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Need help with how to correct an error in shower invite.

My nephew is getting married on 11/15. This was decided very quickly. The brides friends had originally planned to host a shower at a particular venue, but the bride did not want to have it there. She and her father had booked another venue. This is where I enter the picture. She is telling my sister that she is very unhappy with the plans the other women are making for her shower and she does not want them to host the shower. I tell my sister that I would be happy to host the shower. So I take over. I start communicating with the bride. All I ask for was the name and address of the venue and ask for names and addresses of the guest that she wanted to invite. I received the info and ordered the invites. I received them and mailed them out to the guests yesterday. Today, my sister calls me and informs me that the venue name and address is incorrect. The bride gave me the name and address of the original venue. How do I correct this? Print another invitation with the correct information and put a note on it (if so, how should it read?), call everyone, etc. I am so embarrassed and just sick to my stomach. It is a huge shower since she does not really have time for multiple showers and she did not want a tea. So I mailed out 60 invites. :( Any ideas on how to tactfully correct this situation?

Re: Need help with how to correct an error in shower invite.

  • PnkBride said:
    My nephew is getting married on 11/15. This was decided very quickly. The brides friends had originally planned to host a shower at a particular venue, but the bride did not want to have it there. She and her father had booked another venue. This is where I enter the picture. She is telling my sister that she is very unhappy with the plans the other women are making for her shower and she does not want them to host the shower. I tell my sister that I would be happy to host the shower. So I take over. I start communicating with the bride. All I ask for was the name and address of the venue and ask for names and addresses of the guest that she wanted to invite. I received the info and ordered the invites. I received them and mailed them out to the guests yesterday. Today, my sister calls me and informs me that the venue name and address is incorrect. The bride gave me the name and address of the original venue. How do I correct this? Print another invitation with the correct information and put a note on it (if so, how should it read?), call everyone, etc. I am so embarrassed and just sick to my stomach. It is a huge shower since she does not really have time for multiple showers and she did not want a tea. So I mailed out 60 invites. :( Any ideas on how to tactfully correct this situation?
    I would mail a note to each person giving them the correct venue name. 
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    holyguacamole79
  • I would send a new note (or email if you prefer) so that people have something physical to remind them. It would be nice to call and give them a heads up also, but I'm not going to remember an address unless I have physical evidence.
    levioosa
  • Mail another invitation and as you receive rsvps reiterate the location change and correct information.
    :kiss: ~xoxo~ :kiss:

  • I threw a big BBQ at my house one summer.  About a week after invites went out, I learned that the route I told half my guests to take in the directions were going to be wrong since a railroad crossing was going to be closed for repairs.  So I created a new directions card and mailed them to all the guests I told to travel that way.  I made sure at the top of the new card, the name of the event was clear, so people knew what the random directions card was for.  

    And don't feel bad about this!  It's a simple mistake that can be easily fixed!
  • Have some postcards made up with the correct venue information and directions. Get them out asap. I would've recommended new invitations, but I'm afraid guests will just think they're receiving duplicates and not pay attention to new info.

    Don't feel bad about it. This was the brides error.

                       
  • Woah, this bride has some gall.  Ditto PPs.  Don't offer to do anything for her in the future.  She sounds like a peach.  


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  • Wait, so... the bride didn't want the shower to be held at the original venue, so they switched it to an alternate venue, and then when you asked the bride for the name/address of the venue for the invitations, she gave you the info about the original venue where she DIDN'T WANT THE SHOWER HELD? I find this sketchy and hard to believe. How/why would she make that mistake, when she didn't want the shower held there in the first place and chose an alternate venue? Are you sure your sister isn't trying to pull a fast one? I know I probably sound suspicious but this whole story sounds really weird to me.
  • So someone was nice enough to offer to host a shower for this bride, and rather than being grateful that someone is nice enough to throw any sort of present giving party in her honor, she told them where they picked wasn't good enough and essentially "fired" them?
    ummmmmm
    And then you are just expected to host and pay for a party you don't even get to plan?


    what? You're more generous than I am. I'd just back away slowly. And then run. This girl sounds like a treasure...
    [Deleted User]
  • Thank you all for your help. I am having a postcard with the correct location printed and hoping to have them in the mail by this Wednesday.
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