So, my future in-laws had their 40th anniversary in May. My soon-to-be mother in-law has requested a special song/dance during our reception for them. I feel that since their anniversary is no where near our wedding date (Oct. 18 this year) and it is our day I can say no. But in saving hurt feelings and keeping the peace, I feel like I should say yes.
Also, if I say no, what should be a tactful way to save face? I don't want to come off as the bad guy, but she does try to steal the stage from me at a lot of events and for this I feel like she should back off. We are essentially paying for the wedding ourselves, so its not like they need recognition for that.