is beautiful. The overall length and style is pretty much exactly what I was aiming for.

The second dress, posted by @Knottie9059457 is so pretty. I don't like the belt around the middle (easy fix). If I combine the overall shape/outline of the first dress with the materials/design of the second... Boom! Perfect.

Incidentally... What is that overlay material on that second dress?

Thanks again, ladies

laceykeo

Urgh. Love a mobile site. /sarcasm.

The two pics I posted just above, they look to me like two blank white squares.
If they didn't post, please let me know.

Meant to say also, LOVE the back on that second dress.

msuprincess04

The overlay looks like a light chiffon with applique. 

Knottie13820824

So I have to admit, this is not my first wedding. I did the whole bridal shop big deal thing the first time around & paid a FORTUNE for my dress and HATED the service I received! I am a little nervous about the fact that I ordered my dress "sight unseen", however, I did go to the shops to try on styles to determine what I felt gave me the style & fit that I desired. I also did A LOT of research on the sites that I was considering ordering from. I originally found my dress on Etsy for $650. I knew I wanted to change it to make it my OWN style anyway, so when I saw the SAME EXACT dress on a site through DH Gate for under $200 I took a chance. It ships in 3 days, I will let you know how it turns out!

misshart00

OP, serious question. You're having a small ceremony in Iowa even though a couple months ago, you were talking about not getting married for another ten years because you didn't want to uproot your kid? What happened?

PrettyGirlLost

misshart00 said:

OP, serious question. You're having a small ceremony in Iowa even though a couple months ago, you were talking about not getting married for another ten years because you didn't want to uproot your kid? What happened?

I was confused by this as well. . .

laceykeo

PrettyGirlLost said:

misshart00 said:

OP, serious question. You're having a small ceremony in Iowa even though a couple months ago, you were talking about not getting married for another ten years because you didn't want to uproot your kid? What happened?

I was confused by this as well. . .

***Boxesorlackthereof***

Fair question indeed, for anyone wondering and wanting to keep up with the saga.

His ex has been offered a promotion, and for her to accept this, she will need to move a few states over. This is approximately a 12 hour drive, or, a flight away. The current understanding is that if she accepts this job, his kids will be going with her, and spending the holidays with him. In which case, it makes little difference where he's living, and so we are now looking at him moving to the UK.
I haven't got involved in all the specifics. That's for him and his ex to sort out.

We are not currently "planning" our wedding, insofar as we have not discussed an actual date, have not met with vendors, nor arranged to, and will not be doing so until other details (such as living together, etc), are nailed down, and we've had a chance to actually be together for a while.

We are, however, "planning" in terms of discussing what sort of things we'd like/dislike, who we'd want present, what sort of ceremony/reception we'd like, etc.

If all goes as expected (and we're well aware that this is likely not going to be the case, however, things are starting to fall into place), we're looking at having our wedding late-2016, or mid-2017. This gives us time to relocate, sort out visa applications, and just be together for at least a year before getting married.
The location we're pretty much set on, although there have been weddings held there before, is not a big "weddingy" place. Dates during the times we have considered are often still available as little as two months out.

We're very open to the idea that several things could very much change between now and then, that's okay. Nothing has been set in stone in any way, this is all just general discussion for now.

No, we haven't lived together, haven't seen the way we handle different situations first hand, and so on. However, many people still do not live together beforehand, and we have discussed at length things like how we handle money, how we plan different things, how we handle different situations, etc.

So that's pretty much where we're at right now.

southernbelle0915

wrongsideoftheocean said:

PrettyGirlLost said:

misshart00 said:

OP, serious question. You're having a small ceremony in Iowa even though a couple months ago, you were talking about not getting married for another ten years because you didn't want to uproot your kid? What happened?

I was confused by this as well. . .

***Boxesorlackthereof***

Fair question indeed, for anyone wondering and wanting to keep up with the saga.

His ex has been offered a promotion, and for her to accept this, she will need to move a few states over. This is approximately a 12 hour drive, or, a flight away. The current understanding is that if she accepts this job, his kids will be going with her, and spending the holidays with him. In which case, it makes little difference where he's living, and so we are now looking at him moving to the UK.
I haven't got involved in all the specifics. That's for him and his ex to sort out.

We are not currently "planning" our wedding, insofar as we have not discussed an actual date, have not met with vendors, nor arranged to, and will not be doing so until other details (such as living together, etc), are nailed down, and we've had a chance to actually be together for a while.

We are, however, "planning" in terms of discussing what sort of things we'd like/dislike, who we'd want present, what sort of ceremony/reception we'd like, etc.

If all goes as expected (and we're well aware that this is likely not going to be the case, however, things are starting to fall into place), we're looking at having our wedding late-2016, or mid-2017. This gives us time to relocate, sort out visa applications, and just be together for at least a year before getting married.
The location we're pretty much set on, although there have been weddings held there before, is not a big "weddingy" place. Dates during the times we have considered are often still available as little as two months out.

We're very open to the idea that several things could very much change between now and then, that's okay. Nothing has been set in stone in any way, this is all just general discussion for now.

No, we haven't lived together, haven't seen the way we handle different situations first hand, and so on. However, many people still do not live together beforehand, and we have discussed at length things like how we handle money, how we plan different things, how we handle different situations, etc.

So that's pretty much where we're at right now.

FTR

So either way, one of you will be leaving your kid(s) behind. He's not trying/wanting to see his kids more than 1x per year?

laceykeo

I'm not quoting 'cause I'm on mobile and it makes the page ridiculously long.

FTR... For the record?
I'm not gonna be deleting or editing anything... The situation is what it is, and we're still working on it, I'm not ashamed of that...
We've come up with all kinds of crazy ways of making this work... I'm not ashamed of that either. We're not going to be acting on anything until it's been thoroughly explored.

With regard to what he's doing about seeing his kids, that's between him and his ex to work out the details. My input is that they are welcome to come over as often as they like/he can go back to see them as often as he'd like, and that's about as far into it as I need to go. As long as he and his kids are alright with the final arrangement, so am I.

I believe the discussion was holidays, so, summer, thanksgiving, Christmas, spring. They are discussing finances, as I understand it the option on the table at the moment is for her to pay for their summer flight, him to fly over for thanksgiving, and us pay the other two times. There was also talk of him flying over some other point in the year (I think the kids have an additional long weekend somewhere? I got lost on the details).

This is the currently returned option on the table. He is currently talking things through with the ex, considering how he feels about not seeing his kids for maybe two months at a time, and if he can deal with that.
Ultimately, if she's going with her promotion offer, that's how it'll pan out anyway.

If she rejects the offer because reasons, we will be back to square one, which is becoming common ground, and see where we go next.

The current back up plan is that he comes here for three months, goes back, three months later I go there for three months, come back, and so on.
If this is how it is, we won't be getting married for quite a bit longer than two-three years.

All we're trying to do is make the best of an awkward situation.
Every way we turn, there's another road block, and that's okay... Just... Dealing with it each day as it comes.

Knottie13820824

UPDATE!!! My dress arrived today, from DH Gate, and I LOVE it!! Took it to my seamstress for help trying it on & the fit is PERFECT! Cant wait to start the renovation!

PrettyGirlLost

Knottie13820824 said:

UPDATE!!! My dress arrived today, from DH Gate, and I LOVE it!! Took it to my seamstress for help trying it on & the fit is PERFECT! Cant wait to start the renovation!

So is that a Pnina knockoff?

Just some constructive feedback, but that line of solid fabric across your butt looks really awkward.  I get that they couldn't extend the Illusion all the way down or else it would look like your bare ass was peaking through, but the execution of the solid fabric needs work.