OK, Just leaving this here to vent but....
We just had a groomsman drop out. I know things come up, but I haven't felt my blood boil like this...ever. This is a good friend of my FI, however, FI has always described him as a very flakey and unreliable person who can never commit. I am starting to see why he says this. Ex-GM was the first to get his measurements for the tux, and would constantly post on my FB posts on how excited he was to come to the wedding. Only thing was, he had yet to book a hotel room, and had yet to book a flight.
It only came a few days ago when I KNEW something was up, when we have yet to receive his RSVP, and I messaged him just asking what he would like to eat - that he wouldnt have to send the RSVP back if he were to just TELL me what he wanted to eat, as we are having plated dinner. No response. Thanks to Facebook's wonderful timestamps of when you can see when someone has read your message, it was obvious he was avoided the subject. We didnt hear back from him a few days after several calls from FI and I from FB. He finally gave FI a call around 2 in the morning, leaving a voicemail says, "Hey, bad news - give me a call."
He dropped out, citing his AC broke, cost over 4K and was unable to come anymore. Like I said, I know things come up but this sounds HIGHLY like a BS excuse. Especially since he is not boasting on FB that he is on vacation with his family. He never got a hotel, he never got a flight. Obviously he NEVER intended on coming, and was just playing with us until telling us less than a moth before the wedding! I'm sorry but WHO DOES THAT. I am extremely thankful that we were able to quickly contact one of FI other friends, who graciously accepted to take Ex-GM's place in the wedding party. But it doesnt help how angry I feel, and that we now have a useless customized gift for Ex-GM, and have to get a whole new gift for our new GM. I hope none of you will have to go through this, because it has been a little piece of hell - and as if I wasnt already stressed enough!
