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My man is deployed
Hi All,
I am not yet engaged but started talking about marriage with my man. He however has been deployed for a month now and it is super hard for me and him. He is handling it better then me of course because he has done this before. I have not. I have been in a long distance relationship before but I got to see him on skype and everything and this relationship is way different. I can only talk to my man now on the phone and through letters. We are also in a newer relationship. We have been together 2 months and met 3 1/2 months ago. I know it is soon to talk marriage but we are both older and have been engaged before ect and know what we are looking for. Any help from Army girlfriends on how to make this time go by sooner! We are looking at a 9month deployment.. 8 months to go. We do not plan on getting engaged right when he returns just looking for ways on how to make this time go by quick, while he is away. Thank you!
I am not yet engaged but started talking about marriage with my man. He however has been deployed for a month now and it is super hard for me and him. He is handling it better then me of course because he has done this before. I have not. I have been in a long distance relationship before but I got to see him on skype and everything and this relationship is way different. I can only talk to my man now on the phone and through letters. We are also in a newer relationship. We have been together 2 months and met 3 1/2 months ago. I know it is soon to talk marriage but we are both older and have been engaged before ect and know what we are looking for. Any help from Army girlfriends on how to make this time go by sooner! We are looking at a 9month deployment.. 8 months to go. We do not plan on getting engaged right when he returns just looking for ways on how to make this time go by quick, while he is away. Thank you!
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Re: My man is deployed
Thankfully this hasn't happened yet in our relationship but we did have to be apart for training for over 30 days.. nothing like deployment. But I would pray for him daily and write letters.. also care packages are great.... ask if he needs/want's anything. Open when letters are awesome. The primary thing is to stay faithful. The service of our Country is a huge thing and we as Girlfriends, Wives, and Fiancee's is to support and serve alongside/ or alongwayaway!! Which is a pain in the butt. But letters (save them) Emails, and care packages will hopefully get you through. Maybe have him write 10 things to encourage you and you can do the same for him. and then read that when you need some stregenth. Hang out with other friends who have either been in the same position as you or are married and missing their hubby.
Just stay strong!!
Kris
Thank you
Hi. I feel you - I dated my FI for 3 months, then he got his orders to go to Afghanistan. He asked me to wait for him. 5 months after we started dating, he left. The leaving part was the worst for me, but I've always been really independent so daily living was okay. I think the fact that we had to email/FB message/Skype really made us get to know each other while he was gone. I had to wait 7 months for his R&R, but I think about 7 months into dating we started talking marriage. He proposed on R&R, 1 year and a day after our first date.
They LOVE care packages! Especially homemade cookies - he would share with his coworkers and they all appreciated it.
It's hard, but it's so easy to be proud of them and it's totally worth the wait to get them back. Picking him up at the airport was the best thing ever.
OP, it's too soon to talk about marriage. I don't care how old you are. Deployment makes people get oddly romantic and rush things. I use separations to do the stuff that I want to do. When H was deployed, I worked more and made more $$. When I was gone after I joined, he watched a lot of How it's Made.
The best advice I have is keep busy, find a hobby things that interest you and do that. Do things you love and enjoy time with yourself. Stay faithful and most of all stay positive, the time will go by fast and if it's meant to be it will be. it will be worth the wait:)