I am blown away!

JennyColada

I went to my final dress fitting with my mom today. No big deal, but it was nice to spend time with her.

While we were sitting my mom reaches in her purse and hands me a tiny golden ring. It was the first piece of "real" jewelry that she ever bought herself and she bought it when she first moved out to California (35 years ago!). The ring is very simple, but I think it's beautiful and I'm so in awe of how thoughtful my mother was to give this to me. We both ended up crying and hugging.

I'm also excited to wear it on my wedding day as my "something old"!

So in this topic...share sweet things about our moms! (Or dads!)

JCbride2015

That is really beautiful.  How sweet.

Jells2dot0

What an awesome gift!!!

I have to brag on my mom for being out here with me during my last treatment. It has to be so hard to watch your adult child be so sick. She may drive me BSC, but I am so lucky to have her. 

chibiyui

That ring is very pretty.

lightningsnow

That ring is beautiful and your story is so sweet.

My parents are awesome. When I was 13 years old, I was molested by my cousin's husband. For almost a year, I didn't tell anyone because I pretty much pushed it out of my mind. When I told my parents, not only did they believe me, they made sure to help me out with dealing with the emotional trauma. My father called the guy on the phone and I have never seen him so angry.

If I didn't have the support from them during the entire process of pressing charges and trying my hardest to bring him to justice, I'm not sure where I would be now. We may have our fights but they will always love me.

PDQ

wandajune6

That's so sweet!

I mentioned to my mom that I hired a driver to get me and any BMs from the hotel to the venue. She got upset- she and my dad want to take me. I know that they've been worried about managing so many houseguests so I was trying not to create headaches. I'm so thrilled that my mom - and maybe dad- will be getting me to my wedding!

missdelilah

That is really sweet.  

Not like my dad's not great or anything, but he's more the practical gesture kind of dad, not the sweet gesture kind.  He's helped me out throughout most of my adult life.  Paid for my education, given me money when I was unemployed, let's me spend unlimited holidays at his place (I realize that most adults don't want to spend their holidays with their parents, but I enjoy the odd few weeks, or three months, in Thailand), and mostly, just puts up with me, which is a hard ask at times, as I have sensory issues and fly off the handle really easily.  

banana468

That is really sweet of your mom.

DH'S paternity leave ended and he had been back to work since Monday. My mom has driven an hour each way to be with me and help me with Chiquito every day this week!

afox007

When I was at the house this weekend my daddy was sitting on the steps with me and FI watching the kids in the pool. My dad leaned over and said he was impressed with how great a kid FSS is and told me he couldn't have done a better job. I cried. 

mrscaty

My dad likes to play it off like my wedding is no big deal (he frequently jokes that he won't be there on the big day) but every time I see him, the first thing he says is " weeks left." He's not an overly emotional person so it's nice to know he cares.

jenna8984

That is so sweet!! My dad gave my mom a necklace back before they were even engaged 36 years ago and I word that on my wedding day. She offered me to keep it but I said no I couldn't. Then my dad surprised me by paying the reception tab!! It was only 25 people but still I didn't expect him to do that!

larrygaga

My mom keeps doing the no fun work for the wedding. Like hotel blocking and making appointments for dress shopping for me. She just calls me and tells me what is happening and it's pretty awesome. She says she doesn't want me to be stressed because of FMIL so she's trying to take off as much unpleasant stuff as possible. If anyone is going to make sure I have a good day, it's my mama.  She also still lets me call her when I'm sick to complain, and still sends food home with me when I visit.

My dad is pretty awesome too. I'm his first daughter to be married that isn't a step daughter, so he is pretty stricken and has been acting really weird. He's happy but just strange right now.

Out of all the kids they have combined, they both find a ton of special love for each one of us. 

climbingsingle

Aww! That's so sweet! (and it totally made me tear up. I'm a total mush lately)

JennyColada

I'm loving reading this topic.

ShesSoCold

Okay I'm crying.

Six weeks before my DW, my mom was diagnosed with stage 4 pancreatic cancer. She didn't even want to acknowledge it until after the wedding. When she understood that this is now or never - she needed to start chemo immediately if she wanted treatment. When she decided not to do treatment at all, she was so sad when we cancelled the wedding. We didn't want to take the chance of her not being able to travel or not be there at all. We planned a new wedding at home and it was fantastic. Mom and I were on our way home from picking up my dress and I asked her how she felt - emotionally - about her "death sentence" (her words). She told me she'd worry about that on Monday (wedding was on a Sunday). 

