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Getting addresses

snarky_girlsnarky_girl
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I'm supposed to be working but really not in the mood. So I'll share my current frustration ... 
Anyone else having trouble getting mailing addresses from people so that you can even send them the invitation?? OMG. It's like I'm asking for their social security numbers!! And the worst ones are people I know are going to be attending. They keep telling me things like "I can't wait to see the invitations!" or "When are you sending out invitations? You HAVE to send me one!" I just nicely (which is hard for me mind you) tell them to send me their address in an email and I'll do that. Then I remind them (again) nicely I sent them an email three weeks ago asking for just that. Sometimes it works. What I really want to say in my sarcastic manner is "Hey spaz -- check your email and RESPOND - I already have asked you for that information. TWICE!!"
My goal this week is to hunt down the last 17 of them and get them input into the computer. Not exactly the fun wedding stuff but it necessary!
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  • sarahmarietmsarahmarietm member
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    edited December 2011
    I know you pain girl.
    It was like pulling teeth to get some of the addresses, esp. from the people who I KNEW would be offended if they didn't receive one.   Funny how that works.  I still need to take my invites for family/friends down to the post office....ugh.  I wish I had the list of addresses that I needed for work friends, but my HR has been slammed with stuff to do, and hasn't had the time.....very frustrating. 

    In other news, I'm so tired of working!!  I'm on a 6 day week, with 1 day off tomorrow, and then probably working another 8 in a row.  I have 48+ hours on this schedule.  The paycheck is going to be SWWWEEEEEEEETTTTT but at what price? Oh, just my sanity.
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  • snarky_girlsnarky_girl
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_oregon_getting-addresses?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:119Discussion:1149e136-c8d2-4784-a5e6-57aee6333435Post:dfc1f97a-4003-4867-9c9a-c01460a4dc6e">Re: Getting addresses</a>:
    [QUOTE] In other news, I'm so tired of working!!  I'm on a 6 day week, with 1 day off tomorrow, and then probably working another 8 in a row.  I have 48+ hours on this schedule.  The paycheck is going to be SWWWEEEEEEEETTTTT but at what price? Oh, just my sanity.
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    <div>LOL ... I hear you. I worked four days in a row split shifts (my normal shift is 6 a.m. to 3 p.m. Mon-Fri - which I LOVE) last week, then on Saturday for a few hours and another few on Sunday. Dang graduations. Today and tomorrow are splts again (but I'm trying to change Tuesday if my boss will let me!) and Friday I've got a graduation at 7 p.m. and have to come back and write it before I can go home that night. GRRRR! Throw in three more graduations to prepare for this weekend and I'm not loving the job at this moment. What I will be loving -- since we don't get overtime these days -- is the fact that I'm going to be off June 24 and 25 and get paid as if I'm there working!! Comp time ain't so bad sometimes!!</div><div>
    </div><div>BTW -- I skipped HR for addresses. Our guy is totally clueless. I just emailed all my coworkers at their work address (apologized for that in the email!) and many of them got right back to me. It was great. I'm sorry you're going through what I am. It's so frustrating. I vow to always respond promptly from now on to any RSVPs I receive in the future! <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-smile.gif" border="0" alt="Smile" title="Smile" /></div><div>
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  • sarahmarietmsarahmarietm member
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    edited December 2011
    HR was the biggest waste of time, EVER.  According to her, it is illegal for her to give me the addresses, as it's a breech of privacy.  Which, fine, whatever, I understand.  But why couldn't she have told me that a WEEK ago when I gave her the list to begin with?  No one expect deptartment managers really have e-mail, so getting addresses that way is a lost cause.  At this point, FI and I decided we'll just go around and discreetly hand them out....which is soooooooo not what I wanted to do, because it reminds me of inviting someone to a freakin' birthday party.  But again, these people are super laid back, as is the wedding, so I think the only one who will be bothered by it is me. :/
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  • colstacolsta
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    edited December 2011
    I just found out that my FI gve me an old address for one of his uncles. He asked my FILs when the wedding was and then they realized that invitations had been sent but they hadn't gotten one. Oops.

    Also, for some people (cousins) if they didn't get me an address, I didn't send an invitation. Seems mean, but they were courtesy invites anyways since they already told me they couldn't make it (out of the country for the summer).
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  • kat_hikat_hi
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    edited December 2011
    I havent been on here for a long time cause it wad dead... happy to see folks on here again!

    Also my current frustration!  FI's mom insisted we invite some extra people which really made me mad since I'm paying for the wedding.  FI sided with her saying they were people who should come (even though i never met one couple....).  So i said fine, but I dont have their addresses. I told FI to email her for them. she didnt get back to us right away.  Finally we went over there since she's finishing my dress and it was time for another fitting. She gave FI the addresses of most the people, but still didnt even have a couple of people she insisted we invite (what? how close are you to these folks?)  Then gave me a huge list of people I should send invites to "if you have extra because they'd like to know you're getting married".  I'm not inviting random people on the off change they actually show up!
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  • snarky_girlsnarky_girl
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    edited December 2011
    Oh god Kat .. that sounds horrible. Inviting people they don't really seems to be friends with is kind of stupid to me. And to you to it sounds like!!

    I'm right now counting my lucky stars that my parents have not insisted on having me invite people to the wedding! My FI invited several of his parents friends (and they didn't ask him to - he just did!)  but my parents didn't say anything. Now I'm thinking I should ask. We're paying for most everything and having a casual BBQ so really what's a few more burgers or dogs at this point? Smile

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  • DramaGeekDramaGeek member
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    edited December 2011
    I remember that horrible frustation.  Right now I'm pissed at my MIL and remembering this pisses me off even more...she told H that she thought she'd just put an invite up on the bulletin board at church.  We said a big hell to the eff no to that and she got all upset, saying there were people at their church who would want to be there.  We told her that was nice, but if we hadn't thought to invite them, it wasn't important to us that they be there, and that was what mattered.  She started naming all these people that H didn't even know and got really mad when we refused to invite them.  Meanwhile, my parents were the ones footing the bill!

    Ah, the joys of wedding planning.  I am so glad that is behind us.
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  • snarky_girlsnarky_girl
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_oregon_getting-addresses?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:119Discussion:1149e136-c8d2-4784-a5e6-57aee6333435Post:5e4b5aa6-f2fa-4ac1-b281-42091ef8a854">Re: Getting addresses</a>:
    [QUOTE] We said a big hell to the eff no to that and she got all upset, saying there were people at their church who would want to be there.  We told her that was nice, but if we hadn't thought to invite them, it wasn't important to us that they be there, and that was what mattered.Posted by DramaGeek[/QUOTE]

    <div>That just cracked me up!! I burst out laughing at my desk and the coworkers are like 'WTF?" Again .. I say thank god our families are being reasonable. Or did I just jinx us by saying that??<img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-smile.gif" border="0" alt="Smile" title="Smile" /></div>
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  • nannabug42nannabug42
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    edited December 2011
    At least your fiance/husband stood up with you! You hear about all these stories where the guy just won't stand up to his mom/family, even if he agrees with the girl. Seriously has to be frustrating.

    The church bulletin board? Are you kidding?! Talk about having no idea how many would show up
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