And on Thursday, at her wake, my MIL - who is typically the biggest bitch - gave me a picture that she took of my mom during the wedding ceremony. She's so happy and just glowing - you would have thought she was the bride. 

So I have a lifetime of memories of my own wonderful mother and hopefully my MIL is getting off her narcissistic high horse to be a real human being.  

emmaaa

That is so sweet!

I really have to brag on my dad for a minute. He has always been the most special and important person in my life. When him and my mom divorced 6 years ago, he had a hard time dealing with it. He became an alcoholic. That man was not the man I grew up knowing. Well, a year and a half ago, he was sent to the hospital and we found out (not surprisingly) that he had serosis (spelling) of the liver and he would die if he didn't quit drinking. He quit that day. He's been sober 1.5 years now. The man I see now, is my dad. He's the man I remember. He is the man I want to be a Grandfather to my future children.

I went by a saw him Monday. FI and I were both exhausted from my BFF's wedding that Saturday. He knew I was tired and just "down." I got home the next day from work and there was a grocery bag on my door. My dad had bought me two candles (we both love candles) and the sweetest card just to say he was thinking of me. 

JCbride2015

@ShesSoCold I'm so sorry to hear about your mom.  I remember your post about your wedding and how beautiful, glowing, and happy she looked.  

ShesSoCold

@JCbride2015 - thank you. It's so hard but I'm glad we got to have such great memories together. 

@emmaaa - I understand completely. My mother was a recovering alcoholic and knowing she was dying brought up those "what if" life questions for her. About a month before she died, I told her that I forgave her for the years of drinking the very day she stopped. She was the mother I had known and missed and I never held it against her. We cried together and it sucks that it took her dying to talk about these things, but it was nice for everyone to get if off our chests. 

birdybride2014

@emmaaa congrats on the 1.5 years sober for your father. My dad recently celebrated his 4 years sober after a lifetime of struggling as an alcoholic. It took facing death from liver failure to get my dad to understand that he could no longer live the life he was used to anymore.

I held his drinking against him for 19 years and am happy to say that as soon as he stopped drinking I was able to let go of allllll of the anger I had ever had and we haven't looked back.

emmaaa

@ShesSoCold and @birdybride2014 Thank y'all! I'm fortunate that for most of my life, my dad was not an alcoholic. I held it against him big time and it has felt good to forgive him. Congratulations to your dad on his recovery as well! And also, I'm so sorry about your mom, but I'm glad you were able to make peace before she passed.

ShesSoCold

emmaaa said:

@ShesSoCold and @birdybride2014 Thank y'all! I'm fortunate that for most of my life, my dad was not an alcoholic. I held it against him big time and it has felt good to forgive him. Congratulations to your dad on his recovery as well! And also, I'm so sorry about your mom, but I'm glad you were able to make peace before she passed.

Thanks @emmaaa! She'd been sober for 7 years and our relationship was great - we had just never discussed it. I'm glad both you and your father are in a good place and have moved on.

missdelilah

@ShesSoCold That's such a bittersweet story.  My heart really goes out to you.  I know how difficult it is to lose your mother, especially when it happens so quickly.  

mrscomposer

When my sister and I were each 13 (I'm 3.5 years older), my dad gave us each a heart pendant on a necklace to symbolize us and how he's watching over our hearts.  In return, we both gave him a key pendant because he has 'the key to our hearts'. 

When my sister was married in August, and when I get married in October, part of the welcome to the family bit from our side is Dad giving the key to our husbands, so that they can watch over our hearts now.

ShesSoCold

missdelilah said:

@ShesSoCold That's such a bittersweet story.  My heart really goes out to you.  I know how difficult it is to lose your mother, especially when it happens so quickly.  

Thank you! I'm sorry that you've been through the same thing.  

birdybride2014

@jsangel1018 holy cow you just made me tear up (I've been very emotional this week). That is one of the sweetest things ever

Inkdancer

My adoption officially went through on the first of May. When we got together to celebrate, Dad gave me a scarf of the family tartan for my new name, and made me an Origami Owl pendant of things that he associates with me, which was absolutely adorable and sweet.